Let’s Talk Being Gay & African… with Olive Okoro of Queer Motherland | AITL?! EP 65

Let’s Talk Being Gay & African… with Olive Okoro of Queer Motherland | AITL?! EP 65

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?!, our guest is Olive Okoro, better known as @digital.olive, Founder of Queer Motherland, creator, advocate, and community builder. In this special PRIDE MONTH episode, Olive joins the PODD for an honest conversation about being African, queer, and still choosing to belong fully to yourself. You know those conversations you’ll remember for a long time and that would change lives… this is one of them. This conversation explores what it means to exist loudly in a world that often asks queer Africans to shrink and what it actually takes to choose freedom, softness, community, and self-acceptance. Olive Okoro is on Am I Too Loud?! FOLLOW OLIVE AT ⬇️ * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@digitalxolive [https://www.youtube.com/@digitalxolive] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/digital.olive [https://www.instagram.com/digital.olive] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@digital.olive [https://www.tiktok.com/@digital.olive] * Queer Motherland: https://www.queermotherland.org/about-us [https://www.queermotherland.org/about-us] CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome Back & Happy Pride Month! 00:53 Birthday Plans 05:19 Coming Out & Being Queer as an African Woman 11:58 Meet Olive Okoro: Founder of Queer Motherland 17:26 Colonization, Religion & being gay 17:55 FIFA World Cup 22:48 Using Queer People as Scapegoats in African Politics 24:47 Growing Up Nigerian in America: Olive's Story 27:33 Coming Out to Family 31:39 Fear, Hope & Strength in Being African and Queer 34:10 Religion, Shame & Deconstructing Christianity 36:17 Praying to Be Gay 39:27 Islam, Christianity & Organized Religion 44:25 Radical Imagination & Fighting for a World That Doesn't Exist Yet 44:47 Legalization Across Africa & A Safer World for Queer Africans 48:38 South Africa's Pride Journey & Hope for the Future 50:27 Queer Joy & The Dream of Holding Hands in Public 52:12 Dating as a Queer African: Meeting on Hinge & 11 Days to Girlfriend 54:04 Why Olive Only Dates Out People & The African Dating Pool 56:09 Green Flags: Smart, Kind & Emotionally Regulated Partners 57:24 Lies, Omissions & Emotional Irregularities: The Red Flags 1:00:48 Podd Fam Q&A: How Do I Support My Gay Friend? 1:02:47 I'm Christian & Can't Support Gay People: Our Response 1:08:22 My Parents Love Me But Won't Accept This Part of Me 1:10:40 Culture vs Children: Who Do You Choose? 1:12:49 Dating Someone Who's Not Out: When to Walk Away 1:18:23 Follow Queer Motherland & Final Thoughts LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #OliveOkoro #QueerMotherland #QueerAfrican #AfricanAndGay #LGBTQ #Identity #Growth #ChosenFamily #QueerJoy

The Loud Report: Love Island USA, Emma Grede AGAIN?, World Cup & more | AITL?! EP 64 ft. Simone Umba

PODD FAM 💚 After two weeks away, Am I Too Loud?! is back and better. This week, The Loud Report has moved to FRIDAYS and on today’s episode we have commentator, creator, and writer Simone Umba. We talked about Simone’s background, finding her voice online, and what makes good commentary in an internet culture where everyone has a take. Then they get into OUR FYP’s: Love Island USA and UK, Emma Grede discourse again, the FIFA World Cup, viral trends, creator economy drama, and the stories making everyone ask, “are we okay?” Podd Fam, I missed you. CHAPTERS: 00:00 Welcome Back & The Loud Report Begins! 02:20 Meet Simone Umba: Pop Culture Commentator & Creator 07:58 From Bio Major to Full-Time Creator: Simone's Journey 11:15 Love Island USA Deep Dive: Sincere, Melanie & Soul 17:31 KC & Anaya: Different Backgrounds, Different Love Languages 21:09 Kenzie & Corbin: Just Horny & Mixed Baby Dreams 26:57 Love Island UK vs USA & Treating Black Women Like Trash 29:00 Patrick Ta, Emma Grede & Painted by Esther: The Blush Drama 36:18 Black Women Can't Win: Resources, Capital & Systemic Barriers 43:35 Children of Blood and Bone, Black Movies & Representation Matters 48:27 Sprinkle Dot Cake, Sugar Overload & Expensive Dental Bills 50:45 Michelle Obama Disrespect, Trans Panic & Who Decides Womanhood? 55:26 19-Year-Old Child Bride Married to 28-Year-Old Man 58:10 Tourist Thrown Off Bridge in Brazil & Vacation Discernment 1:01:24 World Cup 2026: Congo vs Nigeria & Messi vs Ronaldo FOLLOW THE GUEST https://www.tiktok.com/@thesimplysimone [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesimplysimone] LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries]

let’s talk about becoming the woman i promised myself i’d be | AITL?! EP 63

It’s the 6 month mark of the year and, PODD FAM… we need to talk. not in a “my life is falling apart” way, but in a “wait, am i actually becoming the person i keep saying i want to become?” way. this episode is about growth, limbo, discipline, disappointment, ambition, self-love, and the very rude realization that being busy is not the same thing as being aligned. i talk about feeling like i’m growing in multiple areas of my life at once, why that feels so uncomfortable, what i thought this year would look like, what it actually looks like, and how i’m trying to stop romanticizing my potential and start becoming her for real. ENJOY :) 00:00 IT'S ALREADY JUNE?! 03:19 Life Updates: Apartment Hunting & Almost a Year Without a Home 04:48 Six Month Reality Check: Am I Living My Dream Life? 18:11 Trigger Warning: Feeling Suicidal & Mental Health Check-In 20:16 Regulating Your Emotions & Making Your Thoughts Reality 23:10 My 45% Performance Rating: Breaking Down My 2026 Goals 26:31 Fitness & Health: Running Three Times a Week & My Struggles 34:10 Career & Social Media: The Things I'm NOT Doing 35:58 Busy Does NOT Mean Aligned: The Hard Truth 37:13 Passive Living vs Active Living: Choosing Your Life 39:47 Self-Love is Discipline: Following Through on Promises to Yourself 40:31 Your Dream Life Needs Boring Structure 46:19 Freedom Without Structure is Chaos: What I've Learned 47:15 I Want to Win: Choosing Myself & Prioritizing Me First 51:28 Starting Over at the Six Month Mark & Birthday Month Plans LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Reflection

LET’S TALK PATRICK TA & PAINTEDBYESTER and why you should not listen to my podcast | AITL?! EP 62

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?, we’re flipping the TikTok trend “reasons why you wouldn’t be my friend” into a full episode: reasons why you shouldn’t listen to my podcast. In this solo episode, I’m talking honestly about what this podcast stands for — queerness, womanhood, feminism, honesty, loudness, and creating a space where we can tell the truth without shame. We are also talking about Patrick TA, Painted by Esther and Jackie Aina! This might be my favorite episode yet!! Join the #PODDFAM by streaming #AmITooLoudPod every Wednesday and subscribe for more loud, honest, unfiltered conversations. 00:00 IT'S ALREADY MAY!! 07:38 Hot Topic: Patrick Ta & Painted by Esther Drama Explained 12:26 Am I Too Loud If I Say He Didn't Owe Her Anything? 18:12 Cancel Culture, Accountability vs Crucifixion & Jackie Aina 22:40 We Need All Types of Black Women: Messy to Perfect 25:21 Why You Should NOT Listen to This Podcast 30:22 Don't Listen If You're Homophobic 34:17 I'm a Feminist & Women Don't Need to Be Perfect 40:07 Don't Listen If You're Judgmental or Want Perfect Advice 42:32 Culture Should Be Questioned & Life Updates LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode

Let's talk about my complicated relationship with money | AITL?! EP 61

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?!, we’re finally having the money conversation. In this episode, I’m talking about my complicated relationship with money: growing up in Lagos, watching my mom give even when she barely had enough, learning to see money as a blessing instead of a tool, coming to America as an immigrant student, surviving college on basically fumes and prayer, and then suddenly making influencer money that completely changed my brain. We’re getting into the guilt of sending money home, the pressure immigrant kids carry, why boundaries are necessary even when you love your family, and how social media can warp your relationship with money when everyone online looks richer, younger, softer, shinier, and more booked than you. I’m also talking about my first brand deals, going from $150 a month to getting paid thousands for content, learning about savings, taxes, investments, financial responsibility, and why financial freedom is really the soft life. This episode is personal, funny, honest, slightly chaotic because your girl was sick, and also sponsored by SENDWAVE — my first official podcast sponsor, Use my code “ODDITTY” for $10 credit off your first time transfer or click this link https://try.sendwave.com/kjap/qxalfv1s with that being said, Let’s talk about money, PODD FAM. 00:00:00 First Podcast Sponsor 00:04:30 Sendwave Ad Read 00:08:45 Life Update: Sick, Still Recording & Still Yapping 00:15:20 Why We’re Talking About Money 00:19:00 Growing Up in Lagos & My Mom’s Money Philosophy 00:28:35 Money as a Blessing vs. Money as a Tool 00:36:50 Coming to America as an Immigrant Student 00:44:10 College, Class Differences & Feeling Broke Around Rich Kids 00:53:00 My First Brand Deal & Influencer Money Changing My Brain 01:02:30 Learning Financial Responsibility the Hard Way 01:10:45 Sending Money Home, Guilt & Boundaries 01:20:15 Social Media, Black Girl Luxury & Comparing Wealth Online 01:29:40 Rich vs. Wealthy: Financial Freedom Is the Soft Life 01:36:10 Advice Column: Making Money as a Young Adult 01:42:30 Saving Habits, Paychecks & Money Boundaries 01:49:00 Immigrant Guilt, Family Pressure & Enjoying Your Money 01:56:20 Women, Relationships & Separate Money 02:00:10 Comparing Yourself to Rich Women Online 02:06:00 Closing Thoughts LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] JOIN THE PODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Reflection