#14: Nisyonos (II): When the Nisoyon Never Ends - with Rabbi Zimmerman

#14: Nisyonos (II): When the Nisoyon Never Ends - with Rabbi Zimmerman

In Part 2 of our discussion on nisyonos, Rabbi Zimmerman explores some of the most relevant and challenging questions facing people today. Can pressure from family, school or community become a nisayon in its own right? Is questioning Hashem always a weakness in emunah, or can honest struggle sometimes deepen a person's relationship with Him? We discuss whether wealth and success can be as great a test as poverty and hardship, how to cope with challenges that feel constant and never-ending, and whether shielding children from difficulty truly protects them or leaves them unprepared for life. We also examine whether people should search for reasons behind suffering, and how to navigate uncertainty, responsibility, mental health, and personal growth through a Torah perspective.   Timestamps: 0:00:00 – Introduction, recap of Part 1, framing Part 2 (modern struggles) 0:01:05 – Expectations, spiritual burden, joy vs obligation in mitzvos 0:05:04 – Personal enjoyment in avodas Hashem; “cog in the system” and individuality 0:08:19 – Each person’s unique purpose and contribution 0:08:46 – Balancing bitachon with hishtadlus; avoiding denial / toxic positivity 0:12:34 – Questioning Hashem, anger, and honest relationship with Hashem 0:19:10 – Modern nisyonos vs previous generations; changing Yetzer Hara 0:24:38 – Wealth and poverty as different tests; emotional equilibrium 0:27:32 – Never-ending struggles (e.g., shemiras einayim); value of the battle itself 0:30:09 – Children and chinuch; sharing struggles with kids appropriately 0:38:11 – Emotional/psychological struggles vs mental health conditions; seeking help 0:41:37 – Destigmatizing mental health; communal responsibility 0:44:26 – How much we’re responsible for others’ suffering; healthy boundaries 0:47:20 – Searching for “reasons” for suffering; middah k’neged middah and introspection 0:52:00 – Uncertainty in major life decisions; advice vs personal responsibility 0:58:15 – Finding meaning in nisyonos; Avraham’s legacy and our spiritual DNA 1:02:12 – Closing remarks and podcast wrap-up

#13: Nisyonos (I): Why Are Some Lives Harder Than Others? - with Rabbi Zimmerman

In Part One of this two part series on Nisyonos, we explore one of life’s biggest questions: why does Hashem test people? Together they discuss whether all suffering is considered a nisayon, why some people appear to face greater hardships than others, the struggle of unanswered tefillos, and why bitachon can feel strong in some areas of life yet weak in others. A thoughtful and honest conversation on faith, struggle and spiritual growth.    Timestamps: - 0:00:00 — Intro and episode topic: Nisyonas (suffering/tests)   - 0:01:31 — Three categories of hardship introduced: Aynish, Tafkid, Nisyonas   - 0:05:13 — Discussion on how to discern type of hardship; common default = punishment   - 0:08:00 — Purposes of Nisyonas: reward, reveal potential, show faith to others (Akedah example)   - 0:11:00 — Physical vs. spiritual tests; hardest are choices between two good options   - 0:18:05 — Prioritizing long-term mitzvah “investments” (learning with children, shalom bayit)   - 0:26:18 — Role of tefilah: praise, gratitude, requests; different views on effects of prayer   - 0:29:30 — Emotional processing of seemingly unanswered prayers; “not yet” and stored credit ideas   - 0:35:00 — Why some suffer more: gilgulim, tikkun, soul capacities; tailored tests   - 0:44:00 — Importance of community/support vs. suffering alone   - 0:47:55 — Free will vs. divine foreknowledge: different frameworks and implications   - 0:52:48 — Human cruelty within divine orchestration and moral accountability   - 0:55:14 — Closing and preview of Part Two

#12: Bikur Cholim: What It Really Means to Show Up - With Dayan Posen

A wide-ranging conversation with Dayan Posen exploring the mitzvah of bikur cholim in today’s world, from the halachic foundations of visiting the sick to mental health, trauma response, community support, and the balance between practical help and genuine human presence. The discussion covers what meaningful care really looks like in an age of constant communication, and how small actions can make a profound difference to patients and their families.   Timestamps: - 0:00:00 – Intro, technical note about previous episode; episode focus announced (Bikur Cholim with Daim Posen)   - 0:01:47 – Guest (Daim Posen) greeting   - 0:01:49–0:06:10 – Core halachic sources and purpose of Bikur Cholim; best times to visit (avoid first/last 3 hours)   - 0:06:10–0:11:57 – Scope of the mitzvah, limits, reading the room, and risks of causing distress   - 0:11:57–0:16:00 – Contagious illness, enemies visiting, and modern communications (phone/video/text) as partial substitutes   - 0:16:00–0:21:57 – Benefits of in-person visits; impact on hospital care and staff perception   - 0:21:57–0:31:08 – How to speak with patients, defensive attribution, and aim to uplift/encourage (Gemilas Chesed)   - 0:31:08–0:38:54 – Respecting patient/family wishes, privacy, and when to prioritize next-of-kin support   - 0:38:54–0:46:58 – Community vs. individual responsibility; kehillah rotas and organized welfare support   - 0:46:58–0:50:27 – Gender considerations and modesty when visiting; emotional boundaries   - 0:50:27–1:00:30 – Mental health as Bikur Cholim: parity with physical illness, emotional support, stigma reduction   - 1:00:30–1:09:01 – Practical guidance for supporting those with mental health struggles (boundaries, presence)   - 1:09:01–1:16:42 – Crisis/trauma response overview; SITS crisis teams and trained volunteers (Rabbi Dr. Fox training)   - 1:16:42–1:24:09 – Handling children, age‑appropriate explanations, and preparing for hospital visits   - 1:24:09–1:31:08 – Role and timing of Tehillim (in-person vs. remote); WhatsApp Tehillim groups’ impact   - 1:31:08–1:35:31 – Authenticity in performing the mitzvah (anonymity, intention) and differences from tzedakah   - 1:35:31–1:36:40 – Closing thoughts: presence, empathy, Miriam/Moshe story, final blessings and thanks

#11: Tzedokah (II): The Way We Give Has Changed - For Better or Worse? With Rabbi Zimmerman

Tzedakah today looks very different to how it once did. But has that change improved the way we give, or complicated it? This episode addresses real-world dilemmas: If your child has a negative experience with an institution, can you redirect your support elsewhere? Do you need to verify every collector, or can you rely on communal trust? Is giving smaller amounts to many causes a practical solution, or does it dilute the impact of the mitzvah? The discussion also tackles prioritisation, how to choose between multiple urgent needs and whether family always comes first. Are fundraising commissions a necessary part of modern charity, or a distortion of its purpose? A clear and nuanced look at how tzedakah is evolving and how to navigate it responsibly.   Timestamps: - 0:00 Intro & series overview   - 0:27 Difference: tzedokah (reactive) vs Ma'aser (proactive)   - 2:08 Affordability & basic needs (poskim discussion)   - 3:50 Rambam, Shulchan Aruch, Vilna Gaon on status/limits   - 6:00 Hazaka/makirah and long-term support   - 9:05 Hakarat hatov (gratitude) and prioritization   - 10:00 Spousal decisions & whose money rules   - 13:10 School fees vs. charity; tuition as obligation vs donation   - 16:04 Education obligations (v’shinan/v’limachem) and tutors   - 17:21 Sponsor: AAC mention   - 19:44 Vetting collectors; small vs large gifts   - 21:38 Small donations (matanah mu’attas) & token amounts   - 23:45 Priorities: Talmud Torah, shul/mikvah, poor; communal obligations   - 27:37 Recommendation: personal priority spreadsheet   - 31:03 Yisachar/Support for Torah learners discussion   - 41:03 Fundraising anecdotes & approach to donors   - 42:04 Fundraiser commissions and admin-cost norms   - 45:00 New charities vs established ones — assess like investments   - 46:10 Parents on holiday & unpaid school debts guidance   - 47:30 Debtors should prioritize repayment over giving maaser   - 48:57 School enrollment pledges: private vs communal difference   - 50:00 Closing reflection on communal chesed and lasting value

#10: Tzedokah (I): So Many Requests - But Who Do You Give To? With Rabbi Zimmerman

In a world of constant appeals, how should a person approach tzedakah with clarity and integrity? This episode explores the practical and ethical tensions behind everyday giving. Is anonymous giving always ideal, or can public donations play an important communal role? Can time, effort, and influence be considered true forms of tzedakah alongside money? Where is the line between legitimate encouragement and uncomfortable pressure? The conversation also examines modern fundraising realities, from luxury dinners to reciprocal giving, and asks whether these practices enhance or undermine the values of tzedakah. Finally, what place, if any, do segulah-based donations have within a Torah framework? A grounded discussion on how to give thoughtfully when the requests never stop.   Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00:00 —  Introduction/podcast purpose 0:02:26 —  Core purpose of tzedakah (Torah/Gemara/Rambam) 0:10:42 —  Misconceptions about tzedakah today 0:11:09–0:13:02 —  Action vs. intention in giving 0:13:10–0:15:47 —  Anonymous vs. public giving / communal example-setting 0:15:47–0:16:57 —  Give many small gifts vs. fewer large gifts 0:16:57–0:21:07 — Time/expertise as tzedakah (including electrician example) 0:21:07–0:24:05 —  Cost-saving/bulk-buy example (schools, Pesach supplies) 0:24:05–0:29:55 — Modern campaign pressures, follow-ups, appeals history 0:29:55–0:30:13 — Online campaign mechanics / raffles / “pick a number” comment 0:31:25–0:33:14 — Dinners, luxury fundraising events, and how to apportion personal benefit 0:33:14–0:35:47 — Young families & long-term pledges / cautions about pledging 0:35:47–0:37:00 — Matching campaigns and transparency/norms 0:37:00–0:39:32 — General donor motivations, reciprocity, and not over-scrutinizing 0:39:35–0:41:12 — Using prominent rabbis/roshei yeshiva to increase pressure 0:41:45–0:45:04 — Giving linked to segulot/yeshuah and authenticity of scholars 0:45:04–0:48:39 — Organizations promising yeshuah / transactional tzedakah concerns 0:48:39–0:49:40 — Closing / outro