Church Harm & Deconstruction: Part I

Caroline's Story

Survivor Story. Seeking Sanctuary: House to Heart is a podcast about abuse, trauma, and finding healing in the arms of Christ. In this episode we hear Caroline's story. Resources mentioned in today’s episode or provided by the guest: Books: - Why Does He Do That [https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0]by Lundy Bandcroft - The Great Sex Rescue [https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xkuFR5dD4-ERJ1arBOn1ejKpkia8Me71HCOwGI8nYbm_Us6UXuF6H74w6oqu0MSBC9eRt3Q_b1M62ZiAHB84jU1aqbzcQ0etz5G1wYsUZ8VX2D1ssYj6Ut00yDBf-PoLsjzbuyWCR4fXn37o9CFaQTGgjGEZXeP2a-_OjNOLuqFW0gcc7jEtFgtPq9GJhw4sGRNAfsIgmErgJWsT755oY6wsLx5xZpGPBRrmCL5TiIE.UEJ5ZvlcVaYI_F-3Mup8spvKtO7uehCRUtB238dLkrg&qid=1748541970&sr=1-1] by Sheila Wray Gregoire  - The Emotionally Destructive Marriage [https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Destructive-Marriage-Voice-Reclaim/dp/0307731189/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1SO8RHBB884XG&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.fnodKqvdl6325EV6B9nFDUk2y8wjEEwEJVx0mqr4DfQTRF282NFfROyEVEAiJaBYlASxbMWlbdhGJyjaEr_odUtx7HZ7xTdN83jmuDLDBPDhRR8qRh3y7137gD-OzMkRU_5VFLHF_LjT-m6Fz-pJyYU7XUNiGYN3pp8f_m4xkOF9mC8Q_z43PVZAc45kTwT6yy_RYc7SbWUkBv0_GBel_7YwfMu-Uy9YlbPg3pffzhA.z5a0xl_0D1kYxP2nVamMJEEzTS5SFmo4l4V4abWIlJ8&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+emotionally+destructive+marriage&qid=1748542039&s=books&sprefix=the+emotionally+destr%2Cstripbooks%2C148&sr=1-1] by Leslie Vernick - Books by Darby Strickland  [https://www.amazon.com/s?k=darby+strickland+books&i=stripbooks&crid=3H6MS06D1LO2N&sprefix=darby+strickland+books%2Cstripbooks%2C117&ref=nb_sb_noss_1] Organizations: - Broken to Beloved (Brian Lee) [https://www.brokentobeloved.org/] - GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in a Christian Environment) [https://www.netgrace.org/] Song: - Hear in Your Presence [https://youtu.be/G262RNi9tOM?si=D1tld2yHML7YUovu] by Elevation Worship Article: - Toward a More Trauma-Informed Church [https://www.currentsjournal.org/index.php/currents/article/view/444/483?fbclid=IwAR0IWgqMjsFIiedh-LKCjIl_LcSXdyHUklc8q54mCMYjTPolwZzTjc24PXQ_aem_AXqearaGLAukDiPessOO2WuTwQCi6TunUuosmSFh69eQaPRtJf4zH1SQBMqOvwKXy_Tp3uow_oaaIYiKrfqtL9lc] by Pete Singer

Church Harm & Deconstruction: Part II

Guest: Angela Reitsma Bick. Organization: ⁠Christian Courier⁠ [https://www.christiancourier.ca/]. In Part II of this episode, we sit down with Angela Reitsma Bick, co-author of the book Blessed are the Undone [https://www.amazon.com/Blessed-are-Undone-Testimonies-Deconstruction/dp/099530548X], to speak about personal loss and what happens when the Church feels like an unsafe place to heal. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Know My Name [https://www.amazon.com/Know-My-Name-Chanel-Miller/dp/073522370X] by Chanel Miller

Church Harm & Deconstruction: Part I

Guest: Dr. Peter Schuurman. Organizations: Redeemer University [https://www.redeemer.ca/]; Global Scholars Canada [https://www.globalscholarscanada.ca/]. In Part 1 of this two-part episode, we sit down with Dr. Peter Schuurman, co-author of the book Blessed are the Undone, to speak about church harm, what happens when faith leaders fail, and what is the fallout for those who follow them.

Kristy's Story

Survivor Story. Seeking Sanctuary: House to Heart is a podcast about abuse, trauma, and finding healing in the arms of Christ. In this episode we hear Kristy's story. Resources mentioned in today’s episode or provided by the guest: Books: - Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family [https://www.amazon.com/Another-Chance-Health-Alcoholic-Family/dp/0831400722/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_8_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=0831400722] by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse - The Verbally Abusive Relationship [https://www.amazon.com/Verbally-Abusive-Relationship-Recognize-Respond/dp/1558505822/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_9_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=1558505822] by Patricia Evans - Victory Over Verbal Abuse [https://www.amazon.com/Victory-Over-Verbal-Abuse-Reclaiming/dp/1440525803/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_7_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=1440525803] by Patricia Evans - Codependent No More [https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/195411821X/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_6_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=195411821X]by Melody Beattie - The Language of Letting Go [https://www.amazon.com/Language-Letting-Go-Hazelden-Meditation-ebook/dp/B00BS02CLG/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_4_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=B00BS02CLG] by Melody Beattie - More Language of Letting Go [https://www.amazon.com/More-Language-Letting-Meditations-Meditation-ebook/dp/B00BS02APO/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_3_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=B00BS02APO] by Melody Beattie - Mending the Soul [https://www.amazon.com/Mending-Soul-Second-Understanding-Healing-ebook/dp/B0BN1BZ86T/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_2_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=B0BN1BZ86T] by Steven and Celestia Tracy - The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist [https://www.amazon.com/Covert-Passive-Aggressive-Narcissist-Recognizing-Psychological/dp/099862134X/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_10_image?pd_rd_w=eDQIL&content-id=amzn1.sym.bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac%3Aamzn1.symc.40e6a10e-cbc4-4fa5-81e3-4435ff64d03b&pf_rd_p=bb21fc54-1dd8-448e-92bb-2ddce187f4ac&pf_rd_r=3QFS7VG8Y218FCNKP4DQ&pd_rd_wg=5iUzh&pd_rd_r=530a3a89-21ca-4754-bf55-e98cd475cae4&pd_rd_i=099862134X] by Debbie Mirza Podcast: - Don't Feel Guilty For Divorcing Your Narcissistic Spouse [https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=dEiGRiUh6bI] with Dr. David E. Clark Sermons: - New Heights Church Sermon [https://subsplash.com/u/newheightschurch-wa/media/d/wjmr6c2-psalms-of-lament-part-1-how-long-lord] - Jubilee Church Sermon "What God Hates More than Divorce." [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuNmgkeJsf8] Songs: - Authority (In the Name of Jesus) [ https://open.spotify.com/track/5gbqqHkccI0f5NucWRbACG?si=9ElSKAcvRQ-DixtysKa0bA&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Aautho] by Housefires - Stand [https://open.spotify.com/track/3bV1iS1qWgbS9hGqM45wyj?si=4zGJvSETTcq3_Ar43CsYTw&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Aannie%2Bwilson%2Bstand] by Annie Wilson - Flowers [https://open.spotify.com/track/0BEwBflam3FG1sjoVDrCuN?si=irsCxv51TkqUDRLD2I0OzA&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Aflowers] by Samantha Ebert - Symphony [https://open.spotify.com/track/7at2FO6HnRqivRcfzTatg9?si=lbhaU_pxTrmaLLF3otZlFg&context=spotify%3Asearch%3Awriting%2Ba%2Bsymphony] by Switch and Dillon Chase

Letters to the Broken: Sewa Fields' Story

Guest: Sewa Fields. Website: Sewafields.com [https://www.sewafields.com/] In this epsiode we talk with survivor, author, speaker, and abuse prevention expert Sewa Fields. Born and raised in India, Sewa moved to the US in her adult years. Despite her sheltered upbringing, she encountered domestic violence and loss that eventually led to a beautiful story of redemption and restoration. Guest's Recommended Resources: - Letters to the Broken by Sewa Fields.  - Overcomer: Defeating Anxiety and Absue [https://www.amazon.com/Overcomer-Defeating-Anxiety-Toni-Collier/dp/0578920530/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VH5IGUDV9UD7&keywords=overcomer%20defeating%20anxiety%20%26%20abuse&qid=1650594681&sprefix=overcomer%3A%20defe%2Caps%2C281&sr=8-1] by Sewa Fields, Toni Collier, Hope Moquin, and Nathalie Maxey. - Sanctuaries : In Yours, I Found Mine [https://www.southasiansoar.org/sanctuaries] an Anthology of 20 South Asian Survivor Stories by South Asian SOAR. - ⁠The Body Keeps the Score⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=asc_df_0143127748/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5245706213192650637&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9019869&hvtargid=pla-434690707169&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=61851652213&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5245706213192650637&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9019869&hvtargid=pla-434690707169] by Bessel Van Der Kolk. - Your Life After Trauma: Powerful Practices to Reclaim Your Identity [https://www.amazon.com/Your-Life-After-Trauma-Practices-ebook/dp/B00L4HAVWA/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2P456W00L7XYW&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.bq3zMSxny1Re16lF1AFEz2EjLhf-piI2sxnHylU8cZKsJ-wWfIMpb_FrcqC4m_VkrSm5Ofe3-By0zOWqm7PHjBBoNARiIzcdFjk8dpb5NArZ1zfwh18a0btxJmddoPVxiUbpQc4IgkesKqyhl_URAlgc4q-ymdXxxDKx1bYZbw0oaqDU_I_y31zjz5bJW3VuMxuB3BNxb-D7J9piz4rt9-Sux_-w6aA8or30Djr3MJ0.Te2DKtApQMkCCSIXjr6hg1iwH3QZjqFtTezZ-kl0rUU&dib_tag=se&keywords=your+life+after+trauma&qid=1738085585&sprefix=Your+life+after+tr%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1] by Michele Rosenthal. - Suffering and the Heart of God [https://www.amazon.com/Suffering-Heart-God-Destroys-Restores/dp/1942572026/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.l3mnlry7l5dg4jDEcWHNY-mEWeixcaiUw3Xnv1jxtqf-IWO8ylNgxj6DpHn2F9b0iidaqIe0wRhb7tuR1pM9rnYKl8zylyyF2w-B2qq6Jt_TUdWCi6Z3F3dH_1w9BFjvRgNOKese1882FqTzMkEqDCooglgzjHHoHYg3KGq-b4YQcbPDqPZfmFDPHIbgGi-Wqre2LnxoH-hpoUNyv9Itp4khFD4yTqE5QdtZqb_oJ-4.T8OjMCZl1sonbdi70TzIDEwFBfSSLGhO2UsxgX4-8Lk&qid=1738085638&sr=8-1] by Diane Langberg.