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Self-Forgiveness in Recovery: Why You Can't Afford to Hate Yourself Sober

26 min · 21. maj 2026
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Self-forgiveness in addiction recovery is the work nobody markets — because nobody wants to buy it. In this solo episode, Anthony shares why shame is a stronger predictor of relapse than a deterrent, why guilt and shame are not the same emotion, and the 5-step practice he uses to forgive himself one day at a time. After 7.5 years sober, Anthony relapsed in 2024. He came back January 12, 2025. This episode is about what kept him stuck on the way back — and what finally got him off the hook. In this episode: - Why "I'll just feel bad enough to never do it again" doesn't work - Brené Brown's guilt vs. shame distinction — and why it matters for relapse risk - June Tangney's research on shame-proneness and substance misuse - Kristin Neff's three pillars of self-compassion, adapted for recovery - A 5-step self-forgiveness practice you can start today - The "cookie jar" — using your own hardest experiences as proof you can do this Chapter markers: 00:00 Cold Open: The Day I Stopped Trying to Forgive Myself 02:55 Resentment Is Poison: Forgiving Others First 04:55 Welcome to Recovering Out Loud 06:30 Real Check-In: My Struggle With Patience This Week 09:55 Why Self-Forgiveness Is the Hardest Step 12:44 Story 1: Blowing the Money & Relapsing After 7.5 Years 17:47 Guilt vs. Shame — The Distinction That Changes Everything 20:32 The Relapse Reckoning 22:00 What Self-Forgiveness Actually Is (and Isn't) 24:21 The 5-Step Self-Forgiveness Practice 29:17 You Are Not the Worst Thing You Did 31:16 The Cookie Jar: Drawing on Past Wins If you got something out of this, please follow, rate, and share with one person who needs it. — Anthony Host of Recovering Out Loud · Real stories of addiction and recovery, no clinical voice, no guru energy. #RecoveringOutLoud #SoberPodcast #Recovery #SelfForgiveness #Shame

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