Chris Moles - Entitlement, the Abusive Heart, and What Jesus Actually Said About Power

Chris Moles - Entitlement, the Abusive Heart, and What Jesus Actually Said About Power

Chris Moles is a pastor and biblical counselor who has spent over twenty years working inside batterer intervention programs alongside his vocational ministry. In this conversation, Chris defines domestic abuse, traces its root in pride and entitlement, and challenges the version of biblical manhood that rejects passivity only to embrace a different kind of harm. He walks through what Jesus actually modeled about power — not power over, but power under — and gives men a practical framework for examining their own hearts, confronting sin in others, and responding well when someone they love has been harmed. Chapters * 0:00 — Introduction & Opening Prayer * 3:45 — The difference between a critical mind and a critical spirit — how Chris became teachable * 7:30 — What Chris actually does: defining domestic abuse and his work in batterer intervention * 13:00 — How a bivocational pastor from West Virginia ended up in criminal corrections * 19:30 — The double burden: pastoring a local church while working in dark places * 25:00 — How group facilitation, listening with an agenda, and slowing down shaped Chris as a shepherd * 31:00 — Aggression vs. passivity — and why rejecting one often means embracing the other * 37:30 — What happens in the heart of a man that leads him toward abuse — Luke 6, James 4, pride and entitlement * 44:00 — Power over vs. power under — the Jesus hermeneutic on headship and the cheerleader analogy * 51:30 — Josh's confession: the moment his own entitlement surfaced — and how close the root really is * 55:00 — The one-in-four statistic: domestic abuse in the church * 58:00 — What good men who aren't abusing should do about it — preaching the gospel to yourself and Galatians 6 confrontation * 1:03:00 — How to be good and angry: the Ephesians 4 framework * 1:08:00 — A case study: how to approach a friend you suspect is harming his family * 1:15:00 — How Chris gets filled back up: one verse, memorized, no exegesis * 1:20:00 — 2x2 Shout Out: Greg Wilson Resources * The Heart of Domestic Abuse: Gospel Solutions for Men Who Use Control and Violence in the Home — Chris Moles — amazon.com/dp/1936141272 [http://amazon.com/dp/1936141272] * The Path to Peace: A 90-Day Journey from Control to Christ-Like Love — Chris Moles — amazon.com/dp/B0GPSRXRD2 [http://amazon.com/dp/B0GPSRXRD2] * When Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church — Jeremy Pierre & Greg Wilson — amazon.com/dp/1527107221 [http://amazon.com/dp/1527107221] * Caring for Families Caught in Domestic Abuse: A Guide toward Protection, Refuge, and Hope — edited by Chris Moles — newgrowthpress.com [http://newgrowthpress.com] * Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused — Chris Moles, contributor — churchcares.com [http://churchcares.com] * Men of Peace Self-Paced Course — menofpeace.org [http://menofpeace.org] * PeaceWorks University — chrismoles.org [http://chrismoles.org]

Billy Raies - Fatherhood, the Fear of Man, and Living the Text

Pastor Billy Raies has been in the same pulpit in Midland, Texas for thirty-three years. He still gets up at four in the morning on Sundays — not because he's disciplined, but because he knows how much he needs God to show up. In this Father's Day conversation with his son Josh, Billy talks about the weekly rhythm of pastoral ministry, how to engage Scripture vocationally without it becoming an assignment, the swan song moment that reoriented his vision for legacy, and what happens when you ask a waiter how you can pray for them. Honest, pastoral, and grounded in the gospel from start to finish. Chapters 00:00 Introduction — Father's Day on Location in Florida 02:07 What a Pastor's Sunday Morning Actually Looks Like 06:54 The Other Six Days — Weekly Rhythm of a Small-Church Pastor 11:53 Wearing Many Hats — The Reality of Small Church Ministry 15:13 Delegation, Identity Drift, and Raising Up Elders 19:45 The Swan Song — Building a Legacy You Won't See 24:10 How to Read Scripture Vocationally Without It Becoming an Assignment 29:00 Pastoring People vs. Programming Them 31:44 Gospel Fatherhood — Balancing Ministry and Family 35:36 Sacred Zeal and Not Being Slothful in the Gospel 37:29 Keeping Scripture on Your Lips All Week 42:18 Living the Gospel 24/7 — Not Just on Sundays 43:44 Asking Waiters How You Can Pray for Them 48:15 God Was Already in That Conversation 50:55 Confidence in Evangelism — God's MO Is to Shine Light 53:28 Romans 8:32 as the Evangelism and Discipleship Hinge 57:23 Closing — Honor Where It's Due Resources * Brothers, We Are Not Professionals by John Piper — https://www.amazon.com/Brothers-Not-Professionals-John-Piper/dp/1433552784 [https://www.amazon.com/Brothers-Not-Professionals-John-Piper/dp/1433552784] * Sacred Zeal by Jeff Purswell — https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Zeal-Jeff-Perswell/dp/1781919274 [https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Zeal-Jeff-Perswell/dp/1781919274] * What Is the Gospel? by Greg Gilbert — https://www.amazon.com/What-Gospel-Greg-Gilbert/dp/1433515002 [https://www.amazon.com/What-Gospel-Greg-Gilbert/dp/1433515002] Guest Links Sovereign Grace Church Midland — https://www.sovereigngracemidland.com [https://www.sovereigngracemidland.com]

Pain Pt. 2 - Understanding, Managing, and Training Through Pain

Part two of our pain series is all application. In part one we built a theology of pain — what it is, where it comes from, and what God says about it. Now we answer the question every man actually wants answered: what do you do with it? In this episode Josh and Nick break down the difference between acute and chronic pain, walk through the RICE protocol and where it holds up and where it doesn't, and get into the nuance around NSAIDs — when they can be a legitimate tool and when they become a crutch. They also make the case for isometrics as one of the most underused tools in pain management and rehabilitation, and close with injury-specific protocols for the three areas most men are actually dealing with — shin splints, knee pain, and back pain. Nick is currently managing a herniated L5. Josh's seasonal allergies spike his knee. This isn't theory. Closes on Hebrews 12:1-4. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Pain and Its Definition 07:05 Understanding Types of Pain: Acute vs Chronic 17:02 Practical Approaches to Managing Acute Pain 25:11 The Role of Nutrition and Recovery in Pain Management 30:37 The Nuances of Pain Relief: NSAIDs and Their Impact 31:39 Understanding Pain and Healing 34:21 Training Around Injuries 40:36 The Power of Isometrics 44:39 Chronic Pain and the Nervous System 50:41 Practical Strategies for Common Injuries 56:18 Managing Back Pain Effectively 01:02:01 The Cost of Weakness and Building Resilience Resources Jake Tuura's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jaketuura?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== [https://www.instagram.com/jaketuura?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==]

Ryan Enos - Prayer, Real Estate, and Rooted Living

In this episode, Ryan Enos shares insights on the current real estate market, faith-driven approaches to business, and practical spiritual disciplines like prayer and Bible reading. Discover how faith influences his work and life, and gain practical tips for integrating prayer into daily routines. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background in Real Estate 02:55 Current Real Estate Market Dynamics 06:11 Navigating Home Ownership Challenges 09:00 The Viability of Long-Term Mortgages 12:00 Faith and Financial Decisions in Home Buying 14:50 Investing in Community Through Home Ownership 17:59 Faith's Influence on Real Estate Practices 25:40 The Role of Trust in Client Relationships 29:10 Transformational Business Through Relationships 30:30 The Evolution of Prayer Life 39:11 Experiencing God's Presence in Prayer 41:16 Morning Rituals: A Quiet Time with God 45:15 Book Recommendations and Personal Growth 49:53 Encouragement for Busy Dads RESOURCES: Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0830840094 [https://www.amazon.com/dp/0830840094] Walking with God through the Bible - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1645070954 [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1645070954] The Village Church (Matt Chandler) - https://www.thevillagechurch.net/ [https://www.thevillagechurch.net/] Ryan's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ryanaenos?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== [https://www.instagram.com/ryanaenos?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] Enos Group Website - https://enos.homes/ [https://enos.homes/]

John Huffman - I Became Everything I Made Fun Of

In this episode, John Huffman shares his inspiring journey of faith, overcoming addiction, and building a life rooted in biblical principles. He discusses the importance of discipline, identity in Christ, and intentional living to fulfill God's purpose. John Huffman is a pastor, mentor, coach, speaker, and multiple business owner who has built his life on the power of Jesus, grit, obedience, and real-world leadership. His story is not one of polished religion or easy success. It is a story of redemption. After battling addiction, brokenness, and a life that could have gone completely the other direction, John encountered the grace of God in a way that changed everything. Today, he is the founder of John Huffman Speaks, where he pours into entrepreneurs, leaders, families, and churches with raw truth, biblical conviction, and practical wisdom that actually works in real life. He is also a successful construction business owner, leading multiple businesses while helping others build strong teams, healthy systems, clear vision, and lasting legacy. John carries a rare voice because he does not just preach faith, he has lived the process. He understands pain, pressure, leadership, business, family, and the cost of growth. Whether he is behind a pulpit, in a boardroom, on a stage, or mentoring one-on-one, his mission is the same: to see people healed, built, equipped, and fully alive in who God called them to be. John Huffman is a man of faith, a builder of people, a builder of businesses, and a voice for those who know they were made for more. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 01:12 Foundations of the Two by Two Movement 03:10 Practicing Love with Mind, Body, and Soul 04:01 Humility and Weakness in Faith 05:02 Recognizing Our Weaknesses and Relying on God 06:21 Dealing with Emotions and Thorn in the Flesh 09:00 God's Redemption in Substance Abuse 12:09 The Power of Prayer and Holy Spirit 17:07 Weight Loss Journey and Lifestyle Change 19:32 Principles of Sustainable Health and Discipline 21:10 Wealth, Family, and Living Fully for Christ 23:11 Balancing Ministry, Business, and Family 26:52 Scheduling What Matters 29:05 The Object in Motion Stays in Motion Principle 30:31 The Mind and Learning in Christ 33:02 Biblical Principles in Business and Success 36:35 Living as Fit for God's Calling 38:43 Unseen W's Impacting Success 40:07 Handling Discomfort and Crushing Seasons 42:11 Humility and Submission to God's Will 43:07 Mentors and Influences in Life 47:08 Community and Iron Sharpens Iron 52:40 The Power of Vulnerability and Authenticity 55:02 Identity in Christ and Spiritual Authority 58:35 Next Guest Recommendations 01:00:02 The Everlasting Impact of Faithful Service 01:01:25 Closing Remarks and Prayer Resources: C12 Christian Business Forums (https://www.joinc12.com/ [https://www.joinc12.com/]) Instagram: @realjohnhuffman (https://www.instagram.com/realjohnhuffman?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== [https://www.instagram.com/realjohnhuffman?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==])