Hot Mess Happy Hour

People Pleasing? Puh-leeze Stop it!

10 min · 27. maj 2026
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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2464990/fan_mail/new] ADHD people are more likely to be people-pleasers as a survival mechanism to avoid rejection and cope with emotional regulation. I am guilty of it too, but we need to find a way to break this cycle of pleasing. It is okay to be kind and do things for others but don't make it cost your personal values. Recognize what you want to do versus what you feel obligated to do to keep the peace. Gradually set small boundaries to get back to having confidence without the fear of negative reactions. If your friends don't care what you value, or criticize you often, it might be time to move on to better people who respect your boundaries and feelings. You got this! I am here for you!  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2] To mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3

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episode People Pleasing? Puh-leeze Stop it! cover

People Pleasing? Puh-leeze Stop it!

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2464990/fan_mail/new] ADHD people are more likely to be people-pleasers as a survival mechanism to avoid rejection and cope with emotional regulation. I am guilty of it too, but we need to find a way to break this cycle of pleasing. It is okay to be kind and do things for others but don't make it cost your personal values. Recognize what you want to do versus what you feel obligated to do to keep the peace. Gradually set small boundaries to get back to having confidence without the fear of negative reactions. If your friends don't care what you value, or criticize you often, it might be time to move on to better people who respect your boundaries and feelings. You got this! I am here for you!  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2] To mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3

27. maj 202610 min
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What Not to Say to ADD Folks - Starring Nate (Part 3)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2464990/fan_mail/new] The fun continues with our insightful and hilarious guest Nate, as we discuss what not to say to people with depression or ADHD. Best practices if you will, and you should. We also do a deep dive into LEGO minifigs, vegetarian foods, and feature the song "Game Boy" by Zack Cokas, with a sample of this rockin' tune. Don't miss the Yard Sale stories, as those are too funny! You can see that no topic is off limits. Thanks for listening!! We love you. Check out Spotify for more Zack Cokas [https://open.spotify.com/artist/4iXB3QHlFuyXyAZ4bLDzor] and Cam Cokas [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5tLGHWFRX1WY6xi27jTFWt] hits! They are talented musical twins with completely different styles. Enjoy! Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2] To mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3

9. maj 202639 min
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Happy Birthday Nate! (Part 1)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2464990/fan_mail/new] Back by Popular Demand — NATE! Your favorite ADHD duo is back....and even more off track than ever! We discuss Nate's brief but illustrious bowling career, his many balls, his fun-filled rolling skating party to celebrate his early thirties, Trader Joe's (because why not?) and the benefits of physical therapy (PT). This is all coming to you from Nate's very high-security, top secret location. I had to be buzzed in and even then, there are two areas with the same number. NO ONE CAN FIND YOU NATE! But join me in wishing my friend a very happy birthday!  Hope you enjoy the show! There are two more episodes on the heels of this one starring Nate the Great.  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2] To mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3

24. apr. 202641 min
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WOOP there is is!

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2464990/fan_mail/new] Woop Woop! You'll cheer for this method to help you meet your goals! WOOP stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacles, Plan and it challenges you to identify what your true wishes are, and what stands in your way. I have started using this mental exercise and it is helping me prepare for things I want to achieve. Deceptively simple but effective! Thank you to the class I took from a Yale professor who introduced this WOOP approach to us that was conceived from Dr. Gabriele Oettingen. I hope it helps you move forward towards the things you would like to do but feel paralyzed like I do sometimes. Cheers! Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/scokas2] To mainly support my rescue pups and keep them stocked with treats, you can click here! buymeacoffee.com/scokas2 I appreciate you listening and only support if you can. <3

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