13: David Ley: Cuckholding, Pornography & Sexual Communication

13: David Ley: Cuckholding, Pornography & Sexual Communication

In this episode of The Next Man Up, host Coral Osborne sits down with renowned clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Ley for a candid and thought-provoking conversation about sexuality, pornography, relationships, desire, shame, and the misconceptions that continue to shape modern sexual culture. Drawing from decades of clinical work and research, David challenges popular narratives around porn addiction, sexual shame, monogamy, infidelity, kink, and sexual diversity while offering a nuanced perspective on what actually drives healthy sexual behavior. Together, they explore the psychology behind cuckolding, hotwifing, and stag-vixen dynamics, the role of attachment and trust in unconventional relationships, why shame often fuels sexual struggles more than sexuality itself, and how society's failure to teach sexual communication leaves many people navigating intimacy without the tools they need. The conversation also dives into porn literacy, male emotional health, modern dating, rejection, consent, sexual negotiation, and the importance of approaching sexuality with curiosity rather than judgment. What unfolds is a fascinating examination of the ways sex, identity, relationships, and personal growth are deeply intertwined. EPISODE THEMES 📝 📌 Porn Addiction Myths & Sexual Shame 📌 Cuckolding, Hotwifing & Stag-Vixen Dynamics 📌 Attachment, Jealousy & Relationship Security 📌 Sexual Values, Personal Growth & Self-Acceptance 📌 Why Sexual Literacy Matters More Than Ever EXCLUSIVE OFFERS 📣 https://www.coralosborne.com/pod [https://www.coralosborne.com/pod] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]CONNECT WITH DAVID 📩 Website: https://www.davidleyphd.com/ [https://www.davidleyphd.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidleyphd/ [https://www.instagram.com/davidleyphd/] CONNECT WITH CORAL OSBORNE (THE NEXT MAN UP)🎙️ Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast [https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne [https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral [https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral] Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne [https://substack.com/@coralosborne]

12 - Will Blunderfield: Sexual Kung Fu, Semen Retention, and Bro Bonding

In this episode of The Next Man Up, Coral interviews yoga teacher Will Blunderfield about modern masculinity, sexual shame, and practices he teaches such as sexual kung fu, semen retention, sexual transmutation, and “solo cultivation” as an alternative to NoFap-style abstinence. Will links frequent ejaculation and porn habits to low energy and describes techniques for staying below orgasm, moving arousal through the body, sounding, and “dearmoring” the penis and testicles to build a shame-free self-sensory system.  They discuss gay panic, male bonding, hazing as a distorted initiation ritual, historical examples of same-sex bonding, and how Abrahamic religious influence suppressed genital-based spirituality. Coral shares her background in sex work, celibacy, embodiment work, and vulnerability, while Will demonstrates Daoist “six healing sounds,” outlines in-person men’s rituals, and lists where to find his work online. EPISODE THEMES📝 📌 Semen Retention 📌 Fear Trauma And Male Loneliness 📌 How Religion Shamed The Body 📌 Six Healing Sounds Practice 📌 Bro Bonding History EXCLUSIVE OFFERS 📣 https://www.coralosborne.com/pod [https://www.coralosborne.com/pod] ⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]CONNECT WITH WILL 📩 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notwillblunderfield [https://www.instagram.com/notwillblunderfield] CONNECT WITH CORAL OSBORNE (THE NEXT MAN UP)🎙️ Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast [https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne [https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral [https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral] Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne [https://substack.com/@coralosborne]

11 - Connor Beaton: Men’s Work, Rejection, and Real Intimacy

In this episode of The Next Man Up, host Coral Osborne sits down with Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks, for a raw and wide-ranging conversation about men’s work, shame, vulnerability, relationships, sex, purpose, and the hidden emotional lives many men are carrying. Connor shares how hitting rock bottom, lying, infidelity, addiction-adjacent patterns, and a life of moral incongruence led him into deep therapeutic and Jungian work that eventually became the foundation for helping men build more honest, grounded lives. Together, they explore why confession is often the first step toward real change, why men may resist vulnerability, how shame shapes desire and intimacy, the Madonna/Whore complex, the mother wound, attachment trauma, initiation, male loneliness, rejection, commitment, and what women often misunderstand about men. What unfolds is part men’s work masterclass, part relationship autopsy, and part honest reckoning with the stories men inherit, the truths they hide, and the work required to become more whole. EPISODE THEMES📝 📌 The Madonna/Whore Complex 📌 The Mother Wound & Attachment Trauma 📌 Rejection, Commitment & Modern Dating 📌 Male Loneliness & Feeling Replaceable 📌 Purpose, Performance & What Men Are Really Seeking EXCLUSIVE OFFERS 📣 https://www.coralosborne.com/pod [https://www.coralosborne.com/pod] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]CONNECT WITH CONNOR 📩 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks [https://www.instagram.com/mantalks] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ManTalks [https://www.youtube.com/@ManTalks] CONNECT WITH CORAL OSBORNE (THE NEXT MAN UP)🎙️ Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast [https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne [https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral [https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral] Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne [https://substack.com/@coralosborne]

10 - Neil Osborne: Coral’s Dad on Fatherhood, Psychedelics, & Family Truths

In this episode of The Next Man Up, host Coral Osborne sits down with her father, Neil Osborne, for a raw, funny, and unexpectedly tender conversation about fatherhood, family patterns, psychedelics, emotional inheritance, and what it means to truly know each other as adults. Together, they explore their experience doing psychedelics together as a family, coming out to her parents about sex work, reflections on childhood, Jungian psychology as a pathway to meaning, humor as a family language, and the strange beauty of being both parent and person. What unfolds is part father-daughter roast, part spiritual debrief, and part honest reckoning with love, distance, fear, vulnerability, and the stories families carry forward. EPISODE THEMES📝 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]📌 Fatherhood & Radical Acceptance 📌 Psychedelics, Integration & Emotional Release ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]📌 Humor as a Theraputic Modality 📌 Hypocrisy as a Human Metric 📌 The Father Wound in Real Time 📌 Seeing Your Parent as a Person EXCLUSIVE OFFERS 📣 https://www.coralosborne.com/pod [https://www.coralosborne.com/pod] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/] CONNECT WITH NEIL 📩 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/5440singer [https://www.instagram.com/5440singer]54-40: https://www.5440.com/ [https://www.5440.com/] CONNECT WITH CORAL OSBORNE (THE NEXT MAN UP)🎙️ Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast [https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne [https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral [https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral] Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne [https://substack.com/@coralosborne]

09 - Dr. Chris Donaghue: Sexual Healing, Therapy, and Personal Growth

Dr. Chris Donaghue, a clinical therapist specializing in human sexuality, discusses managing conflicts and needs in relationships, the complexities of sex addiction, and the normalization of diverse sexual practices. He emphasizes the emotional components of men's sexuality, the therapeutic use of porn, and integrating lived experiences into sexual education. EPISODE THEMES📝 📌 Journey into Sex Therapy 📌 Challenges in Sexology Education 📌 Men's Sexuality and Erectile Disappointment 📌 Clinical Experience vs. Research 📌 Sexual Bypassing and Deeper Connections 📌 Healthy Porn Use and Masturbation EXCLUSIVE OFFERS 📣 Download Coral’s FREE Yes, No, Maybe List: https://www.coralosborne.com/yesnomaybe [https://www.coralosborne.com/yesnomaybe] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/seggstalkradiopodcast/]CONNECT WITH CHRIS 📩 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdonaghue/ [https://www.instagram.com/drdonaghue/] CONNECT WITH CORAL OSBORNE (THE NEXT MAN UP)🎙️ Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast [https://www.coralosborne.com/podcast] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne [https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral [https://www.youtube.com/@nextmanupwithcoral] Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne [https://substack.com/@coralosborne]