How To Do "The Inner Work" While Single (So You Don't Repeat Toxic Cycles)

Rewiring Your Mind To Create The Life You Deserve w/ NASA Mental Coach Dani B.

If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to rewire those outdated neural pathways. From mastering the STEA process (Stimulus, Thought, Emotion, Action) to shifting out of a chronic fight-or-flight state, this episode bridges the gap between rocket science and relationship psychology. You’ll learn why your phone is a "weapon of mass distraction," how to physically change through repetition, and why regulating your nervous system is the ultimate life hack.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE [https://stan.store/elivazquez/p/join-my-membership--]   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE [https://selfhype.biz/sales-page1641417872603] Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez [https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez] https://instagram.com/itselivazquez [https://instagram.com/itselivazquez] https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/] https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez [https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez]   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The No BS Truth On Healing: How to Bounce Back When You Break No Contact

If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges you to ask a different question: What did touching the hot stove teach me this time? You’ll learn how to reframe your missteps as vital data points, why true mental fitness requires daily practice (just like going to the gym), and how to translate your momentary "failures" into strict new boundaries.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE [https://stan.store/elivazquez/p/join-my-membership--]   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE [https://selfhype.biz/sales-page1641417872603] Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez [https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez] https://instagram.com/itselivazquez [https://instagram.com/itselivazquez] https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/] https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez [https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez]   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The Independence Blueprint: How to Love Without Losing Yourself

If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, you're setting the relationship up for failure. Eli shares the "blueprint" for maintaining your personal non-negotiables, why "bending" for a partner breeds resentment but "considering" them builds trust, and why keeping your friendships alive is actually crucial for the health of your romance. If you’re terrified of losing yourself again, tune in to learn how to keep your tribe, protect your joy, and make yourself a priority.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE [https://stan.store/elivazquez/p/join-my-membership--]   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE [https://selfhype.biz/sales-page1641417872603] Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez [https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez] https://instagram.com/itselivazquez [https://instagram.com/itselivazquez] https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/] https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez [https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez]   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Use Joy To Rebuild Your Life After Heartbreak w/ SC Perot

What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers for feather boas, using long walks and a Harry Styles-themed "Eat, Pray, Love" adventure to slowly regulate her nervous system and find herself again. Eli and SC break down her four-pillar framework for cultivating joy, why true joy requires us to embrace our grief, and how to unlearn the toxic conditioning that happiness is something you have to constantly achieve. If you are going through a messy life transition, this episode is your reminder to trust the process.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? LEARN MORE ABOUT SC [https://www.scperot.com/] Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE [https://stan.store/elivazquez/p/join-my-membership--]   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE [https://selfhype.biz/sales-page1641417872603] Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez [https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez] https://instagram.com/itselivazquez [https://instagram.com/itselivazquez] https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/] https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez [https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez]   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Do "The Inner Work" While Single (So You Don't Repeat Toxic Cycles)

If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nervous system for a secure one. Sharing his own current journey of facing fears (like finally signing a 12-month apartment lease after years of being a digital nomad), Eli explains how to identify the deep-rooted fears running your life. You’ll learn how to trace your people-pleasing and overachieving back to your childhood, how to reframe your survival traits as gifts, and exactly how to practice setting boundaries in your daily life before you ever go on another first date.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE [https://stan.store/elivazquez/p/join-my-membership--]   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE [https://selfhype.biz/sales-page1641417872603] Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez [https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez] https://instagram.com/itselivazquez [https://instagram.com/itselivazquez] https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/] https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez [https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez]   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice