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Episode 61: When You Stop Spiraling

Many adults are walking around with grown-up responsibilities but still reacting from emotional patterns that were formed years ago. In this episode, Emily explores the difference between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood—not as a judgment, but as an opportunity for awareness. Emotional childhood often sounds like: * This shouldn't be happening. * They shouldn't act that way. * Someone needs to fix this. * I can't feel okay until they change. Emotional adulthood sounds like: * I don't like this, but I can handle it. * I can feel disappointment without falling apart. * Other people are allowed to be themselves. * I am responsible for how I respond. You'll learn how emotional maturity isn't about becoming unemotional. It's about developing the capacity to experience life without making every challenge mean something has gone wrong. Questions to Consider: * Where are you waiting for someone else to change before you allow yourself peace? * What emotion are you currently resisting? * What would emotional adulthood look like in your life this week? Favorite Quote from the Episode: "Emotional adulthood begins when we stop asking life to be easier and start becoming stronger in how we meet it."

Episode 60: Unraveling Thought Errors and Limiting Beliefs

Podcast Notes Podcast Title: This Life of Ours Host Name: Emily B. Episode Title: Unraveling Thought Errors and Limiting Beliefs Episode Overview: In this episode of "This Life of Ours," host Emily B., a life coach and Vermont hobby farmer, delves into the concept of thought errors and how they morph into limiting beliefs that hold us back. Using a humorous and personal anecdote about tuna nachos, Emily illustrates how our minds can create stories that feel true but aren't necessarily factual. The episode explores the significance of distinguishing between fact and story, and how reframing our thoughts can lead to personal growth and more aligned actions. Key Concepts: Thought Errors and Limiting Beliefs: Understanding how erroneous thoughts can become deeply ingrained beliefs that limit potential. Fact vs. Story: Differentiating between objective facts and the subjective stories we tell ourselves. Mindset Shifts: Recognizing when a belief doesn't serve us and being open to changing it. Integration of Life and Work: The importance of merging personal life and professional responsibilities to achieve balance. Actionable Insights: Practice identifying thought errors by examining areas of friction or resistance in your life. Challenge your limiting beliefs by asking whether they are truly factual or simply stories you've accepted. Experiment with merging different aspects of your life, such as work and personal interests, to create a more holistic approach to daily activities. Embrace new experiences and be open to learning from them, even if they initially seem daunting or unfamiliar. Listener Challenge: Reflect on a belief you hold that might actually be a story rather than a fact. Write it down and ask yourself: Is this truly factual? How might my life change if I viewed this differently? Connect With Us: Stay connected with Emily B. and explore more insightful content by visiting www.birchandstonecoaching.com. Discover full episode transcripts and learn about our team of coaches dedicated to supporting your growth journey. Share Our Podcast: If you found value in this episode, please share it with friends or leave a review. Your support helps others find this space and join our community. Subscribe to "This Life of Ours" on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube for real conversations, heartfelt insights, and everyday coaching.

Episode 59: Unlock Your Emotional Orbit

Episode 59: Unlock Your Emotional Orbit Overview In this episode of "This Life of Ours," Coach Emily B. delves into the concept of emotional orbit, exploring how our emotional habits shape our relationships, energy, and overall emotional atmosphere. She discusses how many people unintentionally choose and practice misery through emotional rehearsal, often without realizing it, and how this practice affects their emotional identity. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing the emotions we bring into our environments and how to create a more positive emotional home. Key Concepts • Emotional Orbit: The concept that our habitual emotional states influence our everyday experiences and relationships. • Emotional Rehearsal: The repeated practice of certain emotional responses that reinforce a negative identity. • Emotional Identity: How repeated emotional patterns become part of who we are perceived to be. • Reticular Activating System (RAS): A part of the brain that filters information and influences what we notice based on our focus. Actionable Insights 1. Self-Reflection: Ask yourself which emotions you consistently bring into a room and consider how you contribute to the emotional temperature. 2. Practice Gratitude: Shift your focus from frustration to gratitude, creativity, and connection to rewire your brain for positivity. 3. Emotional Contribution: Consider what energy you are contributing to your environment rather than only drawing energy from it. 4. Building Positive Connections: Foster connections over growth and possibilities rather than misery and complaints. Listener Challenge Reflect on the following questions: • What lights you up and energizes you? • What emotional state do you want to bring into your life and relationships? • How can you contribute positively to the emotional atmosphere around you? Connect With Us If today's episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review to help others find this space. You can find full episode transcripts and learn more about our team of coaches at www.birchandstonecoaching.com. Until next time, stay rooted, stay resilient, and keep rising. This life of ours is worth showing up for.

When Hesitation Becomes a Habit, Episode 58

Episode 58: When Hesitation Becomes a Habit Podcast: This Life is Ours Host: Coach Emily B. Episode Title: When Hesitation Becomes a Habit Release Date: 5/15/2026 Episode Overview In this empowering episode of This Life is Ours, Coach Emily B. dives into the topic of hesitation and the cost it can have on our lives. She challenges the common belief that one must feel ready or confident before taking action. Instead, she emphasizes the importance of movement and taking steps, even while feeling uncertain or uncomfortable. This episode is a call to stop waiting for the perfect moment and to start practicing willingness to act despite fear and doubt. Key Concepts * The Illusion of Readiness: Many people believe they need to feel confident before making changes in their lives. Coach Emily B. debunks this myth, asserting that confidence is built through action, not the other way around. * The Cost of Hesitation: Waiting for certainty often leads to a smaller life confined by fear of failure, judgment, and regret. Instead of waiting, we need to take action to experience growth and expansion. * Breaking Out of Preparation Mode: Particularly for women, there is a tendency to live in a constant state of planning without execution. Coach Emily encourages listeners to recognize this pattern and challenge it. * The Power of Small Steps: Change doesn't happen overnight. Coach Emily highlights the importance of taking small, repeatable actions that build courage and create lasting change. * Reframing Fear: Instead of asking "What if I fail?" consider "What if I learn that I can survive being uncomfortable?" This shift in perspective can lead to growth and resilience. Actionable Insights * Zoom Out: Imagine yourself a year from now, having stopped hesitating and started making decisions more swiftly. How different would your life look if you embraced action over fear? * Practice Willingness: Instead of waiting to feel ready, practice being willing to take the next step. This could mean having a difficult conversation, setting boundaries, or simply allowing yourself to try something new. * Stay Curious: Avoid jumping into commitments and stay open to exploration. Confidence is built through evidence, which comes from taking action, not from endless preparation. Listener Challenge This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own lives and identify areas where they might be hesitating. What small action can you take today to move closer to the life you want? Share your thoughts with a friend or on social media using the hashtag #ThisLifeIsOurs. Connect with Us If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit from its message. Reviews and shares help others find our podcast and join this community of growth and empowerment. For full episode transcripts and to learn more about Coach Emily B. and the team, visit www.birchandstonecoaching.com. Stay rooted, stay resilient, and keep rising. This life of ours is worth showing up for.

When We Stop Asking “What If I Waste It?”

In this episode, Emily explores the question that keeps so many of us stuck: What if I waste it? What sounds like responsible thinking is often rooted in fear and self-trust. She invites you to shift your focus from what you might lose to what you could gain, who you’re becoming, and how you’re willing to show up. Growth doesn’t come from waiting until you feel ready, it comes from engaging with your life. Find Us Here https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/ [https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/] Join Our Mastermind https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/offers/zLGF7C2u/checkout [https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/offers/zLGF7C2u/checkout] The Rooted Coach Certification by Birch & Stone Where compassionate humans become skilled coaches, learning to lead growth with presence, strength and grounded support. Now enrolling! https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/certification-program [https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/certification-program] Join us for our September Wellness Retreat! https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/wellness-retreat [https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/wellness-retreat] Meet Our Coaches Emily Brower Professionally Certified Life Coach, Private & Group Coaching Specializing in Weight Health, Time Management and Perfectionist Thinking emilyb@birchandstonecoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/coach_emily_b [https://www.instagram.com/coach_emily_b] https://www.facebook.com/emilybrowerlifecoach Rebecca Reynolds A movement specialist with a passion for helping people reconnect with their strength—physically, mentally, and emotionally rebecca@birchandstonecoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/rebecca_ashley_reynolds/ Tobey Mintz Master-trained Instinctive Meditation coach offering a gentle, thought-inclusive approach to meditation that works with your mind, emotions, and energy. coaches@birchandstonecoaching.com Emily Magenheim Dual-certified Health & Wellness and Life Coach helping people feel better in their bodies through compassionate, science-rooted, sustainable support. emilym@birchandstonecoaching.com [emilym@birchandstonecoaching.com] https://www.facebook.com/emily.gitkinmagenheim https://www.instagram.com/emilym_liveswell/ Beth Kruger Women’s Health and Midlife Coach with 20+ years of experience supporting women through pregnancy, postpartum, menopause, and midlife transitions. coaches@birchandstonecoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/itsbethkruger/ Dani Chambers Health & Wellness Life Coach, two-time cancer survivor, and leadership coach helping people rebuild, reset, and rise through life’s hardest seasons. dani@birchandstonecoaching.com Courtney Clark Lifelong runner and coach helping people build resilience, trust their bodies, and move forward with confidence—one steady step at a time. coaches@birchandstonecoaching.com Patrick Decelles Coach and former psychotherapist with 15+ years of experience helping individuals and couples build emotional intelligence, clarity, and trust. coaches@birchandstonecoaching.com