Reflect Forward

Choose love over fear. It’s more than a feel-good mantra. It’s a radical leadership choice that can transform teams, ignite innovation, and turn crisis into opportunity. Washington Speakers Bureau President Ryan Heil has built his career proving that love, not fear, is the real competitive advantage in business and life. In this episode of Reflect Forward: Advice for Leaders, I sit down with Ryan to unpack how this philosophy has shaped his journey from professional baseball to earning a PhD in organizational culture, co-authoring Choose Love Not Fear with his father, and leading a major turnaround at one of the most influential organizations in the speaking industry. We explore why choosing love over fear creates stronger teams, deeper trust, and cultures that can adapt to disruption—plus how Ryan and his team navigated the pandemic’s devastating impact on the speaking industry to emerge stronger than ever. Key Takeaways: • Love is a leadership strategy – Choosing love over fear builds trust, engagement, and sustainable performance. • Fear-based leadership fails in the long run – It may get short-term compliance, but it erodes creativity, passion, and loyalty. • Creative abrasion fuels innovation – Healthy conflict, when guided with respect, produces better ideas and stronger solutions. • Culture change starts one belief at a time – Turnarounds require relentless clarity on values, vision, and “why.” • Relationships are the real currency – They outlast trends, technologies, and even market disruptions. • Crisis is a catalyst for reinvention – Use uncertainty to question old assumptions and build better ways forward. • Your team may not always love you back – But consistent, steady leadership earns respect and trust over time. Mic Drop Moments: • “It’s easy to lead with fear. But fear makes us dumber. Love unleashes human potential.” • “We don’t have speaker contracts—we have handshakes. Integrity is the glue that holds our relationships together.” • “Success is temporary. So is failure. The real skill is knowing how to pivot fast.” • “AI can recommend a speaker, but it can’t tell you who will stay after the keynote to shake every hand.” • “Love your team even when they don’t love you back. That’s leadership.” Connect with Ryan: • Connect with Ryan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanmheil/ • Learn more about Washington Speakers Bureau: https://www.wsb.com/ • Get the book Choose Love Not Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Love-Not-Fear-Engagement/dp/1734105135 Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Ever wanted to send that scathing email or slam the door shut after someone disappointed you? We all have. But here’s the hard truth: Don’t burn that bridge—your future self might need it. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I dive into one of the most overlooked leadership strategies: choosing compassion over retaliation, even when you feel wronged. Especially when you feel wronged. Because the way you show up during conflict doesn’t just define your character—it shapes your future opportunities. The Real Reason We Lash Out—and Why We Must Resist When someone quits unexpectedly, underdelivers, or betrays your trust, your brain goes into fight-or-flight mode. The amygdala floods your system with cortisol. Logic shrinks. Ego inflates. We react from fear, not clarity. But strong leaders don’t lead from reactivity. They lead from ownership. Unfortunately, business culture conditions us to compete at all costs. We’re taught to dominate, win, and protect what’s “ours.” That scarcity mindset convinces us that success is limited—and anyone who threatens ours must be the enemy. But real leadership requires a different path. Mic Drop Moment: “You don’t need to win every time to be successful. You need to lead every time with integrity.” The Law of Unexpected Returns Here’s the magic: the kindness you extend today often circles back to benefit you later. Sometimes years later. Maybe it’s the employee you part ways with gracefully who refers top talent to you later. Or the competitor you treat respectfully who becomes your partner in a surprising venture. The point is: you never know. And in tight-knit industries, your reputation is your currency. Mic Drop Moment: “Every interaction is a seed—and the most valuable harvests come from the bridges you didn’t burn.” Compassion Isn’t Weakness. It’s Strategy. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning poor behavior. It means not carrying resentment. You can set boundaries and still choose compassion. You can walk away from someone and still treat them with grace. Mic Drop Moment: “Just because the relationship looks like this today doesn’t mean it will look like this forever.” The long game of leadership means leaving the door open—even if it’s only a crack. Five Ways to Lead With Compassion—Even When It’s Hard 1. Pause before reacting. Ask yourself: “What’s the story I’m telling myself right now?” 2. Assume positive intent. Even if you’re hurt. Especially if you’re hurt. 3. Use “I” statements. Lead with your truth, not with blame. 4. Reach out with grace. A kind message can shift everything. 5. Zoom out. Will this matter five years from now? How do you want to be remembered? Key Takeaways • Lashing out is human. Leading with ownership is leadership. • Scarcity thinking creates enemies. Long-term thinking builds networks. • Your reputation travels. People remember how you made them feel. • Grace is strategic. Leave room for future reconnection. • Forgiveness fosters emotional maturity, team health, and future growth. Call to Action: Lead With Integrity, Even in Discomfort Think of one person you’ve mentally written off. Someone you feel hurt by. Ask yourself: • What kind of relationship would I want with them in five years? • What’s one small act of compassion I can offer—today? Maybe it’s a message. Maybe it’s just letting go. Either way, take the high road. Because your future self just might thank you. Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Authentic leadership through inner work is more than a practice, it’s the key to unlocking your full potential and creating lasting impact as a leader. In this powerful episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Carrie Freeman, CEO and General Manager of Vara Winery and Distillery, who shares how embracing vulnerability, intuition, and self-awareness has completely transformed her leadership style and elevated her success. Carrie’s extraordinary journey from global innovation executive to winery CEO illustrates how leading from the inside out creates deeper connections, stronger teams, and greater fulfillment. Carrie has a fascinating background, transitioning from her role as co-CEO of SecondMuse, a global innovation company that collaborated with organizations such as NASA, the White House, and the World Bank, to now running a thriving winery and distillery. We discuss the realities of operating a winery, examining how Carrie’s leadership skills enabled her to enter an industry where she initially lacked expertise—and why being an outsider can sometimes provide the fresh perspective a business needs most. Throughout our conversation, Carrie highlights the misconception that humans are purely rational decision-makers. She emphasizes that relying exclusively on logic can limit our ability to lead effectively. By tapping into intuition, emotion, and inner wisdom, leaders can gain deeper insights, make better decisions, and build stronger relationships. Mic Drop Moment: • “Expertise is valuable, but curiosity is a superpower. When you admit you don't know everything, you unlock your team's full potential.” • “Sometimes there isn’t a problem to solve. True leadership is knowing when to step back and let things unfold.” What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why Expertise Isn’t Everything • Inner Work as the Foundation for Outer Success • Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy • Vulnerability as a Strength Key Takeaways: 1. Be Curious, Not Just Expert: Embrace curiosity and humility; empowering your team can often yield better solutions than claiming expertise. 2. Listen to Your Intuition: Great leaders trust their gut and heart as much as their intellect; purely rational decisions often miss deeper insights. 3. Integrate, Don’t Balance: Leadership is not about perfect balance but about discerning when to engage action-oriented or intuitive energies effectively. 4. Lead with Vulnerability: Authenticity and vulnerability build deeper trust, stronger relationships, and a healthier organizational culture. 5. Recognize There Isn’t Always a Problem to Solve: Resist the urge to fix everything; sometimes stepping back and allowing situations to naturally evolve is the best course of action. About Carrie Freeman: Carrie Freeman is the CEO and General Manager of Vara Winery and Distillery in Albuquerque, NM, and previously served as co-CEO of SecondMuse, a global innovation consultancy. Passionate about authentic leadership, innovation, and sustainability, Carrie guides leaders and businesses toward deeper success by emphasizing self-awareness, purpose, and authenticity. Connect with Carrie Freeman: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-freeman/ Learn more about Vara Winery and Distillery or order their award-winning wines at www.varawines.com Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Most leaders travel alone for work. But how many take a real solo vacation—just for themselves, not for business? I recently took my first-ever solo trip through Peru and Ecuador, and it changed me. I reconnected with myself. I reflected deeply. I came back more grounded, clear, and confident as a leader. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I share why every leader should consider a solo vacation, how it strengthens your leadership, and how you can plan a meaningful trip that resets your mindset and helps you lead with intention. Why Solo Time Is Essential for Modern Leaders 1. Clarity requires solitude 2. Breaking routine unlocks creativity 3. Being alone builds self-leadership 4. Presence deepens connection How to Take a Transformational Solo Vacation • Choose a place that stretches you—culturally, spiritually, physically • Unplug completely—no work emails, no “just checking in” • Journal and reflect—capture what you learn • Say yes to connection—talk to strangers, share stories • Pay attention to your thoughts—notice what comes up in the stillness Key Takeaways 1. Solo time is a powerful leadership tool 2. Travel breaks patterns and expands your thinking 3. Self-trust comes from being alone and handling challenges 4. Presence builds deeper, more authentic relationships 5. Insight and clarity are born in stillness, not hustle Mic Drop Moment “You cannot lead others from a place of internal chaos or disconnection. But when you take time to be alone, you find clarity, and that transforms everything.” Call to Action Book the trip. Go somewhere alone. Reflect. Get uncomfortable. You’ll come back more empowered, present, and effective as a leader and as a human. Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Why solo vacations matter for leadership 02:30 – My first solo trip to Peru and Ecuador 05:12 – Creating my Dreams List and making the trip happen 07:45 – The emotional arc: excitement, fear, empowerment, loneliness 10:20 – How solo travel differs from solo business travel 13:05 – Reflection as the foundation of self-leadership 15:12 – Why clarity requires solitude (HBR statistic) 17:28 – Breaking routine to gain perspective and creativity 20:40 – What Columbia Business School says about novel experiences 22:30 – Strengthening self-leadership through solo challenges 26:00 – Realizing I like myself: processing growth and healing 28:44 – Presence, stillness, and the power of being with yourself 30:50 – Connecting deeply with strangers while traveling alone 33:20 – Why authentic presence builds better leadership 35:40 – The most common excuses leaders make—and how to challenge them 40:22 – How to take a transformational solo vacation: 5 tips 45:18 – Key takeaways from the experience 48:30 – Final thoughts and call to action: Book the trip If you liked this… Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Every great leader has a powerful story, but how effectively you tell that story can define your success. Don Yaeger, renowned Hall of Fame keynote speaker, executive coach, and twelve-time New York Times bestselling author, believes storytelling is the secret to exceptional leadership and high-performing teams. From his time as an associate editor at Sports Illustrated to his current role as host of the acclaimed podcast “The Corporate Competitor,” Don has built his career by helping leaders harness the transformative power of stories to inspire, connect, and drive momentum. After meeting Don at the Real Leaders Unite Summit, I was captivated by his ability to connect with his audience. In this week’s episode, Don shares insights into mastering storytelling, leveraging momentum, and creating cultures that foster team success. Get ready to learn how your powerful stories can elevate your leadership and team performance. Key Takeaways: • Storytelling is not innate; it’s a skill anyone can master with intentional practice and coaching. • Deeply knowing your audience significantly amplifies your impact as a leader. • Exceptional teams consistently create “feel-it” moments, making every team member feel integral to their broader purpose. • Cultivating a mentoring culture organically enriches team dynamics and fosters ongoing excellence. • Embracing and leveraging change and momentum can turn setbacks into meaningful opportunities. Mic Drop Moments: • “Never waste a loss. If something bad happens, that’s a great time for us to get better.” • “Leadership and storytelling aren’t genetic gifts. They’re skills anyone can and should develop.” • “Purpose has to flow from leadership to the frontline, connecting everyone deeply to why their work matters.” Connect with Don • Website: https://donyaeger.com/ • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donyaeger/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donyaeger/# • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/donyaeger • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@corporatecompetitorpodcast • X: https://x.com/donyaeger • The New Science of Momentum Book • 45 Storytelling Prompts by Don Yaeger (Free Resource) Episode Highlights & Timestamps: • Understanding Your Audience (03:12) • Mastering Storytelling (07:25) • Developing a Library of Stories (13:42) • The Transition from Writer to Speaker (19:50) • Building Exceptional Teams (27:05) • Creating “Feel-It” Moments (33:40) • Mentoring Culture vs. Mentoring Programs (38:10) • Navigating Change and Momentum (42:20) • The New Science of Momentum (49:45) If you liked this… Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/