Ease and Grow

Do you suspect you're a people pleaser? It's time to release the need to please! Book a free coaching consult [https://tidycal.com/brightlysika/life-on-purpose-consult] with me to see if coaching is right for you: https://tidycal.com/brightlysika/life-on-purpose-consult or email: brightlysika@gmail.com In today's episode, I deep dive into people pleasing after having a personal reckoning with it myself recently. After watching this new season of Mormon Wives with friends and seeing Jen's people pleasing tendencies, I felt called to do some deeper research into it and help us all break free from the chains!  I go over the four trauma responses including the fawn response, the traits of people pleasing, my personal experience with it as a second generation child, tips to reduce people pleasing and questions to ask yourself to be sure you're not people pleasing. I mention: * Episode 25 - Life Catch-up [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-life-catch-up-dating-lessons-books-shadow-work-and-more/id1541061132?i=1000709633750] * Episode 22 - Confronting Codependency with Therapist Atim Bassey [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/22-confronting-codependency-with-therapist-atim-bassey/id1541061132?i=1000697828880] * Psych Central Fawn Response [https://psychcentral.com/health/fawn-response]  * Psych Central - The Psychology Behind People Pleasing [https://psychcentral.com/health/the-need-to-please-the-psychology-of-people-pleasing] Connect with me! * IG: @BrightlySika_ [https://www.instagram.com/brightlysika_?ref=badge] * www.BrightlySika.com [http://www.brightlysika.com/] * Want advice? Submit a conundrum for an upcoming advice episode  [https://forms.gle/L84xpQjpSDFuB29aA] * Want coaching support? Reach out for a free coaching consult [https://tidycal.com/brightlysika/life-on-purpose-consult]! * In the DMV area? Join Cozy Growth Book Club [https://forms.gle/fMQdj6f8dxFCqGpn7]! Thanks for listening! ❤️

I hit my goal of 5 episodes for the year and now I'm off the the races -- 2 episodes in one month! In this episode I yap about a recent dating experience that helped show me how much my feeling my feelings practice has increased my capacity for discomfort 😀. I share about some books I've been loving, my subconscious fears around dating from the deepest fear inventory exercise in Existential Kink, my new flower remedy I've just started, a fun family realization that came out of the aforementioned dating scenario, and I celebrate some wins! Get cozy for this girly catch up sesh.  Thanks for rocking with me for 25 episodes 🥳 I mention: * Existential Kink by Carolyn Lovewell * What Now? with Trevor Noah: Neuro-Spicy: Discussing ADHD with Dr. Kristin Carothers [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/neuro-spicy-discussing-adhd-with-dr-kristin-carothers/id1710609544?i=1000705649528] * How To Be Dateable by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu * The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins * Alexis Smart's Flower Remedy Beauty Formula #9 * The Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo * Lymphatic Drainage video [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHgYSPhJeJU/?igsh=OWVnMWk2ODA4Y3N5] on instagram Connect with me! * IG: @BrightlySika_ [https://www.instagram.com/brightlysika_?ref=badge] * www.BrightlySika.com [http://www.brightlysika.com/] * Want advice? Submit a conundrum for an upcoming advice episode  [https://forms.gle/L84xpQjpSDFuB29aA] * Want coaching support? Reach out for a free coaching consult [https://tidycal.com/brightlysika/life-on-purpose-consult]! * In the DMV area? Join Cozy Growth Book Club [https://forms.gle/fMQdj6f8dxFCqGpn7]! Thanks for listening! ❤️

In todays solo episode, I go over the practice I've been using to actually feel my feelings over the past couple of months. So often, we think we're feeling our feelings when really we're intellectualizing them. Actually feeling them is a somatic experience that happens in the body, not the mind.  I share the benefits of cultivating a feeling your feelings practice and how growing your capacity for feelings creates courage and leads to us being able to do brave things that get us closer to our dream life! I mentioned: * Take Back your Brain by Kara Loewenthile * Inner Excellence by Jim Murphy * Existential Kink by Carolyn Lovewell * Welcoming the Unwelcome by Pema Chodron * Bella Lively's Sophia Sessions and Bean Bag release [https://insighttimer.com/alivelyworld/guided-meditations/inner-peace-for-heavy-emotions] * Alexis Smart's Whole Hearted Flower Remedy * The Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo * Armchair Expert Podcast Connect with me! * IG: @BrightlySika_ [https://www.instagram.com/brightlysika_?ref=badge] * www.BrightlySika.com [http://www.BrightlySika.com] * Want advice? Submit a conundrum for an upcoming advice episode  [https://forms.gle/L84xpQjpSDFuB29aA] * Want coaching support? Reach out for a free coaching consult [https://tidycal.com/brightlysika/life-on-purpose-consult]! * In the DMV area? Join Cozy Growth Book Club [https://forms.gle/fMQdj6f8dxFCqGpn7]! Thanks for listening! ❤️

In this episode, I’m joined for the THIRD time by our ~unofficial~ resident astrologer, Camille Michelle Gray. This time to chat about the wild and wacky current astrology we're living in: the Virgo/Pisces Eclipses, Mercury retrograde, Venus Retrograde, Neptune entering Aries, and how we can all care for ourselves in the midst of all of it.  I love Camille's approach to astrology because she never harps on the doom and gloom, she gives us tools and shows us the path to extract whatever lesson the moment is teaching us.  During our chat, we go over what eclipses are and the current eclipses affecting us, we dig into the 8th house (once again), she shares how to make the best use of mercury rx and venus rx, she goes over the upcoming astrology of the next 3 months leading up to summer and she generously goes through each rising sign and shares how each can plan to care for themselves through the themes of the current eclipses (which will be felt for the next 6 months!!). We mentioned: * Camille’s first episode: Ep. 4. Astrology 101 with Camille Michelle Gray [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/4-astrology-101-camille-michelle-gray-fun-tool-for/id1541061132?i=1000505965431] * Camille's second episode: Ep 19. Astrology 201 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-astrology-201-with-camille-michelle-gray-surviving/id1541061132?i=1000528868532] * Find your chart on astro.com [https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=3&btyp=w2gw], astro-charts.com [https://astro-charts.com/tools/new/birth-chart/] or on Chani Nicholas [https://chart.chaninicholas.com/] * Bella Lively [https://bellalively.com/] - Inner Voice journaling * Everything Happens for a Reason [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/396332.Everything_Happens_for_a_Reason] by Mira Kirshenbaum Connect with us! * camillemichellegray.com [https://camillemichellegray.com/] * IG: @millymichelle [https://www.instagram.com/millymichelle/] * G: @BrightlySika_ [https://www.instagram.com/brightlysika_/] * Ease & Grow Website [http://www.brightlysika.com/ease-and-grow-podcast] – www.brightlysika.com/ease-and-grow-podcast * Pod Suggestion Box! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSff3xygVP4nAeLlgqgtAbg1gKUP5nBErZmPl7LMVa88MskKFQ/viewform] – let me know what you want to hear! * Write into my advice column in this form [https://forms.gle/6uwVtrwwacuYCgpx6]! * Leave us a rating & review! [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ease-grow/id1541061132] Thanks for listening! ❤️

In this episode, I chat with Atim Bassey, LCSW-C, an amazing therapist and my real life cousin (lucky me!).  We talk about her journey to becoming a therapist -- from case management to being a functional family therapist and now having her own private practice. How to know if your therapy relationship is working, What inspired her to recommend the book Codependent No More to me, the experience that taught me to be less passive aggressive, how to break a codependent cycle, and how to create healthy boundaries -- especially emotionally. I hope this sheds light on any codependent patterns you may notice in yourself and gives you a first step to help liberate you from the pain it can cause. We mention: * Codependent No More by Melody Beattie * The Codependency Recovery Plan: A 5-Step Guide to Understand, Accept, and Break Free from the Codependent Cycle by Krystal Mazzola Wood, LMFT Connect with us: * Atim's Psychology Today Page [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/atim-bassey-couples-and-family-therapist-gaithersburg-md/1333938] * IG: @BrightlySika_ [https://www.instagram.com/brightlysika_/] * Ease & Grow Website [http://www.brightlysika.com/ease-and-grow-podcast] – www.brightlysika.com/ease-and-grow-podcast * Pod Suggestion Box! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSff3xygVP4nAeLlgqgtAbg1gKUP5nBErZmPl7LMVa88MskKFQ/viewform] – let me know what you want to hear! * Write into my advice column in this form [https://forms.gle/6uwVtrwwacuYCgpx6]! * Leave us a rating & review! [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ease-grow/id1541061132]