Beautifully Unfocused: How to Love Someone With ADHD

Human First: Believe Her the First Time

Human First: Believe Her the First Time The first book in the Human First series starts with women’s pain, endometriosis, and what love does when belief becomes action. The Human First book series releases July 1, and this episode kicks off the run by going straight to the heart of the first book: Believe Her the First Time: A Father’s Guide to Endometriosis, Pain, and Showing Up When It Matters. Since writing The Optimist’s Way, Mike has been building a new series of books mostly at night, after long and busy workdays, when the house gets quiet and the creative part of his brain still has something to say. These new books grew out of real life: family, healthcare, leadership, ADHD, creativity, AI, women’s health, and the question underneath all of it: what happens when we put the human being back at the center? This first episode begins with women’s pain because that is one of the places where we have failed the Human First test for too long. Mike talks about endometriosis, medical dismissal, fatherhood, marriage, healthcare, and the responsibility men carry when someone they love is hurting. The story starts with his daughter’s hand in his and grows into the deeper message behind the book: belief has to become behavior. This episode is for women who have had to prove pain that should have been taken seriously sooner. It is for dads, husbands, partners, sons, brothers, friends, and healthcare leaders who want to love better, listen sooner, and become more useful when pain changes the room. The episode closes with Mike’s song “Hope in Slow Motion,” a quiet reminder that healing often moves slower than we want, and slow hope still counts. The Human First book series releases July 1. Listen over the next few weeks for sneak peeks, stories behind the books, and giveaways connected to the series. Learn more at www.mikebakerhq.com.

What Are We Doing With the Life We Still Have?

What Are We Doing With the Life We Still Have? Memorial Day, hockey, family, and the ordinary joy we almost miss Episode 51 of Still Here, Still Trying starts at the rink and moves into something much deeper. After a weekend playing in the Inland Northwest Girls Hockey Foundation tournament, Mike Baker reflects on hockey, Memorial Day, family, growing up, grief, gratitude, and the life we still get to live. He played on two teams, shared the ice with his son Jacob, watched girls he has known around the rink for years step into adulthood, and found himself thinking about how fast everybody grows up. The weekend was funny, sore, joyful, and full of life. Then Memorial Day brought the weight. Mike talks about missing his mom, thanking his dad for serving, remembering his grandpas who served in wars and came home, and honoring the families whose loved ones did not. This episode asks a question that cuts through the noise: if we are still here, what are we doing with the life still in our hands? This is a Memorial Day episode, but it is also a reminder to stop sleepwalking through the ordinary moments that matter most. The game. The laugh. The phone call. The drive home. The kids growing up. The parent you wish you could call. The people who served. The people who never came home. The joy we still get to carry. Mike closes the episode with a separate PS segment about his new song, “Don’t Lose Your Smile,” his first fully original song built from scratch. The song began downstairs at the Alaska terminal in the Boise airport while Mike was playing his little Martin travel guitar and talking with Jacob, who was traveling in Portugal. A simple line from that call became the heart of the song. Listen if you need a reminder to stay present, love your people out loud, and stop wasting the life you still get to live. Question for the comments: What ordinary moment are you trying not to rush past right now?

The Middle Has to Move

What Kind of Community Do We Want to Be? Episode 50 of Still Here, Still Trying is about what happens when good people get tired of the noise, step back from public life, and leave the room to the loudest voices. Mike Baker reflects on leadership, local politics, healthcare, Idaho women’s health, and the cost of staying silent when the edges keep pulling communities toward fear and division. This episode is not a partisan rant. It is a call for grounded people to wake up, speak clearly, and stop letting cult-like thinking on both sides replace honesty, character, and real service. Mike also shares what it felt like to run for office, why the ugliness of politics can break good people down, and why he still believes decent leaders are worth supporting. From corruption and loyalty tests to healthcare access and women’s health laws in Idaho, this conversation asks a bigger question: what kind of community are we becoming? If you are tired of outrage, tired of cruelty being treated like courage, tired of corruption getting excused when it benefits the “right” side, and tired of watching good people whisper common sense in private, this episode is for you. The middle has to move. Not with fear. Not with hate. With courage, honesty, humility, and enough hope to keep showing up. Episode 50 closes with Mike’s song “Human First,” a fitting reminder that policy lands in real lives, leadership should serve something bigger than ego, and staying human still matters. Listen, share, and leave a comment: What kind of community do you want to help build?

Everybody’s Tired, But We’re Not Done

Everybody looks fine until you realize most people are surviving quietly. This week’s episode almost didn’t happen. I was tired, late, and running on fumes, which made me realize that might be the exact thing worth talking about. In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, I talk about the kind of exhaustion people carry when life keeps asking more from them than they’ve had time to recover from. The kind of tired that doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like showing up, answering the email, taking care of the people you love, leading through pressure, and laughing when you still have a little bit left. This one is for the quiet heroes. The people doing the real work without applause. The people who keep caring when cynicism would be easier. The people who are tired as hell, but still getting back up. We also talk a little playoff hockey, because Vegas and Colorado are about to beat the brakes off each other and somehow that feels spiritually connected to the whole episode. If you’re worn out, overwhelmed, or wondering whether you still have enough left to keep going, this episode is for you. You’re tired. You’re human. You’re not done. Still here. Still trying.

Beautifully Unfocused: How to Love Someone With ADHD

Episode 48 | Season 2, Episode 4 Beautifully Unfocused: How to Love Someone With ADHD If you love someone with ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve misunderstood them at least once. And if you have ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve spent a lot of your life feeling misunderstood before anyone ever asked what was actually happening inside you. This episode is a field guide from the inside. I’m talking about the shame of being the ADHD kid, the one who heard “could do better” so often it started to feel like a name. The kid who got called disruptive, lazy, careless, dramatic, too much, or not living up to their potential, when what they really needed was language, support, and someone willing to ask a better question. We get into the “too many tabs open” feeling, executive dysfunction, rejection sensitivity, disappearing when overwhelmed, and why a delayed text or strange tone can hit like proof of every old fear. We also talk about love. Because ADHD is not only chaos. It is deep feeling, big ideas, late-night creativity, strange brilliance, missed signals, real regret, and a brain that can build whole worlds while still struggling with the simple thing in front of it. This episode is also for spouses, partners, parents, friends, coworkers, and anyone trying to love someone whose brain does not move in straight lines. Sometimes when we share a song, lyric, image, or creative idea, we are not only showing you a project. We are showing you where the noise went. We are asking to be seen. And we talk about women and ADHD too. Girls and women have been missed for too long. ADHD can look like anxiety, perfectionism, masking, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, exhaustion, and holding everything together until the whole system starts to crack. This is not a medical lecture. This is not an excuse factory. ADHD does not give us a free pass to hurt people, avoid repair, ignore responsibilities, or make everyone else manage the fallout. But shame does not fix ADHD. Understanding helps. Clarity helps. Systems help. Curiosity helps. Repair helps. This episode ties into my album Beautifully Unfocused and closes with the song “ADHD Kid,” written for the younger version of us who spent too much time apologizing for a brain that was also building something beautiful. We are beautifully unfocused. We are learning. We are building. And somehow, through all of it, we are still here, still trying.