Beauty After Betrayal™

Ariel Sommers is our amazing guest who I’ve personally worked with myself. She’s an rRest Practitioner, Coach of Coaches, Motivational speaker, Mom, and wife to a household of boys. She spent 15 years as a health and fitness guru, but found everyone wanted her to do the work for them, instead of with them. As an rRest coach, she is now here to help people as they do the work to free themselves from intergenerational trauma, societal pressures, and their own limiting self beliefs. “Trying to describe rRest is like trying to describe an orgasm to someone who’s never experienced it. How do you tell somebody the magic that is gonna be released from their body if they’ve never had one” ~ Ariel Sommers Ariel tells us about rRest, which allows us to get into your mind and silence that inner critic. As women we all have that inner critic who tells us we’re not good enough, we’re not worthy … rRest finds the root cause of that story and pulls it out by the roots. This allows us to get rid of the story and heal it through forgiveness and allowing new positive growth to happen. “Fail stands for Finding Answers In Learning” ~ Ariel Sommers This is a deep conversation touching upon childhood moments that become traumas that need to be healed and ways to heal trauma and betrayal. TUNE IN HERE [https://jennirochelle.com/podcast/]. Connect with Jenni: Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship? Take the quiz [https://jennirochelle.com/quiz/] that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now. Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life [https://www.facebook.com/groups/afulllifewithjennirochelle]. Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal [https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal]. Follow Jenni on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thejennirochelle] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jenni.rochelle.coach]. Connect with Ariel: Learn more about Ariel and rRest Here [https://t2tmamas.com/] Schedule a session Here [https://rrestwithariel.as.me/schedule.php] Follow her: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/trauma2triumph_mamas] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/T2Tmamas] TikTok [https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLgSkAwt/]

Carol Juergensen Sheets, widely known as Carol the Coach, is our fabulously audacious guest today. She is a legend in the community of recovery from sex addiction and working with partners of sex addicts. She's one of my personal sheroes and I'm honored and thrilled to have her on the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast. Carol is a mental health therapist who has been treating individuals and couples for over 41 years. She is a certified sexual addictions counselor and certified partners of sexual addiction trauma specialist. She trains clinicians and coaches nationally and internationally, and believes that her partner-sensitive treatment approach enhances treating sexual addiction and partner trauma in the relationship. Her style assists couples in healing the shame and pain of sexual addiction and she uses post-traumatic growth to emphasize a client’s strengths. Carol hosts podcasts and YouTube channels, and has just released her third book called Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal. Her latest book informs couples on the methodology behind ERCEM – Carol’s revolutionary Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model – to help the couple heal together. Carol the Coach has decades of wisdom to share with us. We discuss what led each of us to APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), which Carol is now both Treasurer of their board and Supervisor to clinicians and coaches.  Carol joined APSATS after making a profound observation of her clients: "... My sex addicts were getting better and my partners weren't, and I just said, 'you know what - we have got to change up this field and we've got to get them more resources'...And what do you do when you want to change the world? You change yourself." ~ Carol the Coach We talk about the different healing phases from partner betrayal, and how Carol works with couples to heal from sexual betrayal. You won't want to miss this fascinating conversation from one of the leaders in the betrayal trauma space. xoxo, Jenni ----------------------------- Connect with Carol: Purchase Carol's new book Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal here [https://www.sanopress.com/books/help-them-heal]. Learn more about the work that she does here [https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/]. Podcast: Sex Help with Carol the Coach [https://www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach] YouTube: Sex Help with Carol the Coach [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ9bJOtamWEhEWW44tl17WA] Connect with Jenni: Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship? Take the quiz [https://jennirochelle.com/quiz/] that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now. Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life [https://www.facebook.com/groups/afulllifewithjennirochelle]. Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal [https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal]. Follow Jenni on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thejennirochelle] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jenni.rochelle.coach].

Sara Chizek is a grief and sensuality coach. After losing her father at the young age of four led her through many years of numbness, she finally learned how to turn her grief into her superpower.  Now she helps other women move through their own grief in order to find joy and freedom on the other side. Sara leads grief workshops and group and individual coaching programs to empower others to harness the energy of their grief and turn it into pleasure, passion, and power. So, you immediately know why I had to have her on the podcast to talk to us! Moving through grief is a huge part of finding Beauty After Betrayal. Sarah and I talk about the constraints around grief that society puts on women as well as our general reluctance to explore the deeper places within ourselves where we store our grief. Grief can be exhausting and overwhelming, and we may think that by not acknowledging it we can avoid the pain – but the truth is, that until we work through it, grief is going to completely run the show. "Grief is such a sneaky bitch."  ~ Sara Chizek Sara and I explore the journey of how we can use the powerful energy of grief to transform our lives and the world around us. Her work focuses on the importance of creating a safe container for women to move through grief so they can learn how to access the next thing - joy.  She gives women permission to be powerful, wild, sensual, and fully empowered to own their entire range of emotions. Join us as Sara shares her tips and tools for moving through grief, and how one of the most profound ways we can move and release grief is through our bodies. TUNE IN HERE [https://jennirochelle.com/podcast/]. "I like to think of (grief) as like an iceberg, and we just slowly thaw it out, because there isn't that quick fix... I hope your listeners take comfort in the fact that this journey does get to be your own... you get to move at the pace that feels right to you..." ~Sara Chizek xoxo, Jenni ------------------------- Connect with Jenni: Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship? Take the quiz [https://jennirochelle.com/quiz/] that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now. Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life [https://www.facebook.com/groups/afulllifewithjennirochelle]. Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal [https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal]. Follow Jenni on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thejennirochelle] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jenni.rochelle.coach]. Connect with Sara: Join the Glowing Goddess Membership [https://www.sarachizek.com/glowing-goddess-membership] for a monthly grief release party and more! Come hang out with her on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thesarachizek/]. Current programs can be found at www.sarachizek.com [http://www.sarachizek.com/] Facebook Community to Vent/Release and Be Witnessed: [http://www.sarachizek.com/] https://www.facebook.com/groups/swampingcircle [https://www.facebook.com/groups/swampingcircle]

Sara Fernandezshows up in this week's episode, fully in her truth, and courageously sharing her powerful story with all of us. I met Sara while we were both fundraising forTruth Be Told [https://www.truth-be-told.org/]– a nonprofit organization that provides transformational trauma-response programs for women who are or have been incarcerated. (Check out Episode 27 [https://jennirochelle.com/episode-27-telling-truths-with-angie-hejl-a-journey-from-incarceration-to-healing-purpose/]where I interview Angie Hejl, who is on the board of directors of Truth Be Told and has her own powerful story to tell.) Sara is a mom, a career woman, an entrepreneur, and a social influencer. And sister, does she have a story to tell. Like many of the women I work with, she experienced betrayal trauma from romantic relationships but realizes that her journey with trauma actually started much earlier in her precious life. "We talk about people being spoon-fed... well, those who had received healthy love on a spoon, there were others who were licking it off of knives. The bar gets set as children. We will continue to accept what we only know. We were not shown more." Her unresolved trauma carried her through a series of toxic and abusive relationships, which sadly extended to the abuse of her children. When her youngest daughter tragically passed under suspicious circumstances, she found herself not only utterly devastated and heartbroken but also sentenced to prison. Even though her trauma and discoveries of abuse continued after her release, she carried on and found the strength to show up in a healthy and loving way for her children and for herself. Sara has done the work. She has been through therapy.  She has been a strong and loving mama to her children. She has moved beyond toxic and abusive relationships.  She has taken her life back and found purpose and presence. Literally days away from what would have been her daughter's 18th birthday, she graced us with her presence, with her truth, and with her beautiful and open heart. Her transparency and her truth-telling will undoubtedly open your heart as well. Tune in beauties.  You don't want to miss this one. xoxo, Jenni

Sweet listeners, you are in for one hell of a great story today on the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast. I have the incredible, charismatic, energetic, inspirational, and drop-dead gorgeous, Bella, who is joining us to share her comeback story. Coming out of a childhood rife with neglect and abuse, she thought she had found her Prince Charming when she met her then-husband. Bonding over their similar childhood traumas, and wooed by his charm and good looks, she thought a marriage with him was her ticket to breaking the abusive cycle of her past. Sadly, it turned out to be just another version of the trauma she knew all too well. Bella shares with us the 3 "big bombs" that broke apart the facade of her fairytale. From discovering porn videos, to finding a Craigslist sex solicitation ad, to a tragic act of violence, she weaves a story of the lies, delayed disclosures, half truths, and gaslighting that unraveled her relationship. "There were so many red flags, could have made a scarf with them." ~ Bella Join us as we talk about the societal and cultural pressures to "keep your man", the painful tears in your own familial and social circles when you dare to break the code of conduct of staying and staying silent, and the strength and happiness you find when you finally set yourself free and claim the life you deserve. Bella shares some incredible wisdom with us as she talks about the many gifts that have come on the other side of betrayal. One of the most precious to her has been blazing a trail for her children and showing them, through her own actions, what being brave and a healthy life really looks like. And she found love again. As it turns out - there is love after betrayal. There are good men out there. There are a lot of "green flags," too. And you know what? Happiness looks great on her. "I didn't get to choose my trauma. I didn't get to choose the circumstances around my birth. But I got to choose my healing." ~ Bella xoxo, Jenni ---------------------------------------------- Connect with Jenni: Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship? Take the quiz [https://jennirochelle.com/quiz/] that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now. Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life [https://www.facebook.com/groups/afulllifewithjennirochelle]. Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal [https://www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal]. Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more! Follow Jenni on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thejennirochelle] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jenni.rochelle.coach].