Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Key Points: Mish's background and book Mish introduces himself as a 60-something man who has shifted his health work from a focus on cancer to a broader focus on men's health and wellness. He has recently written a book about embracing and finding pleasure in a "soft " rather than fixating on erections. The need for a new perspective on male Mish explains that he was motivated to write the book because he realized there was a lack of resources and information available about enjoying intimacy and pleasure without a hard erection. Most existing resources focus on "fixing" erectile dysfunction rather than exploring alternative paths to fulfillment. The emotional and psychological journey Mish discusses the emotional and psychological challenges men face when their bodies don't perform as expected, including feelings of loss, shame, and withdrawal. He emphasizes the importance of grieving these changes and redefining one's relationship to pleasure and masculinity. Exploring the body and sensations Mish and Cam discuss practical strategies for exploring the body and sensations beyond just the genitals, including mapping pleasure across the body, slowing down, and being present to subtle energetic shifts and reverberations. Redefining intimacy and "completion" Mish shares insights on how he and his partner have redefined the end of intimacy, moving away from a focus on as the "finish line." They emphasize communication, presence, and exploring energetic connections as ways to find fulfillment and closure without relying on a hard erection. Closing thoughts and book availability Mish provides an overview of the book's title and content, and shares information on where readers can purchase the book, both online and through select brick-and-mortar retailers. Relevant Links: Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1 Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net

Key Points: Aasha's background and passions Aasha introduced herself as a certified emotional intelligence expert, shamanic practitioner, hypnotherapist, and CEO of a tech startup. She is passionate about helping people ignite their souls and authenticity, and stop hiding who they are. Aasha shared her personal journey of overcoming health challenges and trauma to find self-acceptance and empowerment. Emotional resilience and leadership Aasha discussed her approach to emotional resilience, emphasizing the importance of feeling emotions deeply without abandoning one's post as a leader. She shared insights from losing her home in the Pacific Palisades fire, and how it taught her the difference between "strong" and "resilient" leadership. Aasha believes resilience involves empathy, self-empathy, and transmuting emotions into personal power. Privilege, shame, and receiving Cam and Aasha explored the nuances of emotional resilience and how access to resources and support can impact one's ability to process grief and loss. They discussed the tendency for people, especially those with privilege, to feel guilty or ashamed for struggling emotionally. Aasha and Cam agreed that the ability to receive - whether feedback, love, or pleasure - is a universal challenge that both men and women face. Feminine leadership and embodiment Aasha described her experience of embodying a more feminine style of leadership after losing her home a second time. This involved being more authentic, vulnerable, and empathetic in her approach, while still maintaining a strong sense of purpose and authority. Aasha believes this blend of feminine and masculine energy is essential for effective and resilient leadership. Closing thoughts and resources Aasha shared information about how to connect with her on social media and access her work, which focuses on topics like feminine embodiment, emotional intelligence, and self-worth. She emphasized the importance of embracing one's authentic expression and magnetizing what one desires, while also having fun and not hiding. Relevant Links: Aasha LaCount website: https://www.beyondeqinternational.com/

Key points: Milla's background and passion for condom education Milla Impola is the Marketing Director at Global Protection, the parent company of One Condoms. She is passionate about condom education and has a background in peer health counseling and working in the LGBTQ+ health space. She is particularly interested in addressing the shortcomings of abstinence-only education. Condom sizing and the importance of fit Milla explains that One Condoms offers 52 different condom sizes to accommodate a wide range of anatomical differences. She emphasizes the importance of proper fit to ensure comfort and effectiveness, and discusses the challenges of overcoming the historical regulatory barriers to offering more size options. Milla also shares insights on how to properly measure length and girth for condom sizing. Innovations in condom materials and design Milla discusses One Condoms' use of innovative materials like graphene to create thinner, more sensitive condoms. She also talks about their "Flex" condom line and the company's efforts to make condoms more comfortable and pleasurable to use. Promoting condom usage through creative campaigns Milla describes One Condoms' various initiatives to raise awareness and normalize conversations around condoms, such as condom wrapper design contests, condom fashion shows, and partnerships with musicians and artists. She emphasizes the importance of making condom discussions fun and engaging. Addressing the needs of the LGBTQ+ community Milla discusses One Condoms' efforts to get their products approved for use, including working with Emory University on a study to demonstrate the safety and efficacy of their condoms for this purpose. She also talks about their "Butt Stuff Approved" campaign and the importance of normalizing condom use for all activities. Conclusion and next steps Milla and Cam wrap up the conversation, discussing opportunities for further collaboration and Cam's interest in trying out some of One Condoms' products. Milla encourages Cam to reach out if he or his audience are interested in participating in future product testing or research initiatives. Relevant links: ONE® Condoms website: https://au.onecondoms.com/ [https://au.onecondoms.com/]

Key Points: Toby's background and journey to coaching Toby shares his background, including being an open intersex person, his diagnosis with Kleinfelter's syndrome, and his transition into the coaching and counseling space. He discusses how his own self-discovery and openness about his identity led him to want to support others in similar ways. Toby's philosophy on self-love and whole-person approach Toby explains his holistic, "whole person" approach to coaching, emphasizing the importance of self-love, self-acceptance, and changing one's internal narrative as the foundation for growth and fulfillment. He uses the analogy of a pilot light to describe the importance of cultivating an intrinsic sense of self-love. Societal barriers to self-love and the impact on men Toby and Cam discuss how Western capitalist society often encourages external validation and a lack of self-love, and how this can manifest in unhealthy behaviors, particularly for men. They explore the changing cultural narratives around masculinity and the need for men to embrace vulnerability and emotional intelligence. Practical steps for cultivating self-love Toby outlines specific practices he uses with clients to help them become aware of negative thought patterns, decouple their identity from those thoughts, and replace them with positive affirmations. He emphasizes the importance of daily practice and support during this process. The relationship between self-love and the body Toby and Cam discuss the connection between self-love and body acceptance, noting how the relationship with one's physical self is a reflection of the internal landscape. They explore how self-love practices can help individuals develop a more positive, pleasure-focused relationship with their bodies. Recap and next steps Toby summarizes the key points of their discussion, emphasizing that self-love is the foundation that allows other self-care and self-loving activities to be truly nourishing and impactful. He expresses excitement about continuing his coaching work and supporting more people in reaching their potential. Relevant links: Toby Whittington's website: https://www.whole-person-relationships.com/

Key points: Toby's background and journey to coaching Toby shares his background, including being an open intersex person, his diagnosis with Kleinfelter's syndrome, and his transition into the coaching and counseling space. He discusses how his own self-discovery and openness about his identity led him to want to support others in similar ways. Toby's philosophy on self-love and whole-person approach Toby explains his holistic, "whole person" approach to coaching, emphasizing the importance of self-love, self-acceptance, and changing one's internal narrative as the foundation for growth and fulfillment. He uses the analogy of a pilot light to describe the importance of cultivating an intrinsic sense of self-love. Societal barriers to self-love and the impact on men Toby and Cam discuss how Western capitalist society often encourages external validation and a lack of self-love, and how this can manifest in unhealthy behaviors, particularly for men. They explore the changing cultural narratives around masculinity and the need for men to embrace vulnerability and emotional intelligence. Practical steps for cultivating self-love Toby outlines specific practices he uses with clients to help them become aware of negative thought patterns, decouple their identity from those thoughts, and replace them with positive affirmations. He emphasizes the importance of daily practice and support during this process. The relationship between self-love and the body Toby and Cam discuss the connection between self-love and body acceptance, noting how the relationship with one's physical self is a reflection of the internal landscape. They explore how self-love practices can help individuals develop a more positive, pleasure-focused relationship with their bodies. Recap and next steps Toby summarizes the key points of their discussion, emphasizing that self-love is the foundation that allows other self-care and self-loving activities to be truly nourishing and impactful. He expresses excitement about continuing his coaching work and supporting more people in reaching their potential. Relevant links: https://whole-person-relationships.com/ [https://whole-person-relationships.com/]