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Episode 093: The Grief That Shows Up at Barbecues: Memorial Day and the Losses No One Sees

9 min · 22. touko 2026
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Memorial Day weekend is coming. And for some women, the hardest part of the long weekend is carrying the name of someone who will not be at the barbecue, the parade, or the family reunion. If Memorial Day means more to you than the unofficial start of summer, this episode is yours. In this episode, we walk through what modern grief research calls "continuing bonds" - and why the healthiest response to loss is the opposite of "just move on." You will walk away with: * A deeper understanding of why grief intensifies on holidays — and why that wave of sadness at the picnic table is a normal, healthy response * The research-backed reason why talking about the person you lost is one of the best things you can do for your own wellbeing * A simple way to honor someone this Memorial Day weekend that costs nothing and takes less than a minute SCRIPTURE HIGHLIGHT: "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends." John 15:13 (NIV) Research note: This episode references continuing bonds theory (Klass, Silverman & Nickman, 1996), Worden's four tasks of mourning, and the National Cancer Institute's bereavement research on grief bursts during holidays. Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download): YourNextBestStep.com  [https://YourNextBestStep.com] Weekly encouragement + practical tips: YouTube @CoachJanetJ [https://www.youtube.com/@CoachJanetJ] Instagram: @janetjjaecks [https://www.instagram.com/janetjjaecks/ ] If this episode resonated with you, please follow/subscribe and share with a friend who needs their next step.   One small step. One day at a time.

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