Sharing our stories with Aisulu Masylkanova

Victim mentality and trauma

On this episode, I talk about: - Signs of victim mentality - the root cause of victim mentality - difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality - why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits - examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage - how we may fall into trauma victim mentality - patriarchy, women and victimhood - tools to get out of victim mentality I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST [https://uprootedmama.ck.page/5f8038e66c] of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/foreignbornmama/] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/nurjanm] for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY [https://www.facebook.com/groups/foreignbornmama] to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/596172784726367/]    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

Sharing our stories with Aisulu Masylkanova

This is our first story feature with a foreign-born mama! Aisulu and I talked about motherhood in the US, how we want to be a different parent, challenges of mothering in the US and how we are navigating past and present. Aisulu brought up our usual behaviors and thinking through her story and how it can keep us stuck or feel powerless. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST [https://uprootedmama.ck.page/5f8038e66c] of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/foreignbornmama/] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/nurjanm] for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY [https://www.facebook.com/groups/foreignbornmama] to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/596172784726367/]    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

Self-care for immigrant mama with Erin Hearts

I was invited to be a guest on a podcast "Self-care for Childhood Trauma Survivors" with Erin Hearts. We talked about: - How trauma affects us as moms and how it is different for immigrant moms - We shared self-care tools and how it is important for keeping us regulated and manage our reactions Please enjoy this interview and let us know if anything resonated.  Erin Hearts podcast, Self Care for Trauma Survivors, please listen in: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839

Beauty Standards and Trauma

On this episode, I talk about: - Invisible standards we have on physical beauty and what makes us attractive and desire-able - cultural and societal conditioning of women and standards - how these standards have traumatized and still traumatizing women - how these standards makes us create internal belief that we are "not pretty enough" or "good enough", or "loveable enough" - how we changes our true nature to fit in to these standards and loose our sense of authenticity and who we are - how these standards are perpetuated not only through social media, movies, and by men, but also by women themselves - I discuss the beauty standards in Kyrgyzstan and the USA - I offer a different perspective and belief shift on beauty standards so we can feel more empowered. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST [https://uprootedmama.ck.page/5f8038e66c] of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/foreignbornmama/] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/nurjanm] for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY [https://www.facebook.com/groups/foreignbornmama] to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/596172784726367/]    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

Can trauma hold us back from thriving?

On this episode, I share about: - story of how Oprah Winfrey opened a new school and how girls were not thriving despite how an amazing environment she created for them to thrive - I discuss how childhood trauma was affecting these girls in learning and reaching their potential - I discuss similarities I see between these girls' journey and our journey as foreign-born moms with childhood trauma - one powerful tool to shift our perspective and access self-compassion toward ourselves and toward others in overcoming judgment, self-criticism. -power of self-compassion in our healing journey - how trauma can hold us back from living fully until we create space to heal and acknowledge them. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST [https://uprootedmama.ck.page/5f8038e66c] of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/foreignbornmama/] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/nurjanm] for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY [https://www.facebook.com/groups/foreignbornmama] to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/596172784726367/]    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan