S2 #07 Apologies, Accountability (and Why Forgiveness is Not a Must)

S2 #11 My First Dog; Molly (the German Sheppard)

This is a short (and sweet) episode about our new dog, Molly. It's been lovely and something new to adjust to having a big, fluffy, gentle giant of a dog in our lives. To learn more about Molly, have a listen. In this episode I speak about: 1. how healing it's been to get Molly after Roly having such a reactive dog 2. Matilda's love of dogs 3. Molly's gentle nature and the settling in process Themes: dogs, healing At the end, I read a poem that I don't know the author of. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen. For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram [https://instagram/lucywyldecoaching], and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com [https://www.lucywyldecoaching.com/]

S2 #10 Dads Supporting Mums for the Win; An Interview with Alex Trippier

Alex Trippier is a writer, speaker, podcast host, husband and father. He is an emerging voice on parenting and the role of men in family life. Alex has immersed himself in the work of leading mothers and parenting experts, exploring women’s lived experiences, mental load and family life. Alex brings a compassionate, feminist perspective to a growing international audience and writes regularly for 'The i' as well as having been cited in Grazia and Marie Claire. I connected with Alex on Instagram and I LOVED this conversation — and the laughs! He is brilliant and admirably honest about himself and his journey. In this episode we speak about: * Alex's reels and his activism in the parenting space * the problem with assumptions * why so many couples can suffer after having children * doing the work on ourselves, midlife 'crises' and individuation * what doing burlesque did for me (on a deeper level than people may think) * enjoying life as a couple more and Eve Rodsky's book 'Unicorn Space' * gender norms and how men and women are judged in society * Alex's (great) observations of matrescence and why self-advocacy matters * responsibilities and the words we use * navigating social media, self-worth and ego * the medicine that tears can hold Themes: patriarchy, matrescence, patrescence, parenting, self-advocacy, domestic abuse We mention Charlotte Warne Thomas, Lucy Jones, Martin Amis, Richard Reeves, Eve Rodsky, Carl Jung, Terry Real, Leah Ruppanner and Steve Biddulph To learn more about Alex see here on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beahappierparent/], click here for his writing for 'The i Paper' [https://inews.co.uk/author/alex-trippier?srsltid=AfmBOoq4BYUbJZom0tkgCxXQPCjy-LiXk_22BBEx0GsfphTZgFBhQbIR] and Alex's podcast is called 'Be A Happier Parent', available on all platforms. At the end, I read a poem called 'Guest House' by Rumi. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen. For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram [https://instagram/lucywyldecoaching], and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com [https://www.lucywyldecoaching.com/].

S2 #09 'Velvet & Valour'; Hosting My First Show!

Two days ago on Sunday May 3rd I hosted my first ever show. A burlesque and cabaret show featuring poetry also. It was an AMAZING night! And one where I felt, for the first time as a full grown woman, really supported. The night was full to the brim with artistry, human connection, honest conversations and life-affirming magic... I am so deeply grateful and proud of myself. So in case it helps anyone else (as well as myself to document it) I wanted to share a bit about my experience. In this episode I speak about: * just listen :) Themes: burlesque, humanness, motherhood, domestic abuse recovery I mention Zoe Charles, my partner Roly Starr, Ioana Marinca, The Three Guineas pub in Reading At the end, I read two limericks written by me. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen. For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram [https://instagram/lucywyldecoaching], and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com [https://www.lucywyldecoaching.com/]

S2 #08 'Don't Let It Break You Honey'; An Interview with Jenny Evans

Jenny Evans is a Mother, investigative journalist and filmmaker. Following the investigation that became her memoir, ‘Don’t Let It Break You, Honey’ she retrained in law. Jenny has just secured her first legal position. I connected with Jenny on Instagram after hearing about her book and I am incredibly grateful for Jenny and this powerful, moving and life-affirming conversation. (Jenny has THE most wonderful laugh and is such brilliant and beautiful soul.) We cover some very tender topics so please go carefully if you may be triggered and/or pay attention to the following. TRIGGER WARNINGS: 1. we speak about sexual abuse, the justice system, Jenny's stillborn daughter 2. From 21 mins 50 secs to 22 mins 10 secs AND 23 mins to 25 mins 20 secs Jenny speaks about the death of her daughter, being stillborn 3. From 25 mins 40 secs to 31 mins 20 secs Jenny talks about unexplained infertility, IVF and the death of her daughter whilst in utero 4. From 32 mins 20 secs to 36 mins 30 secs I speak about being ostracised and sexual abuse In this episode we speak about: * Jenny's background, her book and why she wrote it * the courage it took to write about what I call 'nasty people' * speaking our truth, finding our tribe & shedding shame * how shame is created and systems that are inherently shaming * the death of Jenny's daughter, Lula* (please see trigger warnings above) * navigating the grief realm and 'passive suicidality' * the desire to have more babies — and the gaslighting of our big, primal feelings * the process of writing the book with a lawyer and getting it published * how the system of giving statements to the police needs to change and the horror of Jenny's story being leaked (from the police) to the press * supportive publishers like Jemima Hunt at 'The Writers' Practice' [https://www.thewriterspractice.com/] and Emma Smith at 'Little Brown' * why we talk and how it keeps us safe Themes: sexual abuse, journalism, police scandal, misogyny, shame, grief, corruption We mention Nick Davies, Evan Moloney, Maya Angelou, Richard Schwartz, Ana Forrest, Jemima Hunt and Emma Smith. To learn more about Jenny see here on Instagram [www.instagram.com/jenny_evans_author], her website [www.jenny-evans.co.uk], details of her book [https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/jenny-evans/dont-let-it-break-you-honey/9781472148995/] 'Don't Let It Break You, Honey', and her Substack [https://jennyevansauthor.substack.com/p/we-need-to-talk-about-shame]. At the end, I read a poem written by W.H. Auden. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen. For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram [https://instagram/lucywyldecoaching], and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com [https://www.lucywyldecoaching.com/].

S2 #07 Apologies, Accountability (and Why Forgiveness is Not a Must)

Today's solo episode is a topic close to my heart. Wouldn't life be a little bit easier if many people were better at listening and true, genuine apologies?! — I think so. Whether that be politicians, abusers... anyone really. In this episode I speak about: 1. saying sorry too much 2. where apologies may be due or even needed (and it's ok to say that!) 3. where emotional intelligence, doing the work and owning our sh*t is helpful 4. why forgiveness isn't always the holy grail 5. handling criticism and tips to avoid/reduce defensiveness Themes: apologies, relationships, forgiveness I mention Harriet Lerner, Mark Groves, Terri Cole, my boyfriend Roly Starr. At the end, I read a poem written by me. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen. For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram [https://instagram/lucywyldecoaching], and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com [https://www.lucywyldecoaching.com/]