Relational Longevity Part 1

Couples Retreat

When was the last time you actually prioritized your relationship? Jayson and Ellen talk about why most couples wait too long to invest in their future and what it looks like to choose growth instead of just another vacation. They share what you can expect from their upcoming couples retreat, who it is really for, and why focusing on longevity changes everything. If you are serious about building something that lasts, this episode is for you. Timestamps: * 2:36 - Retreat logistics/itinerary * 4:58 - When was the last time you prioritized your relationship? * 8:46 - Prioritizing longevity and your future as a couple * 12:13 - Growth instead of a vacation * 15:05 - Who is a good fit for the retreat? Links: * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenboeder/?hl=en] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en] If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

Relational Longevity Part 2

What does it actually take to build a relationship that lasts? In part two, Jayson and Ellen break down the four core aspects of relational longevity. They explore why you need a basic understanding of attachment, how the nervous system shapes your interactions, the role of communication skills, and what your relational code says about how you show up. They also talk about the importance of actively cultivating connection if you want something that goes the distance. If you are serious about long term love, this episode is for you. Timestamps: * 2:27 You need a basic understanding of attachment * 4:27 Have an understanding of the human nervous system * 6:03 Communication skills * 7:51 Your relational code * 12:28 Cultivate connection Links: * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenboeder/?hl=en] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en] If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

Relational Longevity Part 1

What is relational longevity and why does it matter? Jayson and Ellen break down what it takes to build relationships that actually last. They explore the benefits of healthy connection, how to examine your own relationships honestly, and what defines a high quality connection. They also talk about discovering what is truly possible in partnership and why people want to feel utilized and needed. If you want relationships that go the distance, this episode is for you. Timestamps: * 2:12 What is relational longevity? * 3:41 Benefits of healthy relationships  * 6:10 Examining your own relationships * 7:38 What is a high quality connection? * 11:10 Discovering what's possible in relationships * 13:29 Partners want to feel utilized Links: * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenboeder/?hl=en] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en] If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

Our Thoughts on Divorce

Jayson and Ellen explore divorce through an evolutionary and cultural lens. Why does divorce feel easier in some cultures than others? Why do some couples stay together but never truly thrive? How do you know when someone is the wrong person, and how do you honestly assess whether you did everything you could to make the relationship work? They also examine when divorce does not actually make things better and why taking responsibility for your role in relationship failures matters more than blame. Timestamps: * 1:36 - Human evolution and divorce * 4:38 - Cultural differences in the ease of divorce * 9:44 - Not all couples that stay together thrive * 15:00 - How do you know when someone is the “wrong” person * 18:42 - Did you do everything you could to make things work? * 21:55 - When divorce doesn’t make things better * 26:16 - Consider your own role in relationship failures Links: * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenboeder/?hl=en] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en] If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

Why Never Fighting Is a Problem

Jayson and Ellen explore what it really means when couples say they never fight. They break down why fighting is anything that needs repair, not just overt conflict, and why couples who never fight miss important opportunities to learn. They look at the types of couples who avoid conflict, how much fighting is too much, which couples can work through frequent conflict, and the deeper issues that can be masked by a lack of fighting. Timestamps: * 1:39 - When couples say they never fight * 4:11 - Fighting is anything that needs to be repaired * 9:50 - If you never fight you never learn * 12:50 - Types of couples that don’t fight * 17:04 - How much fighting is too much? * 20:27 - What kinds of couples can overcome fighting? * 22:52 - Issues masked by a lack of fighting Links: * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenboeder/?hl=en] * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en] If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!