Why Letting Go Feels Worse Than Staying with Chelli Pumphrey | S4E09

Why Letting Go Feels Worse Than Staying with Chelli Pumphrey | S4E09

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2503841/fan_mail/new] If you’ve ever recognized the abuse but felt completely paralyzed and unable to leave, this episode explains exactly why that happens and how to break free. Lisa Sonni speaks with Chelli Pumphrey, a trauma-informed therapist specializing in attachment and relational healing.  Drawing from both professional expertise and her own lived experience, Chelli unpacks trauma bonds as powerful biochemical and attachment-based phenomena, the cognitive dissonance and analysis paralysis that keep survivors stuck, and how anxious attachment styles fuel the painful cycle of highs and lows. She also explores the primal fear of leaving, the grief of letting go of the idealized future, and practical strategies for shifting attachment patterns, rebuilding self-trust, and finding safety. The conversation highlights the power of self-compassion, decentering the abuser, and the vital support of communities like the She Rises Collective. This episode offers deep validation and real hope: leaving is hard, but it almost always leads to greater peace, safety, and happiness. Healing is possible—you don’t have to do it alone. Support the show [https://paypal.me/strongerthanbefore2?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US] This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com [https://lisasonni.com]  Book A Session with Lisa [https://lisasonni.com/book-a-session/] Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective [https://lisasonni.com/membership/?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=she_rises_collective_podcast&utm_content=dynamic_ad] where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG [https://www.instagram.com/lisasonnicoaching] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@lisasonni] Get My Books Here [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C4ZMN8Y6/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=c9f3febb-d3cb-41df-8487-b4b515ab3a90&ref_=ap_rdr&ccs_id=92a0de38-f3bb-4d11-881a-bb1ccd609c70] New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

He Cheated, Blamed You, and Still Expected You to Stay | Dr. Kathy Nickerson | S4E08

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2503841/fan_mail/new] If you’ve ever been cheated on, then blamed for it while he expected you to just move on and stay, this episode will validate your experience and cut through the confusion. Lisa Sonni sits down with Dr. Kathy Nickelson to explore the dangerous overlap between infidelity and abusive, controlling behavior. They break down why cheating in abusive relationships is rarely “just about sex” or immaturity — it’s often rooted in entitlement, power, and a lack of accountability.  The conversation clearly distinguishes between typical infidelity and patterns of emotional or physical abuse, helping listeners spot performative remorse versus genuine change. Dr. Nickelson shares insights on the role of childhood conditioning, attachment wounds, boundary-setting, and why hoping for change without real consequences often keeps women stuck. This episode empowers survivors with clarity around self-trust, safety, and the realistic path to healing. Support the show [https://paypal.me/strongerthanbefore2?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US] This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com [https://lisasonni.com]  Book A Session with Lisa [https://lisasonni.com/book-a-session/] Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective [https://lisasonni.com/membership/?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=she_rises_collective_podcast&utm_content=dynamic_ad] where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG [https://www.instagram.com/lisasonnicoaching] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@lisasonni] Get My Books Here [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C4ZMN8Y6/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=c9f3febb-d3cb-41df-8487-b4b515ab3a90&ref_=ap_rdr&ccs_id=92a0de38-f3bb-4d11-881a-bb1ccd609c70] New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

I Survived a Con Artist. Here's How Abuse Works | S4E7

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2503841/fan_mail/new] In this episode, Dr. Nadine Macaluso — trauma bond expert and survivor of narcissistic abuse — reveals the sophisticated con tactics narcissists use to manipulate, trap, and control their partners. Drawing from her personal journey as the real-life ex-wife of the Wolf of Wall Street and her clinical expertise, she explains the stages of abuse, including love bombing, mirroring, gaslighting, and the painful switch from charm to control. Dr. Nadine explores the biological addiction of trauma bonds, the specific traits abusers target in victims, and why it’s so difficult to recognize and leave these relationships. She also addresses shame, cognitive dissonance, and the path to healing through community support and self-compassion. This conversation offers powerful validation, clarity, and hope for anyone recovering from toxic relationships. Support the show [https://paypal.me/strongerthanbefore2?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US] This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com [https://lisasonni.com]  Book A Session with Lisa [https://lisasonni.com/book-a-session/] Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective [https://lisasonni.com/membership/?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=she_rises_collective_podcast&utm_content=dynamic_ad] where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG [https://www.instagram.com/lisasonnicoaching] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@lisasonni] Get My Books Here [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C4ZMN8Y6/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=c9f3febb-d3cb-41df-8487-b4b515ab3a90&ref_=ap_rdr&ccs_id=92a0de38-f3bb-4d11-881a-bb1ccd609c70] New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

Why Women Get More Backlash for Naming Harm Than Men Get for Causing It | Reagan, Host of Buckle Up Babes S4E6

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2503841/fan_mail/new] If you’ve ever heard “women just lie for attention,” “false accusations are ruining men’s lives,” or wondered why so many survivors wait years to speak up—this episode cuts through the noise with honesty and evidence. Lisa Sonni sits down with Reagan (Reagan Reacts / Buckle Up Babes), a sharp content creator who breaks down abuse, misconduct, and the societal narratives that protect abusers while silencing victims. Together they dismantle the most common myths around abuse allegations, expose systemic failures, and explain why coming forward is so incredibly difficult for most women. This is a raw, well-researched conversation that challenges victim-blaming culture and highlights the real dynamics of power, trauma, and justice. Support the show [https://paypal.me/strongerthanbefore2?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US] This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com [https://lisasonni.com]  Book A Session with Lisa [https://lisasonni.com/book-a-session/] Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective [https://lisasonni.com/membership/?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=she_rises_collective_podcast&utm_content=dynamic_ad] where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG [https://www.instagram.com/lisasonnicoaching] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@lisasonni] Get My Books Here [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C4ZMN8Y6/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=c9f3febb-d3cb-41df-8487-b4b515ab3a90&ref_=ap_rdr&ccs_id=92a0de38-f3bb-4d11-881a-bb1ccd609c70] New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

Character Isn’t Chemistry: How to Stop Falling for Sparks and Start Seeing Who He Really Is | Chantel Hyde S4E5

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2503841/fan_mail/new] If you've ever felt terrified to date again after abuse, wondered why your "radar" keeps failing you, or questioned how to trust yourself (and others) moving forward—this episode is going to validate everything you've sensed and give you clear, practical tools to move forward with confidence. Canada’s Dating Coach Chantel Hyde joins us to share her powerful insights drawn from sociology, psychology, personal experience, and years of coaching women through healing and dating. We dive deep into why slowing down is non-negotiable, how to properly vet partners, the biology and psychology behind toxic attraction, and how to rebuild your self-respect so you never settle for less again. This conversation dismantles the societal conditioning that leads women into unhealthy dynamics and replaces it with empowering strategies for choosing (and being chosen by) high-quality partners. Support the show [https://paypal.me/strongerthanbefore2?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US] This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com [https://lisasonni.com]  Book A Session with Lisa [https://lisasonni.com/book-a-session/] Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective [https://lisasonni.com/membership/?utm_source=buzzsprout&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=she_rises_collective_podcast&utm_content=dynamic_ad] where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG [https://www.instagram.com/lisasonnicoaching] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@lisasonni] Get My Books Here [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C4ZMN8Y6/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=c9f3febb-d3cb-41df-8487-b4b515ab3a90&ref_=ap_rdr&ccs_id=92a0de38-f3bb-4d11-881a-bb1ccd609c70] New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.