51 | What If the Real You Isn’t Gone? Finding Yourself After Covert Narcissistic Abuse Starts Here

51 | What If the Real You Isn’t Gone? Finding Yourself After Covert Narcissistic Abuse Starts Here

Have you ever looked at your life after covert narcissistic abuse and wondered, “Where did I go?” Do you feel like you’re doing what needs to be done but deep down, you don’t really feel like yourself anymore? Are you trying to rebuild confidence after narcissistic abuse, but it still feels impossible? In this episode, I’m sharing why finding yourself after narcissistic abuse can feel so confusing, especially when gaslighting has trained you to doubt and second-guess everything, including who you are. If you’ve been trying to heal from covert narcissistic abuse and wondering whether the real you is gone, this conversation will help you begin seeing yourself with more compassion. I pray it gives you hope as well. All is not lost. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] → Become An Insider [https://bit.ly/confidenceinsiders] → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call [https://tidycal.com/coachingcall/onehour] Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com [admin@growingthroughpains.com]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/bb/podcast/confidence-after-narcissistic-abuse-covert-narcissist/id1856589890] — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

50 | This Is What Happens When You Stop Second Guessing Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

Have you ever had a sense of what you were supposed to do — a nudge, a knowing — and just kept pushing it down because you did not trust it? Do you have something sitting inside you that you have been too afraid to step into because someone else's voice convinced you it was pointless? Learning to trust yourself again after covert narcissistic abuse does not always feel dramatic. Sometimes it looks like finally doing the thing you sat on for over a year because someone told you it was pointless. In this episode I share my story of writing and publishing my first book — the inner knowing that was always there, being mocked and discouraged, sitting on it for over a year while that person's voice played on repeat in my head, and the moment I started evaluating those thoughts and realised they were not actually mine. This is what reclaiming your self-worth and discernment looks like in real life. Not a big breakthrough moment — just one step, one act of trusting yourself, and watching what God does with it. Resources Mentioned → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness [https://www.growingthroughpains.com/unshackled]  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] → Become An Insider [https://bit.ly/confidenceinsiders] → Book A Coaching Call [https://tidycal.com/coachingcall/onehour] Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com [admin@growingthroughpains.com]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/bb/podcast/confidence-after-narcissistic-abuse-covert-narcissist/id1856589890] — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

49 | Sick of Asking Yourself Why You Stayed? This Is What Covert Narcissistic Abuse Actually Does

Have you ever felt like something must be wrong with you for staying in a narcissistic relationship as long as you did? Do you find yourself still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you and not understanding why? Have you ever felt judged or judged yourself for going back to a narcissistic relationship after you knew better? If you have been carrying shame about staying in narcissistic abuse, going back, or still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you — this episode is going to speak directly to that. I share my own honest experience and we get into why leaving covert narcissistic abuse is so much harder than it looks from the outside.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] → Become An Insider [https://bit.ly/confidenceinsiders] → Book A Coaching Call [https://tidycal.com/coachingcall/onehour] Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com [admin@growingthroughpains.com]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/bb/podcast/confidence-after-narcissistic-abuse-covert-narcissist/id1856589890] — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

48 | The Real Cost of Narcissistic Abuse On Your Identity

Have you ever looked up and realised you had become someone you did not recognise and could not even pinpoint when it happened? Did you spend years changing yourself, shrinking yourself, trying to be enough and it still was never enough? Covert narcissistic abuse has a way of taking you from yourself so gradually you do not even notice until you look up one day and feel like a stranger to yourself. In this episode I get honest about what that looked like for me — the slow numbing, the shrinking, the keeping quiet, and finally being told I may never change even after years of being willing to become whatever was required. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who spent years adjusting yourself trying to fix a relationship and wondering why it was never enough — this episode is for you. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] → Become An Insider [https://bit.ly/confidenceinsiders] → Book A Coaching Call [https://tidycal.com/coachingcall/onehour] Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com [admin@growingthroughpains.com]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/bb/podcast/confidence-after-narcissistic-abuse-covert-narcissist/id1856589890] — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

47 | The #1 Key to Restoring Your Confidence After Covert Narcissistic Abuse

Do you constantly question your judgment, your worth and your abilitieseven while you look like you have it all together on the outside? Have you tried to feel confident after narcissistic abuse, or maybe never even known where to start? What if rebuilding your confidence and self-worth after narcissistic abuse doesn't start with confidence at all but with reconnecting to the voice God placed in you? If you have been wanting to feel confident again after narcissistic abuse or whether you have tried everything or have not known where to begin — this episode is your starting point. Confidence is not where healing begins. Narcissistic abuse, especially the gaslighting that comes with it, goes after your internal voice directly — not just your decisions, but your sense of your own worth, your abilities, and who you actually are — until you doubt your grasp on reality and on yourself. But that inner knowing, that God-given instinct, doesn't disappear. It gets buried under everything that was said over it. Learning to recognise it again, with God and not apart from Him, and telling it apart from the voice that moved in, is essential for restoring your self-worth and confidence after narcissistic abuse.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] → Become An Insider [https://bit.ly/confidenceinsiders] → Book A Coaching Call [https://tidycal.com/coachingcall/onehour] Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com [admin@growingthroughpains.com]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community [https://bit.ly/narcissismunmasked] Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/bb/podcast/confidence-after-narcissistic-abuse-covert-narcissist/id1856589890] — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.