Dad Tired

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answers—but with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasn’t told a single lie in 156 days, how intensive counseling broke him open, and what it means to be a “truth teller” in a world of escape. Whether it’s porn, alcohol, work, or Oreos—this is an invitation to stop numbing and start healing. If you're tired of hiding, if you're tired of performing, and you're ready to be fully present—this episode is for you. In this episode: * Why Jerrad hasn't lied in over 150 days (and why it matters) * The moment he broke down in counseling—and what it revealed * How performance becomes a survival tactic for so many men * Why honesty feels terrifying but is essential for freedom * Escapism, addiction, and the real reason we keep going back * What meditation taught him (and why he fell asleep once 😂) * The danger of "socially acceptable" numbing habits (Oreos, Zillow, work) * How to catch yourself in the act of escaping—and sit with your feelings instead Key Challenge for Listeners: Ask yourself:🧠 What are you trying to escape from?🔍 What are you using to escape? You don’t need to be perfect. But you do need to be honest. Start here. Resources & Mentions: * Dad Tired Community: dadtired.com [https://www.dadtired.com/] * Support the show or sponsor inquiries: DadTired.com/donate * Today’s sponsor: BackGatePrayers.com promo code DADTIRED

Most Christian men wouldn’t call it an addiction. “It’s just something I struggle with…” But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers. We talk about: * Why confession isn’t the finish line * The 3 questions that revealed Nick’s addiction * What white-knuckling recovery really looks like * How trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycle This isn’t just about porn. It’s about what your soul is really craving. * Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.org [https://www.puredesire.org/] * Get Nick’s book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2P * Start your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com [https://www.dadtired.com/]] * Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families well A special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tired community for their support, Chris teaches through the next key biblical traits of godly manhood: Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble. With deep theological insight, biblical references, and real-life application, this episode challenges men to take spiritual leadership seriously—at home, in the church, and in the world. Bible Passages Mentioned: * John 8 – Jesus and the woman caught in adultery * 1 Timothy 3:4-5 – Managing one's family well * Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers training and instructing children * Genesis 18:19 – Directing one’s household in the way of the Lord * Genesis 3:6 – Adam’s passivity in the Garden * 1 Samuel 3:11 – Eli’s failure to discipline his sons * Mark 5 – Jesus healing the bleeding woman * 2 Timothy 1:7 – Spirit of power, love, and self-control * Proverbs 16:32 – Better to be patient than a warrior * Philippians 2 – Christ’s humility * Proverbs 24:16 – The righteous fall seven times but rise again * 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – Be strong, courageous, and do everything in love * Luke 23 – Jesus carrying the cross * 1 Timothy 4:8 – Godliness has value for all things * Titus 2:7-8 – Teaching with integrity * 1 Samuel 15 – Saul's disobedience * Matthew 4 – Jesus’ temptation * John 17 – Jesus interceding for his disciples * Nehemiah 4:14 – Fight for your families * Philippians 4:8 – Whatever is noble, think about such things * Proverbs 22:1 – A good name is more desirable than riches * Micah 6:8 – Do justice, love mercy, walk humbly * Acts 5 – Ananias and Sapphira * Joshua 7 – The sin of Achan * John 18 – Jesus on trial before Pilate * Isaiah 53:7 – Like a lamb silent before its shearers * Luke 23:34 – Jesus forgives those who crucified Him Discussion Questions: 1. Which of the PRIME MEN traits (Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, Noble) do you most naturally embody, and which one do you struggle with the most? Why? (Bonus: Print the list and literally highlight where you're strong and where you're bleeding, as suggested in the episode.) 2. Read Ephesians 6:4. What does it look like for you, specifically, to take spiritual responsibility for your kids? In what ways have you been tempted to hand that role off to someone else? 3. How have you misunderstood meekness in the past? What would it look like for you to walk in “power under control” this week? 4. How does your private life reflect your integrity? Are there places in your life where you are “fractioned” or living in two different personas? What does integration look like for you? 5. In a culture that values comfort and ease, what does it mean to endure like Jesus? How can you practically grow in endurance and perseverance when life gets hard?