Yurtism #5: Stop Interpreting Your Partner Through Your Own Lens — They Aren't You

Yurtism #5: Stop Interpreting Your Partner Through Your Own Lens — They Aren't You

When your partner does something that bothers you, what's your first instinct? To ask what they meant — or to assume you already know? Most of us interpret our partner's behavior through the lens of our own personality, our own wiring, our own history. It feels like logic. If I did that, it would mean this — so that must be what it means when they do it. The problem is you are not in a relationship with yourself. You are in a relationship with someone fundamentally different from you, and that filter is going to get you into trouble almost every time. In this episode, Amy explores one of the most common — and most avoidable — sources of conflict in relationships: the moment we stop being curious about our partner and start assuming we already understand them. Spoiler: we usually don't. In this Yurtism, you'll explore: * Why interpreting your partner's behavior through your own personality is a recipe for misreading them * How our individual wiring quietly shapes the assumptions we don't even realize we're making * What it looks like to replace assumption with genuine curiosity about your partner's inner world Your partner is not a version of you. Getting that wrong is costly. Getting it right changes everything.   amyprieb.com [http://amyprieb.com/] insta: @amypriebtherapy facebook: amy prieb lmft

It's Not Nothing: One Woman's Cancer Journey Through Chemo, Community, and Coming Out the Other Side

What happens when the person who holds everything together has to let herself be held? This week, Amy sits down with Jennifer Chipperfield, who, at 53, found herself in the middle of something she couldn't manage, fix, or push through alone — a lymphoma diagnosis that interrupted life as she knew it and asked her to do the one thing that doesn't come naturally to most of us: receive. Together, long-term friends Amy and Jenni talk about what it actually looks like to go through chemotherapy while still showing up for your kids, your work, and your relationships. About the particular loneliness that can live inside a crowded room full of people who love you. About the moment you stop saying "I'm fine" — and what comes after. This conversation is about mortality without being morbid, about community without being sentimental, about friendship and how we show up for each other, and about the strange, tender territory on the other side of treatment — where the chemo is done but the uncertainty isn't.   amyprieb.com [http://amyprieb.com/] insta: @amypriebtherapy facebook: amy prieb lmft

The Forever Mother: Caregiving, Community, and Learning to Let People In

Some people become caregivers gradually. For this week's guest, it's simply always been her life. Amy sits down with Sonia Nations-Gates who has spent decades as the unwavering center of her son's world — a son with complex medical needs, a father who shows up inconsistently, and a community that shows up intermittently. She is a "forever mother," and once you hear her story, you'll understand exactly why. This conversation goes to some tender places. They talk about what it costs to manage your child's medical crisis and his father's emotional needs at the same time. About the friendships that couldn't hold the weight of what she carries and the ones that have sustained her. About the husband who said yes to all of it, and what it's meant to finally lean on someone. And about the quiet, persistent question underneath all of it: outside of being a mother and a caregiver, who am I? This episode is for anyone who has ever loved someone in a way that reorganizes your whole life around them. In this conversation, they get into: * What the "forever mother" identity really means — and what it asks of you * The particular isolation of caregiving that most people can't see from the outside * How marriages and stepfamilies get built around complexity, and where they find their limits * What it looks like when community actually shows up — and what it feels like when it doesn't * The future, and who you can talk to honestly about what it holds amyprieb.com [http://amyprieb.com/] insta: @amypriebtherapy facebook: amy prieb lmft

Where I Am Now — A Survivor's Honest Follow-Up

In this follow-up to our two-part series on childhood sexual abuse and systemic failure, Amy gets real about the aftermath — what healing actually looks like, what it cost to get here, and what will never fully go away. She opens with something most survivors rarely name: the difference between reporting your story and actually feeling it. For years, Amy could say the words clearly — "I was sexually abused by my father" — without ever going inside them. Recording those episodes cracked something open. This episode is about what came through that crack. What you'll hear: the ordinary, specific shape of a life well-built. The therapy that went past the narrative and into the body. The relationships that made staying behind the glass impossible. The grief that had to be felt in pieces before it could be carried. And the honest truth that integration doesn't mean resolution — some things stay with you until you die, and making peace with that is its own kind of freedom. Amy also speaks directly to why she believes women telling their stories — felt, inhabited, out loud — is not just personal healing. It is political resistance. We are at the beginning of a cultural reorientation, away from systems that center power and domination, toward something that actually protects children and vulnerable people. That shift is built, story by story, from exactly this. If you've been delivering your own story from a safe distance and wondering why it still doesn't feel like enough — this episode is for you. It's Nothing. I'm Fine. is hosted by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Amy Prieb, recorded in a yurt in Bellingham, Washington.   amyprieb.com [http://amyprieb.com/] insta: @amypriebtherapy facebook: amy prieb lmft

Yurtism #4: The Expectation Trap — Why Asking for What You Need Is an Act of Love, Not Weakness

If he really loved me, he would just know. It's one of the most common — and most quietly damaging — beliefs Amy encounters in relationship therapy. The rom-com fantasy that a truly loving partner should be able to read your mind, anticipate your needs, and show up exactly right without being told. It sounds romantic. In practice, it sets your partner up to fail and you up to feel perpetually disappointed. In this episode, Amy challenges the "if he loved me he would know" myth and offers a reframe that actually works: when you clearly ask for what you want, need, or prefer — and your partner shows up for you — that is love. That is respect. The ask doesn't cancel the gesture. It makes the gesture possible. In this Yurtism, you'll explore: * How unspoken expectations become invisible traps in relationships * Why the rom-com fantasy of mind-reading does real damage to real partnerships * How clearly communicating your needs sets your partner up for success — and brings you closer Your partner isn't a mind reader. But they might just be someone who loves you enough to show up — if you let them know how.   amyprieb.com [http://amyprieb.com/] insta: @amypriebtherapy facebook: amy prieb lmft