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The Part of You That You Left Behind with Kate Bares

54 min · 18. maj 2026
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Most people don't want to admit they carry shame. It's the thing we hide. The thing we bury. The reason we stay too long, settle for less, and abandon ourselves to keep the peace. In this episode, Danielle sits down with Kate Bares, creator of the Soul Integration Method, to talk about what's actually underneath the patterns we keep repeating. Kate spent almost a decade in a covert narcissistic relationship. She did the trauma work. She thought she was back. Then the panic attacks started. What she found is what most people miss in their healing. The shame was already there long before the relationship. And until she reclaimed the part of herself she'd left behind to survive, she couldn't fully come home. In this conversation, Kate and Danielle get into: * Why shame is the root of most self-abandonment patterns * The difference between shame and guilt, and why one is healthy and one is not * What "you're out of runway, turn around" really means * How childhood interpretations get rooted in the nervous system * Why healing isn't linear and never was * Co-regulating with the part of you that's still stuck in time * Reaction versus response, and what shifts when your adult self walks back into the room If you've done the trauma work and still feel stuck, this one is for you. Kate A. Bares is a transformational guide, founder of The Center for Well Being of Austin, and creator of The Soul Integration Method™ - a unique process that helps people reconnect with their authentic Self after emotional trauma, betrayal, or burnout. For over 30 years, Kate has guided women (and a few brave men) to move beyond survival patterns of anxiety, codependency, and self-doubt - and into the freedom of living true to who they are. Her work blends grounded psychology, soul wisdom, and intuitive energy healing into a gentle, powerful path home to the Self. Connect with Kate: * https://www.thecenterforwellbeing.com [https://www.thecenterforwellbeing.com] * https://www.instagram.com/soulintegrationmethod [https://www.instagram.com/soulintegrationmethod] * https://www.facebook.com/kateabares.soul [https://www.facebook.com/kateabares.soul] Connect with Danielle: * Website: inspiredactionwellness.com [http://inspiredactionwellness.com] * Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness * Book: From Surviving to Thriving: A Journey Beyond Trauma Ready to work directly with your stored trauma? Somatic EMDR sessions are open. Learn more at www.inspiredactionwellness.com/somatic_emdr [http://www.inspiredactionwellness.com/somatic_emdr]

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episode The Part of You That You Left Behind with Kate Bares cover

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Most people don't want to admit they carry shame. It's the thing we hide. The thing we bury. The reason we stay too long, settle for less, and abandon ourselves to keep the peace. In this episode, Danielle sits down with Kate Bares, creator of the Soul Integration Method, to talk about what's actually underneath the patterns we keep repeating. Kate spent almost a decade in a covert narcissistic relationship. She did the trauma work. She thought she was back. Then the panic attacks started. What she found is what most people miss in their healing. The shame was already there long before the relationship. And until she reclaimed the part of herself she'd left behind to survive, she couldn't fully come home. In this conversation, Kate and Danielle get into: * Why shame is the root of most self-abandonment patterns * The difference between shame and guilt, and why one is healthy and one is not * What "you're out of runway, turn around" really means * How childhood interpretations get rooted in the nervous system * Why healing isn't linear and never was * Co-regulating with the part of you that's still stuck in time * Reaction versus response, and what shifts when your adult self walks back into the room If you've done the trauma work and still feel stuck, this one is for you. Kate A. Bares is a transformational guide, founder of The Center for Well Being of Austin, and creator of The Soul Integration Method™ - a unique process that helps people reconnect with their authentic Self after emotional trauma, betrayal, or burnout. For over 30 years, Kate has guided women (and a few brave men) to move beyond survival patterns of anxiety, codependency, and self-doubt - and into the freedom of living true to who they are. Her work blends grounded psychology, soul wisdom, and intuitive energy healing into a gentle, powerful path home to the Self. Connect with Kate: * https://www.thecenterforwellbeing.com [https://www.thecenterforwellbeing.com] * https://www.instagram.com/soulintegrationmethod [https://www.instagram.com/soulintegrationmethod] * https://www.facebook.com/kateabares.soul [https://www.facebook.com/kateabares.soul] Connect with Danielle: * Website: inspiredactionwellness.com [http://inspiredactionwellness.com] * Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness * Book: From Surviving to Thriving: A Journey Beyond Trauma Ready to work directly with your stored trauma? Somatic EMDR sessions are open. Learn more at www.inspiredactionwellness.com/somatic_emdr [http://www.inspiredactionwellness.com/somatic_emdr]

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