Becoming the Parent You Needed

Becoming the Parent You Needed

This episode starts with Mother's Day and Father's Day... and morphs into a conversation about grief, healing, and what it means to become the safe place you never had. We talk about how hallmark holidays can feel so complicated for adult children of emotionally immature parents, especially when you're a parent yourself. How do you celebrate your nuclear family while carrying the weight of the one you came from? Somewhere along the way there's a hard hitting realization that we're grieving something that never really existed: the relationship we hoped we'd have. We also talk about what happens when you stop expecting one person to fill every emotional need, why "being mothered" can come from unexpected places, and why breaking generational cycles is both incredibly healing and incredibly exhausting. Bonus: why "nice" and "kind" are not the same thing, the pressure of raising emotionally healthy kids, and Amanda receives homework for the final year of her 30s. ✨ If you're an elder millennial trying to build the family you always wished you had, follow us @iymn_podcast on Instagram. You're among friends.

Happy Birthday, B*tch.

How DO birthdays work anyway? In this episode, Amanda and Sarah are together in person and discuss growing up without birthday parties, never learning what celebrating yourself looks like, and the weird elder millennial habit of wanting to feel deeply loved while simultaneously not wanting to inconvenience a single person. Somewhere between surprise party logistics, Trader Joe’s sheet cake, and a casual discussion about emotional needs, we find ourselves asking a bigger question: How are people supposed to know what we want if we never tell them? Also: fruit does not belong in cake. ✨ If you're an elder millennial still trying to figure out how to receive love without feeling like a burden, follow us @iymn_podcast and join the conversation.

Last Kid Standing

This episode starts with the usual sister chaos: workout plans, upcoming tattoos, and a debate about whether exercise is secretly a scam that unfortunately works. But underneath the laughter, Sarah and Amanda dive into a childhood experience that shaped them both in very different ways. What happens when you're the last kid standing, waiting to be picked up? Amanda shares memories of being left waiting after practices, lessons, and activities, never quite sure when someone was coming for her. Together, the sisters explore how seemingly ordinary childhood experiences can create lifelong patterns around anxiety, hypervigilance, reliability, and trust. From parentification and nervous systems to raising kids who actually feel safe and loved, this conversation examines the ways we unconsciously build our adult lives around the wounds we are still trying to heal. Sometimes healing looks like understanding why you're always early. Sometimes it looks like becoming the parent you needed. And sometimes it looks like realizing that the child you once were is finally getting what they deserved all along. Follow us on Instagram @iymn_podcast and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who's learning how to break cycles and build something different. ❤️

The Proper Way to Wash Your Face

In this episode big sis Sarah teaches how to properly wash our face, leveraging Korean skincare techniques and the ancient craft of sCieNCe. We chat about marriage, relationships, and the "trad wife" shit that our mother made us think made a "good woman". Think - packing that man's suitcase and pressing his damn shirts. Somewhere along the way we realized that a lot of us weren't taught how to have relationships. We were taught how to be useful. ✨ If you're an elder millennial currently unpacking the rulebook you inherited, follow us @iymn_podcast and join our safe space.

Fear, Guilt, and Country Crock

This episode starts with Sarah and Amanda reminiscing about childhood memories. From Country Crock swimming on toasted bagels to Weight Watchers snacks masquerading as treats, we can all agree the 90s were deep in their diet era. After some encouragement -- the girls get into the "meat and potatoes of the discussion". The seemingly age old phrase: "You'll miss me when I'm gone." After Amanda posed that question to Threads, the responses opened up a much bigger conversation about fear-based parenting, generational patterns, and the things we were told as children that hit very differently as adults. If you're an elder millennial unpacking the messages you inherited and deciding which ones deserve to come with you into the next chapter, you're in the right place. ✨ Follow us on Instagram @iymn_podcast and join our little corner of the internet where we say the quiet part out loud. New episodes every week wherever you get your podcasts.