6 lies that I believed about strength (that I brought into RETIREMENT!)

6 lies that I believed about strength (that I brought into RETIREMENT!)

Last week I shared one of the hardest videos I've ever made — and so many of you told me "I thought I was the only one." That got me thinking about the lies I've believed about what it means to be strong, and how they shaped my entire life, including retirement. In this video, I'm breaking down 6 lies I believed about strength — the quiet rules I never questioned until real life stopped asking permission. From "strong people don't struggle" to "if I say it out loud, it becomes real," these are the beliefs that kept me quiet for far too long. If any of these resonate with you, I'd love to hear which one in the comments. 💬 Related video: https://youtu.be/zN0bQZZ_LbI?si=lRhFx-dnQgrEsA8I #retirement #mentalhealth #strength 0:00 Intro 1:43 Lie 1: Strong people don't struggle 3:22 Lie 2: If I'm grateful, I don't have the right to struggle 4:42 Lie 3: Retirement should automatically make me happy 6:04 Lie 4: Needing help means I'm failing 7:18 Lie 5: If I say it out loud, it becomes real 9:23 Lie 6: Nobody wants to hear the hard parts

Can we talk about the hard days in RETIREMENT!

When I envisioned retirement, I pictured endless free time, relaxation, and pure happiness. But recently, I’ve been struggling with a wave of anxiety that I didn't see coming—and even worse, a deep sense of shame or disappointment for not feeling as happy as I "should" be. We always say retirement is supposed to be the happiest chapter of our lives. So why don't we talk about the days when it isn't? This is one of the most personal videos I've ever shared. After losing my dad, caring for my mom, trying to be there for my husband, my children, and my six grandchildren, I found myself struggling with feelings I never expected. For years, I believed that being strong meant never struggling. Maybe I was wrong. In this video, I'm opening up about anxiety, grief, retirement, and what I've learned about strength, kindness, and giving ourselves permission to be human. If you've ever wondered why retirement feels harder than you expected—or if you've been carrying emotions you haven't shared with anyone—I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. ❤️ If this video speaks to you, I'd love to hear your story in the comments. Thank you for being part of the Life Starts at Retirement community. Disclaimer: I am sharing my personal story and lived experience. If you are struggling deeply with anxiety or depression, please consider reaching out to a mental health professional. #retirement #mentalhealth #retirementjourney #anxiety #lifeafterwork

Retirement changed our marriage - Here's what we learned

Retirement is supposed to be one of the happiest seasons of life—but it can also be one of the biggest adjustments a marriage will ever face  After 43 years together, Ken and I discovered that retirement changed more than our schedules. It changed how we communicated, how we shared our space, how we divided responsibilities, and even how we saw each other. In this video, I'm sharing six  lessons we learned the hard way: ✔ Love needs space. ✔ You have to get to know each other again. ✔ Communication becomes more important than ever. ✔ Roles need to be redefined. ✔ Contentment comes from building a life together—not expecting your spouse to provide all your happiness. ✔ It's about the partnership If you're retired, about to retire, or simply wondering what this next chapter might look like, I hope our story helps make your journey a little easier. Retirement is more than leaving work. Sometimes it's learning to fall in love with the same person all over again. Please check out my video about letting go of caring  https://youtu.be/ZLc0ffvWalM #retirement   #retirement advice  #marriage tips

Retiring soon? Don't ignore these 6 things!

Are you struggling with retirement planning? Learn how to navigate life after work and avoid the common pitfalls retirees face. Over 40% of retirees report feeling unprepared for the transition into their post-career years. This video provides practical strategies to help you navigate this major life change with confidence. Whether you are nearing retirement or have already stepped away from your career, these insights will help you build a more fulfilling retirement experience. In this video I'll explore 6 important areas that many people overlook before they retire. From reviewing your finances for peace of mind to protecting your health, preparing for emotional ups and downs, and learning how to let go of the career you've left behind, these simple steps can help make your retirement...remarkable. Subscribe for weekly retirement lifestyle breakdowns, and comment below with your biggest worry about life after work so we can cover it in a future episode. To learn more about the4 stages of retirement, please check out this video. https://youtu.be/-YV971xqGkY #retirement      #retirement lifestyle       #how to retire

5 years before retirement - DO THESE THINGS

Effective retirement planning should begin at least 5 years before you actually retire. If retirement is getting closer, it can be hard to know what you should actually be doing — and when. In this video, I walk through a simple 5-year retirement countdown: what to focus on 5 years before retirement, 4 years before, 3 years before, 2 years before, and in your final year before you leave work. We’ll talk about the financial retirement income plan, practical, and personal steps that can make retirement feel much less overwhelming — from checking your numbers and reducing debt to thinking through healthcare, income, lifestyle, and what you actually want retirement to look like. If you’re within 5 years of retirement, this video will help you build a clearer plan and avoid leaving important decisions until the last minute. If you enjoy practical retirement advice and real-life ideas for making retirement remarkable, I’d love to have you subscribe to Life Starts at Retirement.  #retirementplanning #retirementchecklist #retirementtips #retiringsoon #lifestartsatretirement