Jake wanted to get married at 26, I wanted to at 18...we had a lot to work through (Feat. Jake Stammer)

Jake wanted to get married at 26, I wanted to at 18...we had a lot to work through (Feat. Jake Stammer)

What happens when two people who love each other are on completely different timelines for a life-changing decision?  In this episode, Kyia and Jake get honest about one of the most relatable tensions in relationships, one person ready to leap, and the other nearly immobilized by fear. They unpack what was really driving both sides, the spiritual work God was doing in each of them simultaneously, and how two very different struggles are both ultimately acts of faith. Plus, practical things you can actually do when a big decision is on the horizon or already at your door. Whether you're the eager one or the frozen one, this conversation is for you.

so think about this: you're either going into a storm, in a storm, or coming out of one...let's talk about it

In this episode, our host Kyia Stammer explores a truth every believer knows but rarely talks about openly as Christians, we are always in one of three places: heading into a storm, in the middle of one, or coming out the other side. With grounding in scripture and practical wisdom for each season, she walks listeners through what each phase actually feels like, what God's Word says about it, and what to do when you're there. Whether you're in a season of peace that feels too quiet, barely keeping your head above water, or standing in the wreckage trying to find your footing again, this episode meets you right where you are!

why is being known so scary??

In this episode, our host Kyia Stammer invites listeners to slow down and ask a question worth sitting with, what does it actually mean to be known? As social media promises connection and delivers comparison, Kyia explores the biblical truth that long before any platform, any audience, or any accomplishment, God already knew you fully and loved you completely. This episode is a gentle reminder that you were never made to simply be watched, you were made to be known.

Jake's POV of 6 months of marriage

In this episode, Kyia's husband, Jake shares his honest perspective on six months of marriage. He begins the episode by reflecting on how love has exposed his selfishness, challenged him to lead with confidence, and taught him that commitment is a daily choice, not just a feeling. He opens up about learning to communicate, embracing the discomfort of growth, and why he believes marriage is less about happiness and more about holiness. Rooted in scripture and raw honesty, he closes by publicly celebrating Kyia and the transformation he's watched God do in her life in real time.

marriage is not what I expected...happy 6 months!!

In this episode, our host Kyia Mochitani celebrates six months of marriage! She reflects on how being a wife has been different than she expected, in the most refining and meaningful ways. Drawing inspiration from The Excellent Wife, Kyia talks about the shift from expectation to growth, the daily choice of love, and how marriage shapes character, faith, and selflessness in real life. The Book I refer to is The Excellent Wife - A Biblical Perspective (Expanded Edition) by Martha Peace