260. About the Mission Bubble

261. What If I Get Cold Feet

Episode 261: What If I Get Cold Feet? is for anyone who is preparing to serve a mission, nearing a big life transition, or wondering what to do when fear starts getting loud. In this episode, I talk about the very normal experience of getting "cold feet" before something important and why feeling fear, hesitation, uncertainty, homesickness, or anxiety doesn't automatically mean you've made the wrong decision. We explore what cold feet actually are, why your brain reacts this way before growth, and how to stop mistaking fear for revelation. I teach the difference between the "yappy dog" voice and the "wise owl" voice, and how to recognize when your lower brain is simply trying to protect you from discomfort. We talk about fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of leaving family, fear of not measuring up, and how your brain often treats emotional discomfort like a physical threat. I also share a coaching experience with a future missionary who was struggling with cold feet and how learning to understand her fear helped her make an intentional decision that aligned with her values, her relationship with God, and her future. If you've ever wondered whether your fear means you should stop, slow down, or change direction, this episode will help you get curious instead of reactive. You'll learn how to separate fear from revelation, trust yourself, strengthen your partnership with God, and move forward with courage even when uncertainty is present. Episode 261: What If I Get Cold Feet? will help you understand your fear, hear your own wisdom more clearly, and make decisions with confidence and intention. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 03:31 – What Does "Cold Feet" Mean? 05:10 – Why We Get Cold Feet 07:13 – Big Decisions Trigger Fear 08:40 – Fear Is Not Revelation 09:55 – The Yappy Dog & The Wise Owl 10:56 – Let Fear Have A Vote 12:15 – Emotional Threats vs Physical Threats 13:56 – Fear Can Come Along 15:05 – Is Fear Pointing To Something More? 16:30 – A Missionary's Cold Feet Story 18:54 – Don't Let Fear Drive The Car 20:05 – Questions To Ask Yourself 21:30 – Courage Looks Different For Everyone 22:15 – What If The Fear Never Goes Away? 23:02 – Ready Doesn't Mean Fearless 24:10 – Cold Feet Doesn't Mean Stop 25:05 – Trust Yourself & Trust God 26:00 – Outro Underneath Summary on Libsyn and Website - Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

260. About the Mission Bubble

Episode 260: The Mission Bubble explores something I see all the time with missionaries, returned missionaries, and missionary moms: the tendency to get so immersed in the mission experience that we lose perspective. In this episode, I talk about the "mission bubble," the unique environment that helps us focus, grow spiritually, develop confidence, learn discipline, and deepen our relationship with God. But sometimes that same mission bubble can magnify challenges, distort our perspective, and cause us to be much harder on ourselves than we would be outside of the mission. I share the story of a missionary who felt guilty for taking a day off while she was sick and use that experience to explore perfectionism, overgiving, self worth, comparison, burnout, obedience, mission culture, emotional wellbeing, and learning to trust your own revelation. We talk about why everything can feel so urgent, permanent, and high stakes on the mission, how mission pressure can amplify anxiety and self criticism, and why it's important to occasionally step outside the bubble and see things through a more compassionate and realistic lens. Throughout this episode, I offer practical "mission bubble reality check" questions to help missionaries create perspective, develop self compassion, strengthen emotional resilience, trust God, and navigate the mission experience with more wisdom and grace. If you've ever found yourself questioning your worth, overanalyzing your performance, struggling with perfectionism, or feeling like you're never doing enough, Episode 260: The Mission Bubble will help you step outside the bubble and see yourself more clearly. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – What Is The Mission Bubble? 04:30 – The Benefits Of The Bubble 08:20 – When Perspective Gets Distorted 10:45 – Making Meaning Of Everything 13:10 – Mission Pressure & Anxiety 15:00 – Overgiving & Self Sacrifice 17:35 – Trusting Your Own Revelation 19:10 – Blinders & Self Awareness 20:15 – Perfectionism & Self Worth 22:25 – Reality Check Questions 23:45 – Compassion Questions 25:05 – Human Needs Matter 26:00 – Revelation Questions 27:15 – The Bubble Will Pop 28:15 – Mission Is Part Of Life 29:30 – Peek Outside The Bubble 30:58 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

259. Before You "Wait For Each Other"

Episode 259: Before You "Wait For Each Other" is a conversation I've been wanting to have for a long time. Whether you're preparing to serve a mission, currently serving, a returned missionary, a missionary parent, or navigating a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship before a mission, this episode is for you. I dive into common questions about dating, waiting for each other, mission relationships, emotional independence, homesickness, self confidence, and how to approach these relationships in a healthy and supportive way. In this episode, I share some of the biggest challenges I see missionaries face when they are emotionally attached to someone back home. We talk about emotional dependence, confidence that comes from another person, surrendering to the process, trusting God's timing, relationship anxiety, emotional regulation, jealousy, uncertainty, and learning how to create your own emotional stability. I also share practical questions you can ask yourself to determine whether a relationship is supporting your mission experience or making it harder than it needs to be. If you've ever wondered whether you should wait for someone, how to handle a relationship during a mission, or how to stay emotionally grounded when someone you care about is far away, Episode 259: Before You "Wait For Each Other" will give you practical tools, mindset shifts, and a healthier perspective on relationships, faith, confidence, and trusting the process. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 01:15 – Should You Wait For Each Other? 03:30 – Relationships Aren't The Problem 06:10 – Finding The Middle Ground 09:00 – Thoughts Create Relationships 11:45 – Emotional Dependence 15:05 – Problem #1: Managing Their Emotions 16:15 – Problem #2: Not Surrendering The Process 18:10 – Problem #3: Confidence From Them 20:50 – Create Emotional Stability 22:55 – You Create Your Feelings 23:45 – Build Self Confidence 24:50 – Let It Be Uncertain 26:20 – A Healthy Relationship Checklist 27:15 – Signs You're Holding On Too Tight 28:15 – A Message For Parents 30:10 – Let The Process Unfold 33:15 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

258. When You Feel Walked On

Episode 258: When You Feel Walked On is for missionaries, returned missionaries, missionary moms, and anyone who has ever felt exhausted, resentful, or quietly taken advantage of from always being the one who says yes. In this episode, I share a conversation I had with a missionary who asked me a powerful question: "What do you do when you feel like people are walking on you?" We talk about overgiving, people pleasing, resentment, emotional boundaries, Christlike service, and how to know when it might be time to stop giving from depletion and start giving from fullness. I share practical mindset tools to help you rethink overgiving, including how to tell when resentment is quietly building, why we often tie our worth to helping others, and the two questions that can completely change the way you make decisions: Do I actually want to do this? and Do I have the capacity to do this? We also talk about emotional energy, setting healthy boundaries on the mission and after the mission, vulnerability, people pleasing, discernment, and why not everyone gets full access to your "Peter Parker" side. If you have ever struggled with saying no, felt emotionally drained from always showing up, or wondered how to balance Christlike love with healthy boundaries, Episode 258: When You Feel Walked On will give you practical tools, perspective shifts, and permission to start giving from overflow instead of depletion. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro & Mission Prep Plus 03:15 – Feeling Walked On 07:15 – Signs You're Overgiving 09:00 – Why We Do This 10:35 – Giving From Overflow 12:30 – Two Questions To Ask 15:00 – The Spider Man Analogy 18:40 – Practicing Discernment 19:40 – Practical Shifts 21:45 – Slow Down The Yes 24:00 – Stop Giving Full Access 25:05 – Shifting Your Identity 28:05 – Final Thoughts Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

257. A Simple Script for Missionary Moms

Episode 257: A Simple Script for Missionary Moms is for every missionary mom, dad, mission leader, or loved one who has ever wondered, "What do I say when my missionary is struggling?" In this episode, I share one simple but powerful script that can completely change the way you support missionaries, returned missionaries, and young adults through hard days, discouragement, anxiety, homesickness, self doubt, or even thoughts of coming home from the mission. We talk about why our brains naturally want to fix problems, why missionaries often think there is something wrong with them for struggling, and how your response can either add pressure or create safety and connection. I walk through the simple practice of normalize, validate, repeat and explain how learning to "hold space" instead of trying to fix things can strengthen trust, confidence, emotional resilience, and relationships with your missionary or returned missionary. Whether your missionary is struggling with mission anxiety, discouragement, confidence, self worth, social anxiety after the mission, or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode will give you practical tools and a simple script to help you respond in a way that feels calm, loving, and supportive. You do not have to fix your missionary, solve every problem, or say the perfect thing. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply remind them that it makes sense, it is okay, and you are there to help them move through it. Episode 257: A Simple Script for Missionary Moms will show you exactly how. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – Why Missionary Moms Feel So Much Pressure 05:15 – Why We Try to Fix Our Missionaries 08:20 – Thoughts and Feelings Are Not the Problem 11:10 – The Script: Normalize + Validate 14:30 – Mission Anxiety, Going Home, and Hard Days 18:10 – Helping Returned Missionaries Struggle Well 21:00 – "How Can We Help You Move Through This?" 24:15 – Holding Space Instead of Fixing 28:10 – Final Thoughts for Missionary Moms Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]