Love, Marriage, & Hating Your Spouse

Can a Relationship Survive a Partner Cheating?

Cheating is a not-all-that-uncommon occurrence in relationships, but that doesn't make it any less devastating. And if someone cheats, it's normal to think: this is over, leave and never look back. But is it really that simple? Today, we're talking about the complexities of infidelity in a relationship and how to determine if you want to stay with your partner and move forward. We chat about the different types of cheating and how to define what your "line" is, why being a good self-observer can flag potential issues in your relationship before they progress, how to communicate that you've been unfaithful, and why going through your partner's phone is never the answer. We also discuss why cheating is a symptom of issues in a relationship and the people in it, the difference between explaining behavior and excusing it, whether putting restrictions on your partner is ever effective after infidelity has taken place, and whether a relationship can really be repaired once trust has been broken. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Love, Marriage, & Hating Your Spouse

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes...finding everything your partner does kind of annoying and realizing you might actually hate them? Queue the questions: is this normal? Is it just a phase? Is it worth saying anything?  In today's episode, we're talking about how you can go from the adoration of your wedding day to the resentment of everyday life with your partner, and what to do when this happens. We discuss why people can overlook behaviors they dislike early in a relationship, the common times in a marriage that partners will express frustration with one another, the downsides to voicing your disdain of your significant other, and what (not) to say when someone is complaining about their partner to you. We also chat about why you shouldn't disparage your partner in front of your kids, why trying to avoid conflict can actually backfire, when couples therapy can be helpful, and the cost of making "man-hating" cool.  About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Musings on Music: The power of a song

**apologies for a bit of wacky audio today, we accidentally messed up our audio levels while recording oops** Do you have a favorite song that makes you feel powerful? Or maybe one that completely changes your mood, or takes you back to a specific moment in time and suddenly you feel like the person you were then? What about one that you listen to when you're pissed off, or need a good cry? You're probably thinking of each of them now. Today, we're talking about the influence of music on our memories and moods, and why the songs that we hold close to us move us. We chat about why sound is one of the strongest senses, where psychology and music intersect, what we can learn from actually listening to lyrics, and why the best songs tell stories (even if they have no words). Then, we share our own personal favorite songs and artists - from Johnny Cash and Warren Zevon, to BANNERS and Sleeping at Last (and of course, Taylor Swift). We discuss why people need to give musicals more of a chance, how music can help us process difficult emotions, and how our personalities shape our judgements about the music we like.  About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

The Interview Episodes: How to manage your worries, multiple offers, & rejection

The third and final episode of the interview series is here! We're picking up right where we left off, at perhaps the most frightening point of all: the aftermath. The interview is over, you're leaving the building, and then you queue up Zendaya's hit song "Replay" because it's time to rethink the entire experience as you make your way home. Today, we discuss why obsessively reflecting upon the interview gives us a false sense of control, what happens when we idealize a job with no data to support it, and what to do when you have to return to a job you've already checked out from. We then get into how to compartmentalize rejection and being ghosted, whether "when one door closes another door opens" is true, why there are no wasted learning opportunities, and how to ask for feedback. We also talk about how to figure out the sacrifices you're willing to make for a career move, what happens when the job you accepted isn't what you thought it would be, how to navigate receiving multiple offers, and why it's okay to pause and just be happy where you are. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

The Interview Episodes: How to handle tough interviewers, tech challenges, & more

We're back with Part 2 of our interview series! It's Coronation Day! The interview is tomorrow. You're probably wondering: what do I bring? How early should I get there? Did I prepare enough? Today we're dishing out practical magic (read: advice) on navigating the interview itself, from the moment you start to prepare until you walk out of the building - or slam your laptop shut. We're talking about the potential consequences of over-preparation, the 5 year stranger rule, what you can learn from arriving early to your interview, and why taking a day off to go might be the best idea. We also chat about what to do when you have a tough interviewer, how to not be defensive when you're put on the spot, why you shouldn't walk out of a difficult interview, and how to overcome the challenges that arise with virtual interviews (can you hear me now?) Plus, why finding out the turnaround time for feedback will help you avoid the failure spiral. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].