81: Relationships Deserve Love, Not Gossip

81: Relationships Deserve Love, Not Gossip

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling a little off, but you couldn't quite figure out why? In this week's episode, we're talking about gossip, friendships, and the kind of conversations we want to create more of in our lives. This is one of those topics that can feel uncomfortable because if we're being honest, we've all participated in gossip at some point. It's easy to fall into, especially when it's become such a normal part of everyday conversations, social media, and even friendship dynamics. But this conversation isn't about judgment. It's about awareness. We're talking about the difference between venting and gossip, why gossip can feel like connection in the moment, and how it can quietly impact trust, relationships, and the way we show up in our friendships. We also share ways we're personally working on being more intentional with our words, redirecting conversations that don't feel aligned, and creating deeper friendships built on trust, encouragement, and genuine connection. In this episode, we talk about: • The difference between venting and gossip • Why gossip feels so tempting and normalized • How gossip can quietly affect trust in friendships • The connection between insecurity, comparison, and judgment • What healthy, life-giving conversations look like  • How to redirect conversations without creating conflict • Protecting your peace and being intentional about what you engage in • Choosing friendships rooted in trust, kindness, and depth At the end of the day, we're not striving for perfect friendships. We're simply trying to create relationships that feel safe, supportive, and aligned with the kind of women we're becoming. If you've been craving deeper conversations and more meaningful friendships, we think this episode will really resonate with you 🤍 xoxo, Jacqui & Ashley Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

80: Summer Vibes in This Season of Motherhood

This week’s episode is basically a big summer catch-up with your internet besties ☀️🤍  We’re talking all about the vibes we’re bringing into this season of motherhood, the little things making life feel good lately, and what summer is realistically looking like for us right now as busy moms. From slower mornings and pool days to family routines, summer plans, trying to romanticize everyday life a little more, and finding joy in the small moments, this episode felt like such a fun and cozy conversation.  We also talk about: * what we want this summer to feel like * balancing motherhood while still enjoying the season ourselves * realistic summer routines Jacqui & Ashley * making memories without pressuring ourselves to do “the most” * embracing slower, simpler moments * the little things currently bringing us joy ☀️ This episode is definitely more lighthearted and chatty, but honestly it also became such a sweet reminder that life doesn’t have to be perfect to feel really good. If you’re in your “trying to enjoy the season I’m in” era, come hang out with us 🤍 We’re so happy you’re here. xoxo  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

79: Your Expectations Are Your Responsibility

Have you ever been upset with someone… and they had absolutely no idea why? 😅 This week, we’re talking all about expectations, disappointment, communication, and the quiet resentment that can build when we expect people to show up in ways we never actually communicated. Because if we’re being honest, so many of us do this. We assume people think like us. Love like us. Show up like us. And when they don’t, it can leave us feeling hurt, frustrated, disappointed, or unseen. In this episode, we’re unpacking the unspoken “rules” we sometimes create in our own heads and how those silent expectations can affect our friendships, relationships, family dynamics, and even motherhood. We talk about: * expecting people to mind-read * projecting our standards and effort onto others * resentment quietly building over time * communicating needs clearly instead of hoping people “just know” * the difference between boundaries and expectations * accepting people for who they are instead of trying to change them One of the biggest things we kept coming back to in this conversation was this: people aren’t always failing you… sometimes they’re simply being who they are. And while that can sting, it also gives you clarity. This episode felt like such an important reminder that peaceful relationships usually come from clear communication, honest expectations, and taking responsibility for what we accept instead of trying to control how others show up. If you’ve been feeling disappointed by people lately or stuck in cycles of resentment, we think this conversation will really resonate with you 🤍  We’re so happy you’re here. xoxo Jacqui & Ashley Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

78:The Emotional Weight Women and Mothers Carry

With Mother’s Day coming up, we wanted to sit down and have a really honest conversation about something that so many women and moms are carrying, but don’t always have the words for. The emotional weight of it all. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, constantly “on,” mentally drained, or like you’re the one holding everything together behind the scenes, this episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible load. The mental checklist that never shuts off. Being the default person everyone comes to. And how exhausting it can feel to always be thinking five steps ahead. We also get into the emotional side of it. Holding space for everyone else’s feelings and attempting to stay calm and regulated even when you’re overwhelmed. And then there’s the motherhood layer. Carrying your kids’ emotions like they’re your own. The guilt, even when you’re doing your best. Showing up every day even when you’re running on empty. And quietly wondering who you are outside of being “mom.” We talk about the parts people don’t always see too. Doing so much and still feeling like it’s not enough. Feeling unacknowledged. Feeling alone in it sometimes. There’s a moment in this episode where we say something that really hit for us: Sometimes it’s not that we need help, we just don’t want to be the one responsible for everything. If that resonates, you’re not alone in that feeling. This conversation is here to remind you that you’re not too much. You might just be carrying too much. And you don’t have to do it all to be enough. We’re right here with you 🤍  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

77: Why You Should Celebrate Yourself More (and Let Others Celebrate You Too)

We celebrate birthdays. Big milestones. The obvious moments. But everything in between? The showing up, the growth, the hard days you got through… we usually just move right past it like it doesn’t count. In this episode, we’re talking about why you deserve to celebrate yourself way more than you probably do. Not just when something big happens, but in your everyday life. We get into how easy it is to downplay our wins, move the goalpost, and tell ourselves we’ll celebrate “later.” And how that can keep us from actually feeling proud of ourselves in the moment. We also talk about something that doesn’t get brought up enough — how uncomfortable it can feel to let other people celebrate you. Both of us share moments where someone was excited for us or proud of us, and our first instinct was to brush it off instead of receiving it. This episode is a reminder that you don’t need permission to celebrate your life. The small things count. The quiet growth counts. You showing up counts. And learning to acknowledge that, and even let other people celebrate you too, is such a big part of building confidence and actually enjoying your life as it is right now. ✨ In this episode, we talk about: * Why we only celebrate ourselves once a year (and why that needs to change) * The small, everyday wins that actually deserve recognition * How we downplay our progress without realizing it * Moving the goalpost and waiting to celebrate “later” * Why receiving praise and celebration can feel uncomfortable * Letting people be excited for you instead of brushing it off * How celebrating yourself builds confidence and self-worth 💭 Reflection for you: * What’s something you’ve done recently that you didn’t give yourself enough credit for? * Where are you waiting to celebrate instead of allowing it now? * How do you respond when someone compliments or celebrates you? 🌸 Try this this week: * Say out loud: “I’m proud of myself for…” * Share a small win with someone you trust * Do something simple to celebrate yourself (flowers, coffee, a slow moment) * Let someone compliment you without deflecting it Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hermit-haven--6315196/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].