The Lie Behind Mum Guilt

Building Confidence Through Action

Confidence Isn’t a Feeling: Build Self-Trust by Moving Before You’re ReadyOdette and Liezel discuss how waiting to feel ready can look like wisdom but often hides fear of visibility, exposure, and discomfort, and they argue that confidence usually grows after aligned action rather than before it. They distinguish confidence (“I think I can do this”) from self-trust (“Even if this stretches me, I’ll stay with myself, learn, adjust, and keep moving”), noting that over-preparation and delay can become an identity that erodes self-trust. Using an exercise about changing feelings toward a glasses case, they show feelings don’t determine value or purpose, and emphasize action as the source of evidence that separates imagined fear from lived reality. They present a framework to name and notice the “version of you” that delays and then choose what aligns with who you want to become, plus three practical steps: clarify the next specific step, separate discomfort from danger, and keep one small promise to build self-trust.00:00 Fear Disguised As Wisdom01:08 Confidence Follows Action03:00 Inner Voice Introduction03:22 Readiness Myth Exposed05:35 Feelings Versus Value07:05 Waiting Or Hiding10:37 Self Trust Over Confidence13:26 Action Creates Evidence16:09 Courage And Failure Reframe17:50 Name Notice Choose Framework21:05 Everyday Confidence Examples23:27 Three Practical Moves26:33 Small Promises Build Trust29:36 Weekly Reflection And Wrap This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe [https://odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

The No You Deserve to Say

Some women can deliver hard news in a boardroom without flinching, and then lie awake at 2am writing the polite-but-not-too-polite text to cancel a coffee they never wanted to agree to. If that sounds familiar, this conversation is for you. In this episode of The Inner Voice, Odette and Liezel unpack why saying no to small things often feels heavier than saying no to big ones — and why the spiral that follows is not guilt, but identity disruption. They explore the difference between energy boundaries and identity boundaries, the cost of a yes that should have been a no, and why self-sacrifice and obedience are not the same thing. You will walk away with language for the 2am spiral, a simple framework — Name her. Notice her. Choose. — and three small, specific moves for the week ahead: the pause, the script and the spiral check. This one is for the woman who is tired of carrying yeses she never meant to give. Press play, and let the conversation do the work. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe [https://odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

The Lie Behind Mum Guilt

Mom Guilt, Mental Load, and the Lie of Not Being EnoughOdette and Liezel unpack “mom guilt” as more than a surface emotion, linking it to mental load, identity shifts, comparison pressure, and the feeling of not holding everything together even when life looks fine externally. They discuss how guilt spikes when parents are depleted—especially after work or events—making it hard to switch into a present, comforting “mom hat,” and suggest reducing expectations (e.g., takeout nights, skipping nonessential activities) while prioritizing what helps kids regulate emotions, like running. Liezel shares her transition from full-time at-home mom to entrepreneur and the internal wrestle of feeling entitled to invest in herself. They emphasize settling, surrender, and relying on the Holy Spirit amid rapid societal change, media-driven anxiety, and financial pressure. Odette reframes guilt as condemnation and often a lie, offering a “name it, recognize it, choose differently” framework, urging parents to overcome patterns so children don’t inherit them.00:00 Why Mom Guilt Hurts00:56 Defining Mom Guilt01:51 Evening Overwhelm02:36 Empty Tank Parenting05:34 Grace and Help07:26 Simplify the Load10:18 Running and Regulation14:47 Mental Load Explained16:21 Identity Shift Season20:05 Change Is Accelerating22:14 Settling and Surrender25:20 Noise Comparison Strategy28:39 Media Pressure and Lack31:23 Faith Over Fear Economy34:06 Grace Through Crisis34:49 Raising Faith Aware Kids35:35 Living Your Faith Out Loud37:28 Mom Guilt Is A Lie40:31 Evidence Builds Confidence42:23 Stop Trying Surrender48:24 Three Step Reset Framework52:49 Break The Generational Cycle54:04 Fear Healed By God56:56 Closing Questions And Blessing This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe [https://odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

How to Stop the “Who Do You Think You Are?” Voice (Mindset & Identity)

Interrupt the Spiral: Mindset, Identity, and the Voice That Says “Who Do You Think You Are?” Odette and Liezel introduce Inner Voice, a mostly unscripted podcast on mindset, growth, leadership, family, business, and faith, sharing personal experiences rather than professional advice. They discuss how slow, marginal changes can lead to unnoticed mental spirals, anxiety, and sleeplessness, and how “pattern interrupts” and introspection help you name what’s happening. Liezel describes shifting from fighting emotions to acknowledging fear as a feeling that isn’t dangerous, which gradually reduced hypervigilance. The conversation centers on identity, authority, and rejecting the lie of being “far from God,” emphasizing prayer, journaling, and creating daily “God spaces” to ask what you need. They reflect on biblical examples (Joshua, David, Joseph) and Odette’s tested immigration journey, concluding that the battle is in the mind and listeners should question negative self-talk. 00:00 That Inner Critic 00:13 Meet Inner Voice 01:05 The Slow Fade Spiral 02:27 Interrupt The Pattern 03:38 The Far From God Lie 04:54 Name The Fear 09:10 Victory Repent Strategy 15:51 Perfectionism And Value 22:35 Freedom To Choose Joy 24:38 Journaling And Idea Capture 28:17 Journaling as Evidence 30:13 Building Daily Awareness 33:57 Creating God Space 35:34 Ask God What You Need 37:28 Knowing vs Doing 39:56 Identity and Authority 46:39 Approval and Faith 48:54 Immigration Word Tested 54:33 Isolation and Reliance 59:16 Mind Battle Takeaways This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe [https://odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]