Hypothetical Harry with Rae Bonney - June 2026

Hypothetical Harry with Rae Bonney - June 2026

Hypothetical Harry – the story behind the story. Every month I'm reminded what an extraordinary privilege this humble little show is and that people, often complete strangers, trust me with stories they've often never spoken out loud. For this episode, one man did something incredibly courageous and told his story on global radio. I first met this version of Hypothetical Harry after one of my presentations, when he quietly walked up and said, "Hi... I'm Hypothetical Harry. You just told my story." Choosing to remain anonymous, he joined me to share his experience, not because he wanted people to know who he is, but because he wanted others to know they are not alone. As we spoke, I was reminded yet again that people rarely break because of one catastrophic event. More often, it's the accumulation of ordinary experiences that quietly become too much to carry. There were so many moments that stayed with me... 💬 "I've heard FIFO described as 'Fit In Or F** Off.'"* 💬 "If you have a really crappy cook in that camp and the meals are rubbish, that can really make the two weeks quite hard." 💬 "I had the lovely four-bedroom house... the beach shack at Inverloch... but I had a hole in the soul." 💬 "Do we talk about fatigue? Do we talk about impairment? Do we talk about men's health? You won't find that in your glossy binders." 💬 "Safety is what you're doing when no one's watching." To Harry... thank you for trusting me, for your generosity, and for your willingness to share your story so openly. I have no doubt there will be people listening who hear parts of themselves in your experience, just as you once heard yourself in Hypothetical Harry. What does it feel like, being you, today? #WhatDoesItFeelLikeBeingYouToday #MensHealth #PsychosocialSafety #WorkplaceHealth #FIFO #Leadership #3WBC

Rebecca Challoner with Rae Bonney - May 2026

David Maywald on Masculinity, Policy & the Stories Shaping Boys and Men

I recently sat down live in the 3WBC Studios with David Maywald - governance specialist, board director and author of The Relentless War on Masculinity - for a robust and, at times, uncomfortable conversation. David flew in from Canberra to join me in person, and we covered a lot of ground: fatherhood, policy, education, family law, suicide prevention and the cultural narratives shaping how we see men and boys. He spoke about what moved him to write his book, particularly the shifting political and cultural landscape overseas, and his concern that many boys and men feel unheard in public debate. “There’s a wave coming back toward balance. People want to be able to speak without being shut down.” We explored male suicide, the need for more targeted approaches in prevention, and whether current strategies are genuinely meeting men where they are. “If we can’t decide our compassion without knowing the sex of the person involved, that tells us something.” There were moments where we agreed and others where we challenged each other and the conversation stretched both of us, which is part of the beauty of interviews like this ... we can agree to disagree. One line that stayed with me was this:💙 “Small wins matter - cultural change doesn’t happen in a day.” Whether you agree with David’s framing or not, the issues we discussed, suicide, family breakdown, boys’ education, institutional design are real and complex. Conversations like this are not about taking sides.They’re about widening the lens.If you’re working in policy, education, leadership, community health or simply raising sons and daughters, this episode invites reflection. What does it feel like, being you, today? www.raebonney.au#MensHealth #PsychosocialSafety #Leadership #SuicidePrevention #GenderResponsiveSystems #PublicPolicy

Grant Fuller with Rae Bonney - November 2025

Grant Fuller on men, mental health & the cost of unsafe worksites Last week, on What Does It Feel Like, Being You Today?, I sat down with Grant Fuller, Health, Safety & Wellbeing Principal at Alchimie and co-founder of Wellness in Infrastructure, for awe inspiring conversation - perfectly timed in the lead-up to International Men’s Day. Grant spoke candidly about growing up in Montana, losing his father at age five, and learning early that men and feelings, weren’t a great relationship. 💙 “I didn’t see the men around me show emotion. I want my boys to be able to.” We traced the pathway that shaped him — being raised in a small Montana town marked by addiction and loss, finding freedom and purpose on fishing boats of Alaska, and eventually building a life in Australia. Grant also spoke candidly about what it cost him to stand up to unsafe cultures and bullying on a major project — a long period of union harassment that left a deeper mark than he realised at the time. 💙 “Two years of harassment… being filmed, edited, posted online… told ‘you’re a liar’ for hours. I thought I was fine. Then I realised: I wasn’t.” Grant described the moment he understood the emotional impact: 💙 “I was told, ‘take the emotion out of it’, and I said, ‘I don’t know how.’” That experience fed directly into the beginnings of Wellness in Infrastructure. Grant talked about Professor Luke Downey’s 2018 research, which found burnout at almost 50% in construction and depression and stress four to five times higher than the general population. 💙 “People were hurting. Enough wasn’t being done. We wanted to change those statistics.” One line stayed with me, well after the show: 💙 “This isn’t about being nice for the sake of it. The way we treat people at work can push them over the edge or pull them back from it.” For anyone who works in infrastructure, construction, or mostly male environments — this episode is a powerful reflection on what real prevention looks like: clarity, safety, leadership, and environments that don’t break people. Grant’s honesty, insight and lived experience bring a rare depth to a conversation workplaces (and beyond) desperately need. What does it feel like, being you, today? www.raebonney.au #InternationalMensDay #MensHealth #MensMentalHealth #Infrastructure #ConstructionIndustry #WorkplaceMentalHealth #PsychosocialSafety #SafetyLeadership #MentallyHealthyWorkplaces #BurnoutPrevention #BullyingAndHarassment #LivedExperience

Michael Wilson with Rae Bonney - October 2025

What Does It Feel Like, Being Michael Wilson? The Human Side Of Men's Health Research The world loves a good stat 📈. We quote them, post them, argue about them, and use “the research” to support our opinions. But how often do we stop to ask, where does the data come from? Who are the people behind the research? What drives someone to commit years of their life to a PhD? .... and who supports them along the way? Back in October 2023, I was joined by Michael Wilson, Research Fellow in Men's Mental Health at Orygen and one of the new generation of men’s health researchers, helping shape what “evidence” really means in the lives of men. His work explores why some men face higher suicide risk after relationship breakdowns, especially how emotion dysregulation and loneliness can collide in the months post-separation. We unpacked the why behind Michael’s PhD - the purpose, persistence and curiosity that fuels his work, and how good support is essential in making it all possible. Then… enter the room (by phone), Michael’s super-supportive supervisor, none other than Dr. Zac Seidler - global men’s health icon, Movember leader, and champion of the next generation of researchers, shared what it takes to nurture rigorous, human-centred research and why great supervision can influence the trajectory of a PhD (and a researcher). What does it feel like, being you, today?