Performing Fine Isn’t the Same as Being Fine

Your are not behind. You are in it.

You have been telling yourself you are behind. In the Season 2 finale of Adaptive Humans, Jami reflects on what it looks like to live the frameworks you teach — invisible load, capacity gaps, functional masking — without the margin to step outside of them first. What she learned is that self-compassion is not a feeling. It is a practice you have to architect. And protect. You are not behind. You are in it.

I Named It Adaptive Humans. Then Life Made Me Prove It.

Most of us are navigating massive life change while holding space for everyone else's. We just don't say it out loud. Jami de Lou names the compounding grief, change fatigue, and invisible load that so many people are carrying right now — often in the same rooms together, without anyone naming it, and how it impacts quality of decisions, trust, and how we lead. This episode drops at the start of Mental Health Awareness Month. Our mental and physical health are intertwined. There is no better time to name what we're carrying and talk about the ways to architect being kinder to ourselves.

When Everything Changes: On Caregiving, Loss, and Finally Coming Home to Yourself

You cannot belong to yourself while performing your way through grief. Jami de Lou and Ritu Bhasin go there: caregiving while leading, ambiguous loss, burnout, and what becomes possible when you finally set it down. A conversation about the life quake no one prepares you for, and what it means to come home to yourself on the other side. Content Note: This episode includes honest conversation about chronic illness, elder caregiving, memory care, grief, and loss. Please listen with care.

Performing Fine Isn’t the Same as Being Fine

You've kept it together. Through the reorgs, the shifting team dynamics, the quarters that never let up. Something underneath hasn't matched the surface in a long time. Jami de Lou names it: functional masking — the practiced, often unconscious skill of performing composure while your nervous system runs something else underneath. This one is for the leader or individual contributor who has been holding it together for so long, they can't remember what not holding it together even feels like.

When Your Body Interrupts the Plan

This episode airs during Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month. After losing her sister to stage four colorectal cancer at 43, Dacia Heck shares with Jami de Lou how she turned grief into action. Like many, the signs were there but kept getting reframed as something else. Something hindsight makes clearer. In this episode we talk about why polyp history matters as much as cancer history, how to advocate for yourself when providers dismiss your symptoms, and what leadership looks like to ensure support for your people when someone they love is terminally ill. GH Foundation: gh-foundation.com | Project Blue