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Performance Is a Side Effect - 3rd Conversation Dr. Kapil Gupta

What if everything you've been told about performance psychology is wrong? In our latest episode of Just Kickin' It, Brian and Josh sit down with Dr. Kapil Gupta — advisor to professional athletes, CEOs, and performing artists — for one of the most thought-provoking conversations we've ever had. Kapil doesn't prescribe. He doesn't hand out frameworks, four-step processes, or the three Cs. He does something far more uncomfortable: he tells the truth. Some of what he shares will challenge everything you think you know about coaching, confidence, and performance: → Why thought is the enemy of elite performance — and what actually replaces it→ Why sports psychology's answer to "thinking problems" is... more thinking (and why that makes everything worse)→ Why prescriptions — even correct ones — destroy performance→ Why meditation as we know it is largely a social performance, not a path to transformation→ Why chasing results (the World Cup, the Super Bowl, the championship) will never fill the hole you're hoping it will This isn't a comfortable listen. It's designed to make you stop, question, and look in the mirror. As Kapil puts it: "Performance is not a goal. It is a side effect." If you've ever had an athlete tell you they lack confidence, or watched every tool in your toolbox fail to move the needle — this episode is for you. Just Kickin' It — built to push ideas forward.

The Interference — Dr. Kapil Gupta on Why Coaching Might Be the Problem

What if the biggest obstacle to greatness isn't a lack of information — but too much of it? In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Kapil Gupta for a raw, unfiltered exploration of coaching, human potential, and the relentless pursuit of greatness. Dr. Gupta challenges nearly everything we take for granted about how athletes are developed — from the obsession with instruction and certifications to the illusion that more coaching equals more growth. We dig into why true greatness is rare, why great teachers are even rarer, and why the most important question a coach can ask has nothing to do with technique. We also explore freedom from the mind, the interference of good and bad labels in sport, the role of suffering and seriousness in human achievement, and why life — not your coach — is your most unforgiving teacher. If you've ever questioned whether more information is actually making athletes better, this episode will challenge you to think differently about what coaching really is — and what it should never be.

Kapil Gupta: Why Coaches Are Teaching Athletes to Think Too Much

In this powerful first installment of a three-part series, joins the Just Kickin’ It Podcast for a conversation that challenges many of the foundational ideas surrounding coaching, confidence, mindset, and performance psychology. Kapil explains why thought may actually interfere with elite performance, why prescriptions and “mental skills” often make athletes worse, and why greatness may come less from adding more techniques and more from removing the interference that blocks instinct, rhythm, and freedom. The discussion dives into: * Why overthinking destroys performance * The illusion of confidence-building techniques * Why athletes perform best in states of “no thought” * The problem with prescriptions in coaching and psychology * Meditation, mindfulness, and the pursuit of performance * Why performance is a side effect — not the goal * The difference between sincerity and self-improvement theater * Freedom, identity, pressure, and the human being behind the athlete This episode is not a tactical conversation about systems or drills. It is a deep exploration into the nature of performance itself and the truths many coaches never stop long enough to question. Part 1 of a special 3-part series with Kapil Gupta. https://www.kapilguptamd.com/

“High Performance Isn’t a Feeling—It’s a Framework”

In this episode of Just Kickin’ It, we sit down with leading sports psychologist Dan Abrahams to unpack what it truly means to perform under pressure. This conversation goes far beyond surface-level “confidence” and mindset clichés. Dan introduces a clear, actionable mental framework built around attention, intensity, and intent—and explains why most athletes and coaches misunderstand what mental performance actually is. We dive into: * The difference between mental health, wellbeing, and performance psychology * Why today’s athletes are experiencing more pressure—and how language is shaping it * How coaches can identify what players are really dealing with * The power of match scripts, game face, and controlling your response—not your thoughts * Why high performance isn’t about feeling good… it’s about executing actions under pressure If you’re a coach, athlete, or leader trying to build consistency in high-stakes moments, this episode will challenge how you think—and give you tools you can apply immediately. This is more than mindset. This is a system for competing when it matters most. Questions or information on podcasts or other content reach out at: justkickinitmedia@gmail.com

- *The Brain Is Trainable — Here's How | Dan Abrahams Relaunch

Before we dive into Dan Abrahams' latest book Compete, which will be released soon, we're bringing back one of our most impactful early conversations — the one that started it all. Dan Abrahams is a leading sports psychologist who has worked with Premier League clubs including West Ham and Fulham, and has spent over 15 years embedded in the football world at every level. He's also the author of Soccer Tough, Soccer Tough 2, and Soccer Brain. In this foundational episode, Dan breaks down what it really means to develop a mental game in soccer — from why he believes football is fundamentally a game of mindset, to practical tools coaches and players can use right now. We cover: * The "Three M's" — Mood, Motivation, and Movement — and why managing them is non-negotiable * What mental toughness actually means (hint: it's simpler than you think) * The Match Script technique — giving players 1–3 controllable tasks to come back to under pressure * Game Face — how to help players build an identity on the pitch using key words and model players * Why coaches need to be tolerant on outcome and tough on process * Body language as a performance weapon, not just an aesthetic This episode sets the stage for the upcoming deep dive into Compete. If you haven't heard this one yet, now is the perfect time before the release of our new conversation later next week.