Orgasmic Birth

Ep 151 Description:  "The more you stay curious, the more you grow and evolve, and that's going to bring you to your best self. So always stay curious." —Simone Toomer   Ever felt like the system doesn’t believe you know your own body—or your own birth? You prepare, you research, you show up ready to advocate for yourself… only to face doubt, resistance, and voices that try to speak louder than your own. This episode dives deep into how you can reclaim your power, lean on community, and birth on your own terms—even when the world pushes back. Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator, sleep educator, and a fierce advocate for birthing autonomy. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone brings raw honesty and lived wisdom to the conversation. Her work is rooted in community care, equity, and the belief that every birthing person has the right to be heard, supported, and fully informed. Tune in to hear a candid, soul-stirring conversation about the sacred power of sister circles, the courage to challenge systemic barriers, and the beauty of birthing with confidence. Hit play now and discover what it means to heal in community, stay curious, and truly reclaim your body and birth.   Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth [https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth] X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth [https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth]  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 [https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1]  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth [https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/]    Episode Highlights: 03:03 Simone’s First Pregnancy and Birth  06:38 Navigating Resistance and Preparing for Labor  10:02 Postpartum and Becoming a Doula 14:37 Simone’s Second Pregnancy and Birth 23:26 Postpartum Anxiety  26:15 Reclaiming Birth and the Importance of Community    Connect with Simone: Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), childbirth educator, sleep educator, and passionate advocate for birthing autonomy and community care. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone empowers families with knowledge, confidence, and compassionate support. Her work centers on equity, healing, and the belief that every birthing person deserves to feel seen, heard, and fully supported throughout their journey.   Website: http://www.wisewombandoula.com/ [http://www.wisewombandoula.com/]   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisewombandoula/ [https://www.instagram.com/wisewombandoula/]    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wisewombandoula/?fref=ts [https://www.facebook.com/wisewombandoula/?fref=ts]

Ep 150 Description:  “Pleasure is not a luxury. It is not a distraction. It is a human right. And reclaiming it—in childbirth, in healthcare, in life—is a path toward healing,  well-being, and activism.” —Debra Pascali Bonaro   Our bodies are intricate landscapes of sensation, where hormones dance, nerves communicate, and physiological responses intertwine in ways we're only beginning to understand. And these same pathways that create sexual pleasure are remarkably active during childbirth, challenging centuries of medical narratives that have reduced this transformative moment to a clinical, painful procedure.  This week, Debra discusses her landmark article, Orgasmic Birth: The Anatomy of Pleasure in Childbirth [https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/global-womens-health/articles/10.3389/fgwh.2025.1565300/pdf], published in Frontiers in Global Women's Health Journal, delving into the science of orgasmic birth, systemic obstetric violence, reproductive justice, hormonal landscapes of pleasure, the anatomy of childbirth, cultural narratives of pain, bodily autonomy, and the transformative potential of reclaiming women's birthing experiences. Don’t miss this groundbreaking episode!   🌟 Special Announcement!!!🌟  Beloved Orgasmic Birth Community, We're taking a sacred pause! From June 4th to August 6th, the Orgasmic Birth Podcast will be stepping back to dive deep into new inspirations and craft exciting podcast enhancements. This isn't goodbye - it's a creative breath. While we're away, you can dive into our rich library of past episodes. Each story is a portal to empowerment, pleasure, and birth transformation. Mark your calendars: August 6th, we return with fresh energy and BIG announcements you won't want to miss! 💕 Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth [https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth] X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth [https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth]  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 [https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1]  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth [https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth]  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/]  Episode Highlights: 01:50 Challenging Obstetric Violence 05:22 The Science of Sensuality 08:02 Birth as an Empowering Experience 10:11 Challenging Systemic Inequalities with Pleasure    Resources:  💗Read Debra’s Article on Orgasmic Birth: The Anatomy of Pleasure in Childbirth on Frontiers in Global Women’s Health: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/global-womens-health/articles/10.3389/fgwh.2025.1565300/pdf [https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/global-womens-health/articles/10.3389/fgwh.2025.1565300/pdf]    About Debra: Debra Pascali-Bonaro is a world-renowned inspirational speaker, filmmaker, doula trainer, childbirth educator, and author. Debra’s latest book, an Amazon #1 New Release, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy brings together her passion for pleasure in every aspect of life with her Jersey-Girl attitude of talking about what no one is talking about! Debra is a mother, grandmother, and featured expert in parenting journals and media around the world. Debra Pascali-Bonaro is also Co-Chair of the International Childbirth Initiative and Chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Initiative, both of which promote safe, respectful childbirth and maternity care. She is a Lamaze International childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer with DONA International, Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, co-writer of “Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth” and the Founder & President of the revolutionary online childbirth class Pain to Power, which prepares expectant mothers, fathers, and partners to be positively prepared for birth and focuses on the intimate and sacred nature of birth. Debra’s passion comes from her over 30 years of working with women, men, midwives, doulas, physicians, and nurses in over 40 countries, bringing comfort, love, and pleasure to birth and life! Debra Pascali Bonaro has been featured on ABC’s 20/20, Good Morning Russia, The NBC Today Show, Discovery Health, in The New York Times, The LA Times, and The UK Times, as well as numerous Parenting and Health Magazines around the world.

Ep 149 Description:  “Your birth is yours to shape— not in every detail as the baby has some too— but in energy, intention, and experience. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be honored. You deserve a birth that reflects YOU, your power, your pleasure, and your love.” —Debra Pascali-Bonaro  Birth isn't just a medical event—it's a deeply personal journey where you hold more power than you realize. What if your birth experience could be transformed from a clinical procedure to a profound, empowering moment of connection? Imagine stepping into your birth with confidence, clarity, and the ability to shape an experience that honors your deepest desires. Tune in as Debra breaks down the essential roadmap for creating personalized birth preferences, revealing how to communicate effectively with your healthcare team, understand your provider's practices, explore holistic approaches beyond medical interventions, and ultimately reclaim your birth as a sacred, intentional experience that reflects your unique vision of bringing new life into the world.   Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth [https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth] X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth [https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth]  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 [https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1]  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth [https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth]  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/]  Episode Highlights: 00:50 Reflecting On Your Birth Desires 05:50 Know Your Provider’s Practice Paradigm 11:43 Beyond Interventions — Creating Holistic Birth Preferences 15:57 Communication is Your Superpower 16:48 Your Birth is Yours to Shape     Resources:  💗I’d love to offer you a free tool— a beautiful, customizable birth preferences template to make your desires known, accessible, and shareable. You can find it at orgasmicbirth.com/birthplan [http://orgasmicbirth.com/birthplan].   💗Fin Pleasure VIBE, a wearable finger vibrator that can be used in pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum for pleasure, oxytocin enhancement, pain reduction, and healing: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/ [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/]    💗Podcast Orgasmic Birth Ep4: The Hormones of Love, Sex, and Childbirth with Dr. Sarah Buckley [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-4-the-hormones-of-love-sex-and-childbirth/id1622649772?i=1000561776984]     About Debra: Debra Pascali-Bonaro is a world-renowned inspirational speaker, filmmaker, doula trainer, childbirth educator, and author. Debra’s latest book, an Amazon #1 New Release, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy brings together her passion for pleasure in every aspect of life with her Jersey-Girl attitude of talking about what no one is talking about! Debra is a mother, grandmother, and featured expert in parenting journals and media around the world. Debra Pascali-Bonaro is also Co-Chair of the International Childbirth Initiative and Chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Initiative, both of which promote safe, respectful childbirth and maternity care. She is a Lamaze International childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer with DONA International, Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, co-writer of “Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth” and the Founder & President of the revolutionary online childbirth class Pain to Power, which prepares expectant mothers, fathers, and partners to be positively prepared for birth and focuses on the intimate and sacred nature of birth. Debra’s passion comes from her over 30 years of working with women, men, midwives, doulas, physicians, and nurses in over 40 countries, bringing comfort, love, and pleasure to birth and life! Debra Pascali Bonaro has been featured on ABC’s 20/20, Good Morning Russia, The NBC Today Show, Discovery Health, in The New York Times, The LA Times, and The UK Times, as well as numerous Parenting and Health Magazines around the world.

Orgasmic Birth Story Series   Ep 149 Description:  “The way to start to feel comfortable with it in birth is to become comfortable with the vibrator before your birth.” —Molly Moon  For too long, vibrators have been shrouded in shame and stigma, viewed solely as sexual devices. But the truth is, these powerful tools have the potential to transform the birthing experience.   Molly Moon is a yoga teacher, doula, and sacred songstress who brings the timeless wisdom of the feminine into her work. Her passion for guiding spiritual awakening has been reignited by the birth of her own child, inspiring her to explore nature-based education Tune in as Debra and Molly share how self-pleasure can be used as a powerful pain management tool, how it helps increase oxytocin—the essential hormone of labor, and how we can normalize vibrators as a shame-free support tool for birth preparation and beyond.     Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth [https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth] X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth [https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth]  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 [https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1]  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth [https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth]  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/]      Episode Highlights: 02:43 Meet Molly: Incorporating Pleasure Into Birth 09:39 Molly’s Birth Experience 14:14 Vibrator for Pain Management   21:28 Addressing Shame and Normalizing Vibrators  23:26 Postpartum Benefits of Vibrators  27:39 Tips for Birth Prep      Resources:  💗 Pleasure VIBE: the first ever vibrator for birth. Meet the FIN PleasureVibe, a wearable finger vibrator that can be used in pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum for pleasure, oxytocin enhancement, pain reduction, and healing. Check out our new tool for birth and beyond: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/ [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/]     About Molly: Molly Moon is a yoga teacher, doula, and sacred songstress who brings elements of the forest and the wild, mysterious feminine into her music and life. She has been living the practice of yoga for over 20 years, and her passion for guiding the wild awakening spirit is now being re-inspired by her toddler as she works on studies in Forest and Nature School Leadership. Molly is also an Emotional Intuitive, offering Heart Readings for Spiritual healing and growth.   Website: https://www.medicinewomanyoga.com/ [https://www.medicinewomanyoga.com/]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/medicinewomanyoga/ [https://www.instagram.com/medicinewomanyoga/]   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/molly.moon111 [https://www.facebook.com/molly.moon111]  Listen to Molly: https://soundcloud.com/spirit-woman-molly-moon/tracks [https://soundcloud.com/spirit-woman-molly-moon/tracks]

Orgasmic Birth Story Series   Ep 147 Description:  "Work with pleasure. Find ways to feel pleasure. Don't start thinking about it when you are eight months pregnant. Start from day one or even before getting pregnant when you decide you want to have kids, because it's such a long way to to deconstruct this patriarchal myths that have been interjected into our unconscious since we are children." —Guta Galli    Sexuality and childbirth are not separate experiences, but a continuous, sacred dance of feminine energy. The same neural pathways that create sexual pleasure can guide us through the most intense moments of bringing life into the world where every contraction carries the potential for a deeply sensual, transformative experience that challenges everything we've been told about childbirth.  Guta Galli is an interdisciplinary artist who fearlessly deconstructs societal myths about female sexuality and childbirth through her multimedia work. She creates visual narratives that challenge traditional medical perspectives and celebrate the profound, often unexplored dimensions of women's embodied experiences. Tune in as Debra and Guta explore how women can deconstruct cultural fears, embrace self-stimulation, prepare mentally for birth, and transform labor into a powerful, orgasmic, and deeply connected experience.     Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth [https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth] X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth [https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth]  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 [https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1]  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth [https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth]  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/]      Episode Highlights: 02:51 Facing Initial Fears  09:15 Into Labor and Delivery  14:22 Midwife and Doula Support 18:05 The Birth and Sexuality Connection 23:27 Navigating PostPartum and Parenting 25:16 Integrating Pleasure Before Birth     Resources:  💗If you are already a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker and in need of continuing education units, join Debra’s Orgasmic Birth Practitioner Training. Birthworkers gather from around the world to learn together and create an Orgasmic Community. Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training]    💗 Fin Pleasure VIBE Fin PleasureVibe, a wearable finger vibrator that can be used in pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum for pleasure, oxytocin enhancement, pain reduction, and healing. https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/ [https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/fin-pleasurevibe/]     About Guta:  Guta Galli is an interdisciplinary artist from São Paulo whose work centers on the female body through performance, video, photography, and cinema—all with a feminist lens. Since 2020, she started investigating the politics of motherhood and documenting births with photography and video. Her goal is to inspire women with positive and pleasant birth stories.   Website: https://www.gutagalli.art/ [https://www.gutagalli.art/]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gutagalli_partos/ [https://www.instagram.com/gutagalli_partos/]