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Could Your Elderly Parent Be Scammed?

50 min · 5. maj 2026
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Do you think your elderly parent could be talked into a financial scam? I asked this recently in the Grown Ass community. 43% said they already worry about it. For 28%, it's already happened in their family. And the stories that came in were from people who described themselves as sharp, aware, and not the type—and it happened anyway. Because that is exactly who these scammers target. Not only the people who are vulnerable, but also the people who believe they aren't. Today's guest (we'll call her Stephanie) watched her mother, a woman who had been happily married for nearly 70 years, become the target of a calculated scheme that could have absolutely taken everything. What started as a chance meeting in a supermarket aisle turned into eight months of isolation, love bombing, and financial manipulation — and the one thing that stood between her mother and losing it all was a decision her family had made years earlier. We're talking about what the red flags actually look like, why smart people fall for this every day, what elder abuse really means legally, and why a trust isn't just for multimillionaires; it's a financial speed bump that could save your family. This episode is not legal advice. It is one family's story. And it is absolutely worth hearing.

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