Ep.13 Most Relationship Problems Are Nervous System Problems: My Fiance's Viewpoint Of My Journey With Somatic & Subconscious Work

Ep.13 Most Relationship Problems Are Nervous System Problems: My Fiance's Viewpoint Of My Journey With Somatic & Subconscious Work

In this deeply personal episode of The Inner Alchemy Podcast, Alexis sits down with her fiancé, Matt, for an honest conversation about healing, relationships, and the profound impact of somatic work and subconscious reprogramming. Together, they reflect on the challenges they faced in their relationship, the patterns that nearly pulled them apart, and the transformation that occurred as Alexis began doing deeper nervous system and subconscious healing work. Matt shares his perspective on the shifts he witnessed, including increased emotional regulation, greater self-awareness, deeper acceptance, and a more authentic expression of self. They explore what it means to feel truly safe in relationship, why healing happens through connection, and how personal growth is not about never getting triggered again but learning to move through challenges with greater ease and awareness. This episode offers a raw, real look at what healing can look like behind the scenes and serves as a reminder that transformation is often found in the small moments that change everything. In This Episode We Discuss: • How trauma and past experiences can shape the way we show up in relationships • The role of somatic healing and subconscious reprogramming in creating lasting change • Learning to feel safe in your body and in healthy relationships • Moving from reactivity to conscious response • Why healing is not about perfection • Breaking down emotional walls and rebuilding trust • The power of self-awareness and pattern interruption • Releasing the need to constantly prove your worth • Developing quiet confidence and authentic self-expression • How connection creates opportunities for healing Key Takeaways ✨ Healing does not mean you never get triggered. It means you recover more quickly. ✨ Feeling safe is the foundation for authentic self-expression. ✨ Healthy relationships provide opportunities for growth, repair, and deeper connection. ✨ Self-awareness allows you to interrupt old patterns and choose a different response. ✨ Real confidence is often quiet, grounded, and rooted in self-trust. Memorable Quote "Healing isn't about never building the walls again. It's about recognizing when they're there and learning how to tear them down more quickly." Connect with Alexis Instagram: @lumawellness.nh Email: alexisrosecoaching@gmail.com [alexisrosecoaching@gmail.com] A new season of The Inner Alchemy Podcast is coming soon, featuring women sharing their stories in their own words. If you are a woman with a story to tell and feel called to share it in a raw, honest, and authentic way, apply to be a guest on the podcast through the application linked below. https://www.lumawellnessnh.com/podcastapplication [https://www.lumawellnessnh.com/podcastapplication] Support the Podcast If this episode resonated with you, please consider: • Leaving a rating and review • Sharing the episode with a friend • Subscribing to The Inner Alchemy Podcast Your support helps this message reach more people who need it. Thank you for listening. We are so glad you're here. 💛

Ep.12 Healing Out Loud: Reclaiming Your Voice, Sharing Your Truth & Creating Safe Spaces for Women

What happens when your story is told for you?   In this deeply personal episode, Alexis shares reflections on witnessing the experiences of women who have been misunderstood, mislabeled, silenced, and stripped of the opportunity to share their own truth. Through stories from her own life and recent experiences, she explores the impact of shame, gossip, fear, and the ways these experiences can lead us to hide ourselves from the world.   This conversation is an invitation to reclaim your voice.   Alexis opens up about:   ✨ How narratives become distorted and why other people's stories about you are never truly about you. ✨ Growing up with threats, bullying, and the fear that comes from being misunderstood. ✨ The ways women shrink themselves after experiencing humiliation, criticism, or defamation. ✨ Why healing happens in connection and why "healing out loud" can be so powerful. ✨ Learning to prioritize your truth over other people's perceptions. ✨ Raising daughters to value their safety, comfort, and authenticity above appearances. ✨ Why visibility feels terrifying and what may actually be underneath that fear.   A New Podcast Season Is Coming   Alexis is creating a special season of The Inner Alchemy Podcast dedicated entirely to women's stories.   This season will provide a safe and supportive platform for women to share their experiences, reclaim their voices, and speak their truth in their own words.   If you've ever felt silenced, misunderstood, or had your story distorted by others, this space was created with you in mind.   Interested in Sharing Your Story?   If you feel called to be a guest and share your experience, you can connect with Alexis through:   ✨ Instagram ✨ Email ✨ Website inquiry form   (All links can be found below.)     Introducing: Safe to Be Seen   Beginning July 1st, Alexis will be guiding a 30-day private podcast experience called Safe to Be Seen.   Through daily audio drops (each under 10 minutes), you'll explore and release the fears, stories, beliefs, and patterns that keep you hiding your authentic self.   Together, you'll work through:   ✨ Fear of visibility ✨ Fear of judgment and criticism ✨ Limiting beliefs around success and being seen ✨ Nervous system regulation and subconscious reprogramming ✨ Embodying your most authentic expression    Program Details   ✨ Starts July 1st ✨ 30 days of private audio teachings and practices ✨ Daily episodes under 10 minutes ✨ Entry tier begins at $33 ✨ Additional support options available, including one-on-one access and bonus resources     In This Episode   ✨ Why people often project their own stories onto others ✨ The reality of living in a small-town environment ✨ How childhood experiences shape our relationship with visibility ✨ The cost of shrinking ourselves to avoid judgment ✨ Why women deserve spaces where they can be witnessed and heard ✨ The healing power of vulnerability and connection ✨ Reclaiming your truth and your voice ✨ Creating safety within your nervous system ✨ Learning to feel supported exactly where you are     A Gentle Reminder   You do not need everyone to understand your story in order to know your truth.   Your voice matters.   And sometimes the most healing thing we can do is stop hiding and allow ourselves to be seen.     Connect with Alexis   Instagram: @lumawellness.nh [http://www.instagram.com/lumawellness.nh] Website: www.lumawellnessnh.com [http://www.lumawellnessnh.com] Email: hello@lumawellnessnh.com   If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman w ho may need this reminder: you are not alone, and your story deserves to be heard. 🤍

Ep.11 Dreams, Fears & Visibility. Showing Up When Everything Makes You Want To Hide.

What if the very thing you're craving... connection, purpose, impact, fulfillment - is waiting on the other side of being seen? In this deeply personal episode, Alexis shares the messy, beautiful, and sometimes downright bizarre realities of choosing visibility. From unexpected encounters that challenged her sense of safety to powerful moments of personal awakening, she explores what it truly means to show up fully expressed in a world that often teaches us to hide. This conversation is an invitation to examine the ways you've been protecting yourself, the stories you've been carrying, and the shell you've built to avoid rejection, judgment, or hurt. Because while that shell may feel safe, it may also be keeping you from the very connections, opportunities, and experiences your soul is longing for. Inside this episode, you'll hear: Why visibility can feel unsafe to the nervous system The hidden ways we keep ourselves small How fear and expansion often arrive at the same time The difference between protection and self-abandonment Why your story matters more than you think The power of "doing it for the one" What happens when you choose authenticity over approval Alexis' personal journey of healing visibility wounds and stepping into greater self-expression Whether you're dreaming of starting a business, launching a podcast, speaking on stages, sharing your story, or simply feeling more like yourself, this episode is your reminder that your voice matters. You were never meant to live your life hidden. You were meant to be seen. Introducing: Safe to Be Seen Alexis is excited to announce the upcoming launch of Safe to Be Seen, a 30-day private podcast experience designed to help you create greater safety around visibility, self-expression, and showing up authentically. Inside you'll receive: 30 days of private podcast-style audio teachings Clinical hypnotherapy audio Subliminal audio Guided meditation EFT tapping session Additional tools and practices used with Alexis' private clients This experience is designed to help you move beyond fear, quiet self-doubt, and build a deeper sense of safety being fully yourself. DM Alexis "SAFE TO BE SEEN" and let her know you heard this episode for an exclusive savings. Connect with Alexis Website: www.lumawellnessnh.com [http://www.lumawellnessnh.com] Instagram: www.instagram.com/lumawellness.nh [http://www.instagram.com/lumawellness.nh] Email: alexisrosecoaching@gmail.com [alexisrosecoaching@gmail.com] Loved This Episode? If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to: Follow the podcast Leave a rating and review Share this episode with a friend Tag Alexis on social media and let her know what landed for you Your support helps this message reach more people who need it. Remember: Your voice matters. Your story matters. And the world needs the version of you that no longer hides.

Ep.10 What Does "Release What No Longer Serves You" Actually Mean? Breaking Down Limiting Beliefs, Subconscious Programming and Real Change

In this episode of The Inner Alchemy Podcast, Alexis breaks down one of the most overused (and often misunderstood) phrases in the healing and spiritual world: “release what no longer serves you.” But what does that actually mean in real life...especially when your nervous system is running old patterns you didn’t consciously choose? With her background as a board-certified master clinical hypnotherapist, somatic coach, NLP practitioner, EFT and TIME Techniques master, Reiki Master Teacher, and life & success coach, Alexis unpacks what’s really happening beneath the surface of your thoughts, emotions, and repeated life patterns. This episode explores how subconscious beliefs are formed in early childhood, how they shape your identity and lived experience, and why “just letting go” is rarely a conscious decision...but instead a deeply embodied process of reprogramming. Alexis also shares her own lived experience of being in survival cycles, and how somatic healing and subconscious reprogramming became the turning point for change. 🔑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: What “release what no longer serves you” actually means in the subconscious mind How limiting beliefs are formed (and why they feel so automatic) Why your nervous system repeats familiar emotional patterns...even when they hurt The role of the reticular activating system (RAS) in shaping your reality Why awareness is the first true step of change How somatic and subconscious work create lasting transformation Why healing happens through connection and co-regulation A simple “switch” practice to begin rewiring negative self-talk in real time 🧠 Key Takeaway Real transformation isn’t about forcing yourself to “think positive.” It’s about rewiring the subconscious patterns that your body and nervous system have been repeating for years...through awareness, repetition, safety, and devotion. When you change the internal story, you change what your system is wired to see, expect, and create.   ✨ Try This Practice When you catch a limiting belief or negative thought loop, say: “Switch.” Then immediately follow it with a new, intentional belief that feels grounded and believable.   Example: “I’m never going to get this right.” → Switch. “I am learning how to do this in a way that works for me.” The repetition creates a new neural pathway over time.   💫 Work With Me If this episode resonates and you’re ready for deeper support, Alexis offers 1:1 coaching and immersive healing experiences designed to help you rewire subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and return to yourself.   📩 Email: alexisrosecoaching@gmail.com 📸 Instagram: @lumawellness.nh [http://www.instagram.com/lumawellness.nh]   🌿 Closing Reflection   What if “releasing what no longer serves you” isn’t about forcing yourself to let go… but about finally seeing the story you’ve been unconsciously living...and choosing something new?   That’s where change begins.   www.lumawellnessnh.com [http://www.lumawellnessnh.com]

Ep.9 When Calm Feels Boring: Healing After Toxic Love

In this episode, I share something I’ve never fully spoken about publicly. And to be honest, this episode even caught me by surprise - I didn't plan to share this. My history with abusive and toxic relationships. The nervous system patterns that formed because of them. And what it took to rewire my capacity for healthy love. From threats and manipulation… To believing chaos was excitement… To picking fights because calm felt unsafe… This is a conversation about how trauma shapes attachment. How survival wiring becomes relational patterns. And how healing actually happens in connection. We’re not wired for success. We’re wired for safety. And when safety has looked like volatility, control, or emotional intensity, healthy love can feel boring. Or scary. Or wrong. In this episode we explore: • How early relational trauma programs the nervous system • Why we recreate what we can survive • Expanding your capacity for goodness • Healing through repetition and presence • Moving from survival-based love to secure connection You are not broken. You are patterned. And patterns can change. If this resonates, I would love to hear from you.