Outcry Witness Unspoken Episode 3: Boy Scouts Bankruptcy | Survivors Still Fighting to Be Heard

Stefanie O'Connell — The Ambition Penalty: Why Corporate Culture Punishes Women Who Ask

Women have done everything they were told to do — they negotiated, advocated, and leaned in. And many of them paid a price for it. In this conversation, JoDee sits down with award-winning journalist and author Stefanie O'Connell to examine what Stefanie calls the ambition penalty: the documented backlash women face when they advocate for themselves at work, and why that backlash is so difficult to name, prove, or fight alone. Listeners will leave with a clearer understanding of why the problem was never them — and what it looks like when women stop carrying that weight in silence. Meet Your Host: JoDee Neil JoDee Neil is a two-term prosecutor turned keynote speaker and leadership advisor who spent more than two decades in courtrooms, including over 100 jury trials. She is the author of Outcry Witness: A Former Prosecutor's Guide to Healing and Justice After Sexual Violence and the host of Outcry Witness Unspoken, where she talks with survivors, journalists, and experts about the hidden costs of power, silence, and retaliation. Featured Guest: Stefanie O'Connell Stefanie O'Connell is an award-winning journalist and the author of The Ambition Penalty: How Corporate Culture Tells Women to Step Up — and Then Pushes Them Down. Her work dismantles the myths that keep women from equitable pay, leadership, and power, one data point at a time. She is the creator and host of the Webby Award-winning podcast Money Confidential, and her reporting has appeared in Bloomberg, Slate, Newsweek, CNBC, Glamour, and USA Today. Key Takeaways * Negotiating for yourself is not legally protected activity — and the backlash women experience when they ask is extraordinarily difficult to prove as sex discrimination. * The ambition penalty is documented and systemic, not personal. The problem was never the women. * Women have been told to ask louder, negotiate harder, and lean in further — while the structural incentives punishing that behavior remain largely unchanged. * Shame and isolation are features of the system, not side effects. When women believe the problem is them, they stay quiet. That silence protects the system. * Collective awareness and truth-telling may be more powerful levers for change than individual advocacy alone. Episode Timestamps * [02:13] - The Ambition Penalty Explained * [05:01] - Challenging the Meritocracy Myth * [08:25] - Extensive Research Foundation * [11:23] - Why Gender Inequality Persists * [12:10] - Historical and Cultural Context * [19:04] - The Impact of Asking for More * [22:44] - The Impossible Tightrope * [23:52] - Decoding Workplace Double Standards * [27:53] - The Cycle of Shame and Silence * [33:28] - Power of Transparency and Solidarity * [42:08] - Women in Leadership: Tokenism vs. Scale * [46:35] - A Net Benefit for Everyone * [48:10] - A Call to Collective Action Grab JoDee's Book Outcry Witness is a former prosecutor's guide to healing and justice after sexual violence. Grab your copy today. https://www.amazon.com/Outcry-Witness-Prosecutors-Healing-Violence/dp/1965766196/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2MW8PURZZ7OEZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.O0tz_NQoUPmG5Lw5To52Ag.qdF73Dl8Z8Ca7iOlsW16qAXOGdx7EJZxFp1LAYRhvhg&dib_tag=se&keywords=jodee+neil&qid=1781735892&sprefix=jodee+neil%2Caps%2C304&sr=8-1 [https://www.amazon.com/Outcry-Witness-Prosecutors-Healing-Violence/dp/1965766196/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2MW8PURZZ7OEZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.O0tz_NQoUPmG5Lw5To52Ag.qdF73Dl8Z8Ca7iOlsW16qAXOGdx7EJZxFp1LAYRhvhg&dib_tag=se&keywords=jodee+neil&qid=1781735892&sprefix=jodee+neil%2Caps%2C304&sr=8-1] Stay Connected with JoDee Neil Website: https://www.jodeeneil.com/ [https://www.jodeeneil.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodeeneilattorney/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodeeneilattorney Newsletter: https://substack.com/@jodeeneil Connect with Stefanie O'Connell Book: The Ambition Penalty https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/stefanie-oconnell/the-ambition-penalty/9781541705210/ Substack: https://tooambitious.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanieoconnell/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stefanieoconnell/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StefanieOConnell TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stefaniemoconnell Threads: https://www.threads.com/@stefanieoconnell

He Never Got His Day in Court. So He Told the Truth Anyway.

About This Episode More than 87,200 people filed abuse claims against the Boy Scouts of America. Most will never stand in a courtroom. Most will never receive a verdict. Today's guest is one of them. Shannon Ray Cooper is a Navy veteran, historian, author, and survivor of childhood sexual abuse. In this conversation, Shannon shares how writing Monsters in My Tent helped him reclaim his voice and why preserving other people's stories has become part of his own healing. Together, we explore what happens when justice never arrives, why voice is often the most powerful form of accountability available to survivors, and how one man turned decades of pain into a life of service. Meet Your Host JoDee Neil is a leadership advisor, keynote speaker, attorney, survivor, and author of Outcry Witness: A Former Prosecutor's Guide to Healing and Justice After Sexual Violence. After more than twenty years in courtrooms and more than one hundred jury trials, JoDee now helps leaders create cultures built on trust, communication, and accountability. Through Outcry Witness Unspoken, she gives voice to survivors and explores the systems that shape how we live, work, and heal. Featured Guest Shannon Ray Cooper is a Navy veteran, historian, and author of Monsters in My Tent. He is also one of the 87,200 survivors who filed abuse claims against the Boy Scouts of America. Through his writing, historical preservation work, and annual visits to children's hospitals and schools dressed as Santa, Shannon has dedicated his life to making sure stories—and people—are never forgotten. In This Episode ✔ Why more than 87,200 Boy Scouts survivors may never receive a courtroom verdict ✔ Why voice—not vindication—is often the justice survivors can control ✔ How writing can become a powerful tool for healing ✔ Why preserving history became part of Shannon's own recovery ✔ How one man transformed unimaginable pain into decades of service Episode Timestamps * (00:00:00) Opening the Silent Wounds * (00:02:15) A Survivor’s Early Struggles and Service * (00:03:50) Writing History with a Personal Touch * (00:05:18) Claimant Realities in the BSA Bankruptcy  * (00:09:48) The Harsh Reality of Silence in Bankruptcy * (00:11:13) “Monsters in My Tent” — Naming the Pain  * (00:13:40) Initiation Tent Atrocities * (00:20:07) The Secret Files and Institutional Cover-Up * (00:21:40) Survivor Advocacy and Legislative Success  * (00:39:34) Challenges of Male Disclosure and Social Stigma * (00:33:51) Forgiveness and Moving Forward  * (00:34:49) Hope in Storytelling: The Next Book “Stolen Innocence”  * (01:04:46) Faith and Gratitude in Survival * (01:06:16) The Call for Justice Reform Resources Outcry Witness Strategy Session For survivors seeking clarity, resources, and guidance, JoDee offers a private ninety-minute Outcry Witness Strategy Session. These confidential sessions help survivors explore next steps, understand available options, and connect with appropriate support and resources. Book Your Session Get The Book Outcry Witness: A Former Prosecutor's Guide to Healing and Justice After Sexual Violence Part memoir, part guide, and part invitation to reclaim your voice, Outcry Witness offers practical wisdom and hope for survivors navigating life after trauma. Available now wherever books are sold. Get Your Copy Leadership Consulting & Keynote Speaking Drawing on more than two decades as a prosecutor and trial attorney, JoDee helps leaders strengthen communication, navigate conflict, and create workplaces where people and performance can thrive. Through keynotes, workshops, and executive consulting, she helps organizations address the issues that too often get pushed to next quarter. Learn More About Leadership Consulting & Speaking Stay Connected Website: https://www.jodeeneil.com/ [https://www.jodeeneil.com/]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodeeneilattorney/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodeeneilattorney Newsletter: https://substack.com/@jodeeneil

500,000 Kids Targeted Daily on Meta. This Expert Has Been in the Room. | Outcry Witness Unspoken

An Instagram account could rack up 16 violations for sex trafficking before being suspended on the 17th. That is not a glitch. That is a policy. This is the conversation Meta does not want you to hear. About This Episode Haley McNamara has spent more than a decade inside the rooms where tech companies are asked to protect children — and where they quietly refuse. As Executive Director and Chief Strategy Officer at the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, she has written the recommendations, engaged the companies, and testified under oath. This episode is where that decade lands. JoDee and Haley walk through the 17 strikes policy, Section 230, the Dirty Dozen list, and what it means that for the first time this year, NCOSE named a person — not just a company. Meet Your Host: JoDee Neil JoDee Neil is a former prosecutor, survivor, author, and fierce advocate for women and children. With over twenty years in the courtroom and a deeply personal journey of healing, JoDee brings rare expertise and real compassion to every conversation. She is the author of Outcry Witness: A Former Prosecutor's Guide to Healing and Justice After Sexual Violence. Featured Guest: Haley McNamara, Executive Director & Chief Strategy Officer, NCOSE Haley McNamara is one of the most knowledgeable voices in the country on how tech platforms enable sexual exploitation. She has worked inside NCOSE for over a decade, led the organization's corporate engagement strategy, and was deposed as an expert witness in the New Mexico Meta trial. She is not theorizing. She has been in the room. Episode Timestamps  * [00:00] — Introduction * [02:59] - Scale of Exploitation Amplified by AI * [04:01] - The Vast Hidden Problem * [04:55] - Tech Companies Prioritize Profit Over Safety * [09:46] - Section 230: The Legal Shield for Big Tech * [13:48] - A First Crack in Section 230’s Armor * [15:35] - Internal Meta Data Reveals Massive Abuse * [16:42] - Meta’s Tolerance for Exploitation * [17:46] - Section 230 Protects Dating Apps Too * [27:51] - The Overwhelming Burden on Parents * [35:56] - Google Chromebooks and School Safety Failures * [38:43] - Envisioning a Safer Online World * [40:28] - Global Tech Regulation Examples Key Takeaways * An Instagram account could accumulate 16 trafficking violations before being suspended — sourced from sworn deposition testimony unsealed in November 2024 * As of 2020, Instagram had no dedicated report button for child sexual abuse material — engineers said it was too much work to build * 500,000 children are targeted daily on Meta platforms * Big Tech spends approximately $200 million per year lobbying Congress — roughly ten times the gun lobby * The bipartisan Sunset Section 230 Act, introduced December 2025 by Senators Durbin and Graham, would repeal the law two years after passage TAKE YOUR NEXT STEP 🗓️ Book Your Outcry Witness Strategy Session A private, ninety-minute session with JoDee designed to help survivors navigate healing, understand their options, and move forward with clarity and confidence. 👉 https://jodeeneilcom.as.me/OutcryWitnessStrategySession [https://jodeeneilcom.as.me/OutcryWitnessStrategySession] 📖 Grab JoDee's Book — Outcry Witness A former prosecutor's guide to healing and justice after sexual violence. Part memoir, part practical guide, entirely for survivors. 👉 https://www.amazon.com/dp/1965766196/ [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1965766196/] 🔗 Follow Haley McNamara's Work Visit endsexualexploitation.org and search the Dirty Dozen List to see which platforms and products made the list this year. 🏢 Corporate and Workplace Consulting 👉 https://jodeeneilcom.as.me/StrategySessionForVistageMembers [https://jodeeneilcom.as.me/StrategySessionForVistageMembers] 🎤 Inquire about JoDee Speaking 👉 jodeeneil@neilnowlegal.com [jodeeneil@neilnowlegal.com]

Outcry Witness Unspoken Episode 4: 37 Stab Wounds. A Slit Throat. Colette Martin’s Survival.

Some stories stop you cold. Colette Martin’s is one of them.Nearly three decades ago, Colette survived an act of violence that most people cannot even comprehend. Stabbed 37 times and left for dead, survival itself became the first miracle. But what followed was something even more powerful: a decision to turn that survival into purpose.Today, Colette uses her voice to stand beside other survivors, helping women who are navigating trauma, fear, and the long road back to themselves. Messages arrive from across the world from women searching for hope, guidance, and proof that healing is possible. Colette shows them that life does not end with violence. In many ways, it can begin again.The work has not been easy. Trauma does not disappear overnight. The impact of violence echoes through years, relationships, and even physical health. But Colette’s story shows something essential that survivors often need to hear: there is still light after the darkest moments.Advocacy became part of that path forward. Colette helped push forward legislation in New Brunswick that gives people the right to ask about a partner’s potential history of domestic abuse. That effort, born from lived experience, has the power to help protect others before violence escalates.This conversation moves through the reality of trauma, the long process of healing, the strength it takes to keep speaking, and the purpose that can grow from surviving the unimaginable. It also explores faith, resilience, and the idea that survivors can become a light for others who are still searching for a way forward.The message at the center of this conversation is simple but powerful. Survivors deserve to be heard. Survivors deserve support. Survivors deserve hope.Watch now and hear why Colette’s voice matters.

Outcry Witness Unspoken Episode 3: Boy Scouts Bankruptcy | Survivors Still Fighting to Be Heard

More than 82,000 survivors reported sexual abuse connected to the Boy Scouts of America.What followed was not a courtroom.It was bankruptcy.In Episode Three of Outcry Witness Unspoken, survivor and advocate Curtis Garrison explains what that process has meant for the thousands of men who came forward expecting justice.Instead of testimony before a jury, survivors were placed inside a bankruptcy system designed to protect the institution.Inside that system:Survivors were labeled creditors.Claims worth millions were reduced to tiny percentages of their value.Thousands waited years for answers with little transparency.For many, there was never a moment to stand in court and say what happened to them.Curtis Garrison has spent years inside this process. His advocacy work has focused on exposing how the Boy Scouts bankruptcy has handled abuse claims and what it reveals about how institutions respond to mass sexual abuse.This conversation goes beyond the Boy Scouts.It raises a larger question about what happens when organizations facing widespread abuse claims use bankruptcy to resolve those claims outside the traditional justice system.Across the country, survivors are now pushing for reforms including:• Eliminating nondisclosure agreements in abuse cases• Removing statutes of limitations for sexual abuse• Strengthening mandatory reporting laws• Preventing institutions from using bankruptcy to limit survivor testimonyFor survivors, this fight is not about headlines or settlements.It is about being heard.Because when abuse is buried inside legal processes designed for corporations, the people who were harmed can disappear from the story.The question now is simple.Will survivors ever be given the space to tell the truth about what happened to them?