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The Cupboard Story: Abuse, Loosely Based on True Events

9 min · 27. elo 2025
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Welcome to the very first episode of 'Abuse, Loosely Based on True Events' - a strand of 'Becca Does Things,' my project about reclaiming life after abuse. This strand is where I share my own abuse stories, survival truths, and the messy ways I’m reclaiming joy… with sarcasm, dark humour, and probably too much honesty. In this opening episode, I share my very first memory of abuse: being locked in a cupboard as a child while my mum and her partner laughed outside. I talk about silence, betrayal, the impact of domestic abuse on children, and the teenage boyfriend (and his mum) who gave me safety when I needed it most. It’s not an easy story, but it’s where everything begins. Because yes, my first memory of abuse was the cupboard. But my first memory of healing was telling someone who loved me — and being believed.

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