Why Surrender Feels Like Losing But Isn’t

Why Surrender Feels Like Losing But Isn’t

This week, the guys unpack why surrender feels so hard, why men often confuse it with losing, and how trying to control every outcome can leave us frustrated, anxious, and exhausted. From golf-course meltdowns to family struggles, they explore what it actually looks like to trust God without checking out of the fight. If you've ever prayed, “Lord, I surrender this,” and then immediately tried to take it back, this episode is for you. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ] Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757] Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2F%40All-In-focus-c] CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/] HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=mailto%3Aallin%40focus.org] or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.focus.org]

Am I Going to Miss My Calling?

A lot of guys aren’t afraid of choosing the wrong thing. They’re afraid of missing the one thing that would make their life work. The guys talk about decision paralysis from spending way too long picking an energy drink to overthinking major life choices like jobs, relationships, and where to live. Why do small decisions feel so heavy? And why do we treat every choice like it determines our entire future? They unpack the fear behind it: the belief that there’s only one “right” path and if you miss it, you’re stuck. But the conversation shifts. What if calling isn’t one narrow road? What if God isn’t waiting for you to mess it up? And what if discernment actually requires action not just overthinking? This episode is about learning to move, trusting your formation, and realizing that faith isn’t about finding the perfect path. It’s about walking with God wherever you are. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ] Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757] Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2F%40All-In-focus-c] CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/] HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=mailto%3Aallin%40focus.org] or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.focus.org]

Why Someone Has to Lead and Why It Might Be You

What happens when something goes wrong and no one steps up? The guys kick things off with a chaotic Mount Rushmore of leaders from Dumbledore to Vince Lombardi, but quickly turn to the real question: what actually makes someone a leader? Because most of the time, leadership doesn’t show up as a title. It shows up as a moment. A gap. A responsibility. A situation where someone needs to go first. They talk about the men who shaped them including stories of quiet, everyday leadership that didn’t come with recognition and why influence matters more than position. And then the conversation gets deeper: what happens to a generation that’s grown comfortable? Why do men still crave a battle to fight? And what does leadership look like when the “battle” isn’t obvious? This episode is about stepping up before you feel ready, saying yes in the small moments, and realizing that leadership isn’t something you wait for. It’s something you choose. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ] Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757] Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2F%40All-In-focus-c] CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/] HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=mailto%3Aallin%40focus.org] or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.focus.org]

Are Smartphones Our Tyrants? Digital Dependence, Flip Phones, and Taking Back Control

Have smartphones quietly taken over our lives — and were old phones actually better for us? In this episode of the All-In Podcast, Jose, John Michael, and Clayton dive into the rise of digital dependence and whether the nostalgic simplicity of flip phones offered more freedom than today’s “smart” devices. From Apple’s ecosystem pressure to the green-text stigma, to the heated debate over voice memos, the guys explore how modern technology shapes relationships, communication, and even anxiety. They also look back at the legendary Motorola Razr and discuss new tools (including “The Brick”) designed to help people reclaim control from their phones. In This Episode You’ll Hear: 📱 Have smartphones made life better — or more anxious? 🍏 How Apple’s ecosystem pressures shape group chats and friendships 🎙️ The great voice memo debate: efficient or infuriating? 📞 Why the Motorola Razr was “goated” and what we lost when flip phones disappeared 🔒 How “The Brick” helps lock down distracting apps for digital freedom 🧠 The difference between the flip phone generation and the “Anxious Generation” If you’ve ever considered ditching your smartphone, miss the simplicity of old-school phones, or just want a laugh about how our digital habits got here, this conversation will resonate deeply. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ] Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757] Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2F%40All-In-focus-c] CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/] HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠allin@focus.org⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=mailto%3Aallin%40focus.org] or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠seekreplay.com⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠seekreplay.com⁠ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠www.focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.focus.org]

The Secret of Competition: The REAL Winners & Losers

In this episode of All In, Clayton, Jose, and John Michael try to answer the question: "Is competition truly at the heart of masculinity, and how do you handle yourself when victory is secured or defeat is inevitable?" Whether you're a man seeking a healthy competitive outlet or just curious about how virtue intersects with sportsmanship, this conversation will offer essential insights into finding freedom in competition and controlling your strength with meekness. What You’ll Hear: * The hosts discuss the value of winning well and losing well, establishing a "Mount Rushmore" of ultra-competitive winners (including John the Apostle, Kobe Bryant, and St. Gabriel Lalemant) and a "Valley Rushmore" of poor losers * An exploration of the mindset of excellence and capacity, urging listeners to "fill that cup", contrasted with the frustration that leads to poor losing. This discussion includes the coaching philosophy of prioritizing growth over outcomes. * Why competition is addicting—the constant chase of perfection—and the insight that meekness, defined not as weakness but as knowing and controlling one's strength, is crucial for controlling oneself whether winning or losing. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! --------------------------------------------------------------------- Hang Out With Us at SEEK26: http://bit.ly/3IPoew4 [http://bit.ly/3IPoew4] Use Promo Code FOCUSAI for Exclusive Pre-SEEK Content, including never-before-released talks from Fr. Mike Schmitz, Sr. Bethany Madonna and more, AND a chance to win one of three $100 vouchers for FOCUS/SEEK Merch! --------------------------------------------------------------------- LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ [https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ] Listen on Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757] Listen on YouTube→ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2F%40All-In-focus-c] --------------------------------------------------------------------- CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/ [ https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/] --------------------------------------------------------------------- HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at allin@focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=mailto%3Aallin%40focus.org] or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → seekreplay.com [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] For more original content and early releases, please visit seekreplay.com [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fseekreplay.com] All In is a production of FOCUS. www.focus.org [https://www.google.com/url?sa=E&q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.focus.org] MB01RN8RZW5FOHO