59. "Protecting Your Peace" Is Code for Hiding — And It's Making Us Lonelier Than Ever

59. "Protecting Your Peace" Is Code for Hiding — And It's Making Us Lonelier Than Ever

Protect your peace." You've seen it. You've said it. I've said it. And on the surface it sounds healthy. It sounds like boundaries. It sounds like self-care. But what if it's actually making us weaker, lonelier, and more divided than we've ever been? What if we've taken a real, valid concept — protecting yourself from people who genuinely harm you — and twisted it into an excuse to avoid anything hard? Something happened recently that stopped me cold. A friendship. 26 years. ghosted. Over a political opinion. No conversation. No grace. Just silence — and the words "I'm protecting my peace." And I have my own version of this story too. In this episode I'm calling out the difference between real boundaries and hiding in a bubble. The echo chambers we're building. The people we're losing. And why we've been so busy protecting our peace that we've lost our people. This one is going to make you uncomfortable. Good. Because we need to get uncomfortable. We are so much better than this. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers [https://stan.store/laurenTrout] Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod [@wealthymamamethod] Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org [lauren@mindyourmama.org]

58. Put Your Phone Down for 2 Hours Every Morning — Here's What Actually Happened When I Did

For 30 days, I didn't touch my phone for the first 2 hours after I woke up. One morning, Emma told me about her day. And I actually LISTENED. Really listened. Put everything down, looked at her, heard her. She said: "Thanks for listening, Mommy. I love you to the core." To the core. And I realized: She's been asking me to listen this whole time. And I haven't been. My other daughter Norah wanted to TEXT her friend instead of having a real conversation. She'd rather type than talk. We're raising kids who don't know how to connect with real people. And this isn't just about parenting. We're in a loneliness epidemic. The Belonging Index study found that an overwhelming majority of people don't feel like they belong — not in their communities, jobs, or even families. And it's tied to cell phone use. In this episode: what happened during my 30-day experiment, the science behind why your phone is fucking up your life, and the challenge I'm giving you. Because I want to bring people together. And it starts with putting your phones down. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers [https://stan.store/laurenTrout] Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @ [https://www.instagram.com/mind.yourmama/]wealthymamamethod [wealthymamamethod] Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org [lauren@mindyourmama.org]

57. "Your 'Good Man' Is Draining Your Ability to Build — And You're Letting Him"

Description: Your partner is draining your ability to build. And you're letting him. I'm not talking about the obviously shitty partners. I'm talking about the "good men." The ones who don't cheat, don't hit you, don't gamble away your savings. And because of that, they get a pass on everything else. You're so busy resenting him, so emotionally exhausted from carrying the entire relationship alone, that you have zero energy left to build anything for yourself. And here's the part that's going to piss you off: You're the one giving away your happiness. And expecting HIM to give it back. In this episode I'm dropping truth bombs about the embarrassingly low bar we have for men, why your resentment is draining your purpose, and the controversial thing I said about sex that's going to make some of you uncomfortable. Plus 3 action steps to take your power back. And 1 simple thing you can do today to start building anyway. Stop waiting. Stop resenting. Stop giving it away. Take it back. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers [https://stan.store/laurenTrout] Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach [@laurentroutRN_coach] AND @welthymamamethod [@welthymamamethod] Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org [lauren@mindyourmama.org]

56. Stop Tearing Other Moms Down — Empowerment Means Actually Showing the F*ck Up

Description: I'm so tired of women saying "empower women" then ripping each other apart in the comments. Breastfeed? "Shut the fuck up. Is it your tit? No. Your baby? No. Then shut up about it." Holistic mom? "You lunatic! Science is science!" Don't medicate your kids? "Who the fuck are you to put heavy metals in your child?" Vaccinate, don't vaccinate. Co-sleep, sleep train. Who cares? We can't win. No matter what we do, someone's got something to say. And it's not just men doing it to us. It's US. Women tearing each other apart. Then slapping an "empowerment" sticker on it and calling it a day. That's not empowerment. Empowerment is showing up when a mom says she's drowning. Not judging her. Not saying "well you chose to have kids." But saying: "Me fucking too. Let me help." In this episode: why we're still stuck in 1800s competition mode, what REAL support looks like, the island metaphor (let's get in our boats and save each other), and my challenge to you. Because we're so much better together. And it's time we started acting like it. #MeFuckingToo Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers [https://stan.store/laurenTrout] Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod [@wealthymamamethod] Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org [lauren@mindyourmama.org]

55. Wake Up Exhausted, Go to Bed Exhausted, Repeat — You're Not Failing, The System Is

Description: Last week I screamed at my daughter while trying to build my business. She looked at me with her perfect little face and said "I don't understand why you're being so mean. I'm not talking to you in a mean way." It broke my fucking heart. Here I am telling you to regulate your nervous system, and I'm not always living up to my own words. And it's HARD. After I apologized (and she said "It's okay Mommy, I love you forever"), I did all the things. Homework. Dinner. Sports drop-off and pick-up. Then I sat in my car in the driveway for 10 minutes. Too tired to move. Too overwhelmed to think. And I thought: this is my life, every single day, on repeat. Wake up exhausted. Rush through the morning. Work. Feel guilty I'm not doing enough. Go to bed exhausted. Do it all again tomorrow. For a second I thought "maybe I'm just not cut out for this. Maybe other moms have it figured out and I'm just failing." But that's EXACTLY what they want you to think. That YOU'RE the problem. That you're not organized enough, disciplined enough, strong enough. But you're not the problem. The system is the problem. In this episode I break down how the system is designed to keep moms exhausted and dysregulated (childcare costs = your paycheck, no maternity leave, healthcare tied to jobs, school ends at 2:30, PTO is a joke, sports run you ragged). I talk about how your unhealed wounds (like fawning) sabotage your business, why you can't build from survival mode, how to regulate WHILE building, why digital products are the answer, and how to break the cycle for your kids. You're not failing. The system is rigged. But you can fight back anyway. Your kids are watching. Show them what's possible. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers [https://stan.store/laurenTrout] Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod [wealthymamamethod] Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org [lauren@mindyourmama.org]