Charging What You're Worth When You Were Never Taught You're Worth It

Charging What You're Worth When You Were Never Taught You're Worth It

For over a decade my motto was the struggle is real. And I meant it literally. Crippling debt, bankruptcy in my early twenties, living in Southern California on community mental health wages while the spiritual community told me to raise my vibration. You cannot manifest from a nervous system in survival mode. And nobody was saying that out loud. This episode is about money and what it actually means to be a Black healer, a Black therapist, a Black woman in a helping profession who was never taught that her worth had a dollar amount. We're going into why Black therapists don't accept insurance and why that is a systemic failure not a personal choice, what the wound around worth actually looks like in practice, and why I started doing Reiki for free long after I was ready to charge. Forty percent of my practice is pro bono or sliding scale. I have been in private practice and have not yet raised my rates. I am telling you this not because I have it figured out but because I think the most radical thing a Black woman in a helping profession can do is tell the truth about what this actually costs. Find me on Instagram, Threads or Twitter @darrynkrobinson. Interested in working with me? Check out my website at holistichealingtherapy.co [holistichealingtherapy.co]

What Juneteenth Actually Means — Liberation, the Body, and Who Gets to Tell the Story

On June 19th 1865 Union soldiers arrived in Galveston, Texas and told Black people what had already been true for two and a half years. That they were free. The delay was not accidental. Freedom had been the law of the land and the people it applied to were kept in bondage through deliberate deception. This episode is sacred and it is political and it is personal. I'm sharing a story about a friendship that ended, about what happens when Black women educate white people about their own history and watch that knowledge get worn like a costume in white rooms with no attribution and no acknowledgment of where it came from. I'm giving you the full history of Juneteenth because it belongs to us and we deserve to know it completely. And I'm talking about what liberation actually feels like in the nervous system of a body that has been conditioned for generations to brace. We close with an ancestral ritual to honor the ones who chose the water instead of bondage. The ones who did not survive to see June 19th but whose radical self determination made every freedom that came after possible. This one is for us. Find me on Instagram, Threads or Twitter @darrynkrobinson. Interested in working with me? Check out my website at holistichealingtherapy.co [holistichealingtherapy.co]

Grace for the Ugly Parts: On Being a Healer Who Is Still Healing

I kept seeing clients while my body was shaking. While I was losing weight rapidly, not sleeping, not eating, running on empty in ways most of my clients never knew. This episode is for every healer, therapist, helper, and caregiver who has ever held space for someone else while privately coming undone. We're talking about what it actually means to be a wounded healer, the cultural messaging that taught so many of us, especially in BIPOC households, that suffering in silence is strength, and why my clinical supervisor Dr. Lopez gave me permission that my upbringing never could. Self disclosure is not weakness. It is a clinical tool. And grace for the ugly parts of your own healing is not optional. It is the foundation. This one is personal and it is necessary. Find me on Instagram, Threads or Twitter @darrynkrobinson. Interested in working with me? Check out my website at holistichealingtherapy.co [holistichealingtherapy.co]

What Nobody Tells You About Grief: Loss, the Body, and Learning to Feel it All

Grief is not reserved for death. And nobody tells you that. In this episode I'm talking about what grief actually is, where it lives in the body, why the five stages were never meant to be a checklist, and why your loss counts regardless of what caused it. We're going into anticipatory grief, the grief that arrives before the loss, how highly anxious nervous systems begin mourning months before an ending even happens, and what it actually looks like to move through grief rather than just push past it. I'm also recording this one from inside some fresh personal grief, which felt like exactly the right time to have this conversation. Guided ancestral breath practice included. Find me on Instagram, Threads or Twitter @darrynkrobinson. Interested in working with me? Check out my website at holistichealingtherapy.co [holistichealingtherapy.co]

What Euphoria Got Right — Addiction, Mental Health, and the Stories We Don't Tell Honestly Enough

The Euphoria series finale aired this week and the internet has a lot of feelings about it. As a psychotherapist who has spent years sitting with people living inside exactly what this show depicted, I wanted to offer something different than a hot take, which is a clinical and compassionate look at what Euphoria actually got right about addiction and mental health across three seasons. This bonus episode covers Rue's comorbid diagnoses and why the show depicted them with more clinical accuracy than most mainstream media attempts, the Rue and Ali relationship as one of the most honest portrayals of recovery mentorship I have seen on screen, what passive suicidal ideation that has calcified into a worldview actually looks like clinically and why it is so difficult to treat, the fentanyl crisis and what Angus Cloud's real death added to the show's ending, and the valid criticism of Euphoria alongside what I think it got undeniably right. This episode also contains crisis resources because the content warrants it. If anything here is activating for you personally, 988 is available by call or text at any time. Find me on Instagram, Threads or Twitter @darrynkrobinson. Interested in working with me? Check out my website at holistichealingtherapy.co [holistichealingtherapy.co]