seeking validation is a human need, not a flaw

you don't need to break, in order to rebuild

HI BUDDIES!!! You don't need a new year or a life crisis in order to create profound change or a glow up. Your future and yourself can be the driving motivator for change. This episode goes over how to reach your goals and stop getting in your own way. I share personal examples and steps to creating the life you want. Be yoself, be authentic, inspire others to do the same!!!!!!!!! XOXO, Kendall Joy

let go of your victimhood, pal!

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a licensed professional. This content is based on personal perspective and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. This message is not meant to dismiss or minimize abuse in any form. If you've been hurt, your experience is real and valid, and the responsibility always lies with the person who caused harm. This content does not deny or minimize abuse or trauma. Being harmed is never your fault. The focus here is on personal healing and growth. Learning how to move forward without being defined solely by painful experiences. VIDEO DESCRIPTION: This episode explores the stories we tell ourselves after trauma and setbacks, and offers practical insights on how to take responsibility, choose new narratives, and step into joy. In this episode: The importance of recognizing the stories we repeat about ourselves after challenging experiences How victim narratives can serve as protective mechanisms and why they sometimes keep us stuck The distinction between genuine victimhood and victim mentality as a way to avoid responsibility Practical steps to reframe setbacks such as breakups, betrayal, or personal failures The role of self-awareness in noticing when you're embodying a victim role and how to shift that mindset The importance of feeling emotions fully without becoming identified with them How spiritual bypassing can mask the need for authentic processing and emotional work Strategies for setting boundaries and taking action to reclaim your power The nuance of honoring genuine victimhood while avoiding prolonged victim identities XO Infinity, Kendall Joy https://linktr.ee/joywithkendall [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa05FOXF5OUlidk83R1ZpNEhuYlpYNVJxZmk5d3xBQ3Jtc0tuZHRGeG40ME1IVmFObHdiUWxwQVdDM1hsaF9USmtlM2JiMUpMTElTbThzeURBR2tCZW9yTkZDRTlaaW9CaU5NSjdTeTRrd1RjbVZhMXpDbTI5NWVyWmpJWE05Q1V2d01LTjZrd0I0dU5nbmFRSVQ2WQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fjoywithkendall&v=pGTneISkOx8]

congrats! you're human!

This episode dives into the importance of embracing imperfection, self-compassion, and the human experience. Accept mistakes, learn from them, and live authentically without the burden of perfection! XO infinity, Kendall Joy linktr.ee/joywithkendall

seeking validation is a human need, not a flaw

In this episode, I discuss the often misunderstood concept of validation seeking. Seeking validation is a natural human need and this episode offers a compassionate perspective on navigating it healthily without guilt or shame. Key topics * Validation seeking is human and necessary to some extent * The societal demonization of validation behaviors * The importance of self-awareness and middle ground in validation * How community and connection foster feelings of being seen and chosen * The significance of open communication about needs and insecurities * Recognizing that validation seeking isn't inherently bad or toxic * How to ask for validation and reassurance in real-time * The impacts of childhood experiences on adult validation behaviors * Overcoming hyper-independence by building community and trust * Encouragement to reframe validation as a tool for self-growth journal prompt: how do you judge others or yourself for seeking validation? Friendly reminder that you can not fulfill your need of being fully seen unless you put yourself out there to do so!! XOXO Infinity, Kendall Joy https://linktr.ee/joywithkendall

turning chronic embarrassment into unapologetic authenticity

Are you tired of feeling embarrassed about what you say or do, especially when trying to fit in? This episode shares practical insights on how embracing your true self can lead to more confidence and less shame, encouraging you to own your authenticity unapologetically. Key Topics: * The link between embarrassment and seeking validation * How to recognize performative behaviors versus genuine self-expression * Strategies for radical self-acceptance and self-reparenting * The importance of understanding your patterns around shame * Overcoming the fear of rejection by aligning with your authentic self * The role of repetition in rewiring your mindset * How childhood experiences influence adult embarrassment * Practical steps to act confidently and laugh at your own jokes * The connection between self-awareness and emotional resilience * Encouragement to take up space and inspire others to be authentic