33. The Power in Paid Sex and recognizing Emotional Abuse (w/ Raquel Savage)

33. The Power in Paid Sex and recognizing Emotional Abuse (w/ Raquel Savage)

Ari sits down with Therapist and Sex Worker Raquel Savage. Raquel talks about her fantasies, being autistic and on the Ace Spectrum, and educates us about sex work from a labor framework. We also discuss recognizing the signs of abuse, gaslighting, trauma bonding and how to heal from abuse using community and harm reduction.   TW: Mentions of Abuse and S.A. in this episode   Burning Questions answered in this episode: * Raquel’s fantasy Adult Male performer & her JUICY “best orgasm” story * What is whorearchy, FSSW, and trauma bonding? * Why the mental health industry is ill-equipped to handle Sex Workers as clients * Red flags that signal abusive dynamics (and they aren’t so obvious!) * How Raquel is redefining sex for herself   Follow Raquel on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/raquelsavage/] and Twitter [https://twitter.com/Raquel_Savage] | Tip Raquel you know where [https://onlyfans.com/raquelsavage]   Donate to Raquel’s non-profit Zepp Wellness [https://www.zeppwellness.com/]   Mental Health workers & clinicians, sign up for Raquel’s Equitable Care Certification [https://www.equitablecarecert.com/]   Check out Raquel’s work: RaquelSavage.com [https://www.raquelsavage.com/]   Video version of this episode available on Patreon [http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle] _________   Follow our host, Ari, on Instagram @sensuelle.education [https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/]   Follow SensuElle Podcast on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sensuellepodcast/] & TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sensuellepodcast] or subscribe to our newsletter [https://www.arielleantwine.com/newsletter]   If you liked this episode, share [https://sensuellepodcast.libsyn.com/sensuellepodcast] it with a friend, and leave a 5-star review on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ny5YD9ajeklsnCppp617F] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sensuelle-podcast/id1536461194]. It really helps! Want to work 1:1 with Ari to heal your sensual side? Book a Coaching Consultation: https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching [https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching]

32. Abortion Myth-Busting with Irma (Dirty South Sex Ed)

Abortion Rights worker and Sex Educator Irma, CSE (she/her) of Dirty South Sex Ed [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithirma/] stops by to talk about all things pleasure and liberation — specifically for Black, Brown, & Indigenous communities and youth. But not before she busts some shocking myths about abortion restrictions since the fall of Roe v. Wade in Summer 2022.  Burning Questions answered in this episode: * Why pleasure is an act of radical love for marginalized communities * How to feel safe & secure about an abortion procedure * Where and how to logistically access abortion in your state or region (USA) * How orgasms are integral to her daily self-care routine   Follow Irma + her work on Instagram: @sexedwithirma [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithirma/] // @janesdueprocess [https://www.instagram.com/janesdueprocess/]   Follow Irma on Twitter: @DirtySouthSexEd [https://twitter.com/DirtySouthSexEd]   More info on abortion availability: https://www.ineedana.com/ [https://www.ineedana.com/]   Great companion episode: 18. WTF is Reproductive Justice? with Tia (@SlipperyWhenWet) [https://www.arielleantwine.com/sensuelle-podcast-episodes/18/what-is-reproductive-justice-tia-slippery-when-wet]   Extended versions of episodes available on Patreon [http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle] _________   Follow our host, Ari, on Instagram @sensuelle.education [https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/]   Follow SensuElle Podcast on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sensuellepodcast/] & TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sensuellepodcast] or subscribe to our newsletter [https://www.arielleantwine.com/newsletter]   Leave anonymous questions for Sexologist Ari to have your questions answered on the podcast [https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari] __________   Join us on Patreon for ad-free episodes with video, and online burlesque classes by Ari: http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle   If you liked this episode, share [https://sensuellepodcast.libsyn.com/sensuellepodcast] it with a friend, and leave a 5-star review on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ny5YD9ajeklsnCppp617F] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sensuelle-podcast/id1536461194]. It really helps! Want to work 1:1 with Ari to heal your sensual side? Book a Coaching Consultation: https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching [https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching]

31. Reparenting Ourselves and Healing Inner Child Wounds w/ Nat Vikitsreth (Crocodile Lightning)

Ari chats with Therapist, Somatic practitioner, and Burlesque Performer Nat Vikitsreth, LCSW (aka Crocodile Lightning). Nat shares tools for parents and non-parents to embody social-justice practices in our daily lives. Nat also tells us her story as an Immigrant, Trans Woman, and Academic, fighting the oppressor “from the inside” and how she came home to her body post-transition by doing burlesque.   Burning Questions answered in this episode: * What Social Justice Parenting and Decolonized Caregiving can look like * How attachment styles play out in our parenting, or self-parenting (yikes) * How to know whether your reactions are “adaptive or outdated” * How to recover from a messy breakup and self-repair   Nat’s 7-week Social Justice Parenting cohort, The “In-Out-N-Through” Program: https://www.comebacktocare.com/learn [https://www.comebacktocare.com/learn]   Follow Nat/Crocodile, on Instagram: @ComeBacktoCare [https://www.instagram.com/comebacktocare/] // @CrocodileLightning [https://www.instagram.com/crocodilelightning/]   Check out Nat’s work: Come Back to Care podcast [https://www.comebacktocare.com/podcast] // Come Back to Care home [https://www.comebacktocare.com/]   Extended version of this episode available on Patreon [http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle] _________   Follow our host, Ari, on Instagram @sensuelle.education [https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/]   Follow SensuElle Podcast on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sensuellepodcast/] & TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sensuellepodcast] or subscribe to our newsletter [https://www.arielleantwine.com/newsletter]   Leave anonymous questions about sex, pleasure, and relationships to have your questions answered on the podcast [https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari]   __________ Join us on Patreon for ad-free episodes with video, and online burlesque classes by Ari: http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle   If you liked this episode, share [https://sensuellepodcast.libsyn.com/sensuellepodcast] it with a friend, and leave a 5-star review on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ny5YD9ajeklsnCppp617F] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sensuelle-podcast/id1536461194]. It really helps!   Want to work 1:1 with Ari to heal your sensual side? Book a Coaching Consultation: https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching [https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching]

30. Sapphic Lore Era (w/ Regina aka Pottie Pocket)

“Rapping and being vulnerable, as a result of releasing music and performing, has encouraged me to step into my truth and step into my power.” In episode 30, Ari sits down with Massage Therapist and Rap Artist, Regina Palmer aka Pottie Pocket. They chat about Regina’s experience as a transracial adoptee, unlearning from being Black and Queer in a white family, and her queer self-discovery after moving to the “big city” of the Midwest — Chicago, IL.   Burning Questions answered in this episode: * Building up self-love practice that is diligence * Healing others’ touch aversion through her work as a Massage Therapist * The sensual link between music and massage * What the next iteration of her rap persona, Pottie Pocket, looks like   Follow our guest, Regina, on Instagram: @therappervegas [https://www.instagram.com/therappervegas/]// @adopteachi [https://www.instagram.com/adopteachi/]   Follow our host, Ari, on Instagram: @sensuelle.education [https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/]   Follow SensuElle Podcast on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sensuellepodcast/] & TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sensuellepodcast]   Ask Ari: leave your anonymous advice questions about sex, relationships, and previous episode topics: https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari [https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari]   __________   Resources from this episode [https://www.arielleantwine.com/sensuelle-podcast-episodes/30/regina-pottie-pocket-lesbian-rapper-vegas]   Subscribe to the SensuElle Newsletter [http://arielleantwine.com/subscribe] or become a SensuElle Patron [http://www.patreon.com/sensuelle] for more from the SensuElle universe   If you liked this episode, puh-leez share this episode with a friend [https://sensuellepodcast.libsyn.com/sensuellepodcast]! Leave another 5-star review on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ny5YD9ajeklsnCppp617F] // Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sensuelle-podcast/id1536461194]   Want to work 1:1 with Ari to heal your sensual side? Book a 1-on-1 Coaching Consultation: https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching [https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching]

29. Check your Main Character Energy (w/ Tia @Slipp3ryWhenWet)

“We all cause harm … but there’s a difference between acknowledging/repairing that harm and ignoring it.”   Ari chats with Reproductive Justice Activist and Social Media Expert, Tia, of @Slipp3ryWhenWet [https://www.instagram.com/Slipp3ryWhenWet/]. Tia discusses how to set digital boundaries with work as an organizer and Sex Educator in the Southern US, wild online interactions with trolls (and how she claps back), and learning when “main character energy” is just your ego.   Burning Questions answered in this episode: * What is a self-managed abortion? More info here [https://www.instagram.com/beyondroecollective/] * How to set self-boundaries and keep support systems in place so that you don't burn out * Why you can only keep yourself accountable when you are in community; and defining community for yourself * How to self-regulate when faced with online criticism and chaos   Get the EXTENDED version of this episode that includes over 20 minutes of Tia & Ari’s advice. Join our Patreon for only $5/month [http://patreon.com/sensuelle]   Follow our guest, Tia, on Instagram: @BeyondRoeCollective [https://www.instagram.com/beyondroecollective/] // @Slipp3ryWhenWet [https://www.instagram.com/Slipp3ryWhenWet/]   Follow our host, Ari, on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/ [https://www.instagram.com/sensuelle.education/]   Follow SensuElle Podcast (@sensuellepodcast) on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sensuellepodcast/] & TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@sensuellepodcast] __________   Ask Ari: leave your anonymous advice questions about sex, relationships, and previous episode topics: https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari [https://www.arielleantwine.com/ask-ari]   Join our Patreon for ad-free audio & video episodes, and other patron-only exclusives — like ONLINE BURLESQUE CLASSES! http://patreon.com/sensuelle [http://patreon.com/sensuelle]   If you liked this episode, puh-leez share the episode with a friend [https://sensuellepodcast.libsyn.com/sensuellepodcast]! Leave another 5-star review on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ny5YD9ajeklsnCppp617F] // Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sensuelle-podcast/id1536461194]   __________   ~ Resources & Mentions ~   Subscribe to the SensuElle Newsletter [http://arielleantwine.com/subscribe] for more from the SensuElle universe   Resource Guides (a downloadable PDF w/ research used to design the episode) COMING SOON! Join the Podcast Bestie list to get Resource Guides for FREE [https://www.arielleantwine.com/sensuelle-podcast-episodes]   __________   ~ Contact & Support ~   Submit guest proposals, advertising and sponsorship questions, or leave feedback for our team sensuellepodcast@gmail.com [sensuellepodcast@gmail.com]   Support us by donating to the Effing Foundation for Sex Positivity: https://bit.ly/donate-sensuelle-podcast [https://bit.ly/donate-sensuelle-podcast] Want to work 1-on-1 with Ari to heal your sensual side? Inquire about a Sensuality Coaching Consultation: https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching [https://www.arielleantwine.com/coaching]