I Had My Own Opinion. He Treated It Like a Betrayal.

I Had My Own Opinion. He Treated It Like a Betrayal.

We were driving back from the beach, and he said, “She’s just a drug addict. I don’t want my kids listening to her,” about Demi Lovato. Everything in me said to keep my mouth shut, but I didn’t listen. All the alarm bells were going off… Instead, I spoke my truth, which meant disagreeing with him. (this was new for me at the time) I said, “You can’t reduce people to their struggles. She’s struggled with her addiction publicly. That’s hard enough. And she’s also demonstrating the power of not giving up on yourself. I think she deserves to be respected, not judged.” (or something like that) And boy oh BOY did he not like that. What came next was a string of insults. I was called a bad mom, a lowlife, the works. At one point, this kind of interaction would’ve broken me down. I would’ve crawled back into the pit within myself so no one would have a reason to attack me, and I’d start attacking myself. Why didn’t you just keep your mouth shut?? Now your kids have to watch this man berate you like you're nothing. Maybe I am nothing. Who am I to have an opinion? I should’ve known better. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? I felt stupid for speaking my truth, for taking up space. I felt stupid for having a different opinion than him. And that feeling wasn’t unfamiliar. I had felt it many times in my life. Because I believed: if I’m real, if I speak my truth, then I’ll cause problems. Someone won’t like it, and something bad will happen. Therefore, being me is dangerous. But really, I was misunderstanding what was happening, and you might be too. How many choices, ideas, perspectives do you just nod along to because you’re afraid to rock the boat? Probably enough that you’ve lost touch with your own truth, your own voice. Making trusting yourself feel like the wrong thing to do. How many relationships have you devoted yourself to where you couldn’t even be your true self? And then you’re lying in bed at night, hoping no one “figures you out” and decides to abandon you…the same way you’ve abandoned yourself. How much pain has that caused you? Be real with yourself about it. But let’s zoom out and look at this honestly. You’ve only been parading around in this mask, this shadow of yourself, because you became convinced that who you are is a problem. Someone’s extreme response to your true self confused the hell out of you because you don’t just feel your own emotions. You feel theirs too. Of course it was easy to come to that conclusion — that you’re the problem. But here’s the reframe I need you to take from this: Your realness is not the problem. It exposes who and what’s not for you. Read that again. When someone rejects or criticizes something about you, that’s not a sign to put that part of you in a box on a shelf in a dark closet. It’s important information that’s meant to guide you. It’s saying: hey, maybe this situation or this person isn’t right for you. Maybe this relationship isn’t going to fulfill you the way you think it will. There’s a different path available to you. Keep going. Being authentic, being you, is built in self-protection. It’s a filter for your life. Sure, rejection is uncomfortable. Conflict is uncomfortable. But when you learn how to stay deeply connected to yourself when emotions are high, that discomfort stops feeling dangerous. Having a healthy, honest relationship with yourself is what leads you to safe relationships. It’s what gives you your strength when things are tough. It’s the only place in this world where you can truly be unconditionally loved. Once you have that connection with yourself, you stop craving people or situations that once required you to be smaller. Your relationship to yourself is the most important relationship in your life. And it’s time to prioritize it. Your future is counting on it. If you’re done sacrificing your peace, your ability to sleep at night just to be accepted by others, then schedule a chat with me [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call?back=1]. Let’s talk about what’s going on, where you’d rather be, and how you can get there. Either way, wear your authenticity like a shield. Let it scare the wrong ones away. Because that’s when the right ones can find you. If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. 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Can’t Stop Analyzing Their Text? Tap With Me.

Have you ever reread a text twelve times, studied the punctuation, and convinced yourself they must be upset with you? This quick EFT tapping practice is for the moment their message feels “off” and suddenly you can’t focus on anything else. When your whole body is convinced something is wrong, telling yourself to stop overthinking usually doesn’t work. Tapping helps ease the urgency behind those thoughts so you can think more clearly and come back to yourself. In two short rounds, we’ll tap through the pressure to figure out what changed, the fear that you did something wrong, and the need to know you’re still okay. Use this practice whenever you can’t stop analyzing a text, waiting for a reply, or wondering whether someone is pulling away. You may not know what they’re thinking, but you don’t have to lose yourself trying to figure it out. Tapping points graphic is on the full post. [https://open.substack.com/pub/thebodyknowsthetruth/p/cant-stop-analyzing-their-text-tap?r=6xdg25&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true] If you’re ready to stop letting someone else’s tone, mood, or behavior decide whether you get to feel okay, book a Clarity Call [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call]. We’ll identify what keeps pulling you away from yourself, get clear on what you want instead, and determine whether the 30-Day Inner Reclaim [https://thetapping.club/] https://thetapping.club/is the right next step. I’ll clearly walk you through exactly what working together looks like. Book your Clarity Call. [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call] If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping Practitioner Reclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like [https://thetapping.club/]you [https://thetapping.club/] matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Why do I obsess about them being mad at me?

Because you feel like you have to fix it…or else… Everything in your body tightens at the idea of them being upset with you. Your mind goes into tunnel vision, desperately searching for all the right things you could say or do to make them feel better. While you spiral into a pit of anxiety. You can’t focus on anything other than them. And it’s draining you. You can feel it. It’s taking energy and time away from what truly matters to you. And you’re only asking, “Why am I like this?” because you know this obsession only makes things worse. You know it’s stealing your peace. And it feels like they couldn't care less about how upset you are over the matter. Then you’re asking, “Why the hell am I always the one who cares?! Why am I the only one who can’t make a mistake?” It’s a whole loop of fear and resentment that leaves you feeling like shit. But let’s zoom out and get honest so you can feel okay again. Ask yourself, “Why is how they’re feeling so important right now?” But don’t answer with the story that comes to mind. Drop into your body and speak from there. What’s the feeling underneath that thought that just popped into your head? It’s fear. Anxiety. A feeling of being completely out of control. That last one makes a little sense, though. You know that you can’t actually control how someone else feels. Yet, you’re trying to. It’s not because something is wrong with you, though. It’s not because your peace must be earned from them. It’s because you’re trying to make your fear go away by making them feel better. Which we just established — you can’t actually do. Do you see that? Can you see that you’ve been trying to manage your own emotional distress by managing someone else’s? Hello, middleman between you and you! And right now, it doesn’t matter why you’re doing that. You have your reasons, as I did when I struggled with this. And this habit once served you. But what matters most of all is that you let yourself truly see it without judging yourself for it. Once you see it, you can start to understand it, and then you can make a new choice. That new choice is what leads you back into your peace. So now that you’ve realized — oh, I’m only obsessing over making them feel better because I’m trying to make myself feel better — your next move is to tend to you. What would make you feel safe right now? What would make you feel relief right now? If you're coming up with blanks, try this. Imagine that anxious part of yourself is a child sitting in front of you. They’re obsessing over someone being mad at them. They can’t play or focus on anything else. What would you say to that child? Probably something along the lines of, “Hey, it’s gonna be okay. You don’t need to fix how they feel. They’ll talk to you when they’re ready. You’re safe no matter what.” And you’d probably hug them. How do you think that child would feel if you said that to them? Probably relieved. They’d probably feel like they could play again. Now, try it on yourself. Go to that uncomfortable feeling in your body and talk to it like it’s that sweet child who just needs to remember they're safe. Notice how you feel. What happens? So, the next time you notice yourself obsessing over how someone else is feeling, pause, breathe, and ask yourself: what about me? And give yourself what you wanted them to give you. The reminder that everything’s okay and that you’re safe. But let’s not stop here. Schedule a clarity call [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call], and we’ll talk about what’s weighing on you, where you’d rather be, and how you can get there. If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like [https://thetapping.club/]you [https://thetapping.club/] matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

When I let fear choose my outfit

I didn’t wear shorts on a 100-degree day because my legs weren’t shaved and I was afraid people would judge me for it. After all, I’m a woman. I’m supposed to have smooth legs at all times… right? 🤡 This might seem so tiny, but this moment is just the tip of an enormous iceberg. And we’re going to look at it. This is no different from when you don’t say what you want to because you’re afraid they’ll judge you. Or you don’t create the art you really want to create because you’re afraid people will think you’re crazy. This fear hides in the most mundane of moments, and it’s important we pay attention. Here’s why. Fear of being judged tricks you into abandoning yourself all the time. Making you live for others instead of for yourself. I’m sure you can make a pretty long list of all the times this fear has made you second-guess yourself. I can too. But what if I told you that you’re not actually afraid of others judging you? What if I told you that you don’t actually care about anyone else’s opinion of you? You’re probably thinking, “That sounds great, Hanna, but if that’s true, then why is it so hard to just be myself?” It’s hard because you’re the one judging yourself. Put down all the stories you have about what so and so said to you in the grade school cafeteria when you were 8 years old. Who’s the one thinking those things right now? Who was the one who told me on that hot day, “Don’t show your hairy legs. You look like a man, and that’s not allowed”??? Me. I had the thought. I believed it. And I listened to it. Despite my desire to wear the damn shorts anyway. Here’s the reality: You can’t stop abandoning yourself if you’re still blaming others for what you’re doing to yourself. So the next time you feel afraid to do something because you’re worried what others might think, remind yourself of this: This crippling fear I’m feeling is my body saying, “the way I’m looking at myself right now kind of hurts…” Not, “watch out, they’re going to throw rocks at you.” That’s fucking freeing. Because now, their approval of you doesn’t matter. Only yours does. So, what would you do today if that fear of being judged was gone? If it didn’t have the same power over you anymore? What would you create, say, or wear? But knowing this and breaking the habit of obeying the inner critic is a whole different game. And I’m here to help. I’ve created a simple solution that dethrones that inner critic and puts you back in control of your decisions. That way you can finally live like you matter. And wear the damn shorts with your hairy legs. (Which I do way more often now, by the way 🦵🏻.) If you’re ready to stop being controlled by the big bad judge in your head, book a clarity call [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call] or hit reply to see if the 30-Day Inner Reclaim [https://thetapping.club/] is the right next step for you. If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Breaking the cycle of energetic violence

If you’ve been navigating conflict, feeling misunderstood, or carrying emotional heaviness after difficult interactions… this message may be exactly what your nervous system needs to hear. In this deeply honest and heart-led conversation, we explore what it really means to break cycles of emotional pain, reconnect to your inner sense of safety, and stop outsourcing your peace to people who cannot provide it. This episode is for the cycle breakers, the healers, and the ones learning how to love themselves more deeply through life’s challenges. Inside this episode, we explore: * Why conflict can feel so emotionally consuming (and what it’s actually revealing) * The hidden reason we ruminate after painful interactions * How to reconnect to your inner “safety center” when life feels triggering * A compassionate reframe for people who hurt us * What it means to break cycles of emotional and energetic harm * The powerful shift from seeking safety externally to sourcing it from within This one is tender, grounding, and deeply validating — especially if you’re learning how to hold onto yourself in moments that once would have unraveled you. After listening, comment and let me know what spoke to you the most. Signs that came out: * Capricorn * Aquarius * Gemini * Virgo But these do not exclude anyone. If you feel resonance, this message is meant for you, regardless of your sign. Possible Next Steps * Tap into your inherent ease, trust, and abundance with instantly downloadable EFT rituals [https://thetapping.club/tapping-rituals]. Try this Morning Ease [https://thetapping.club/b/morningtappingforanxiety] Tapping ritual. * Book a private tapping & tarot session with me. [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth] We take a deep dive into the subconscious resistance keeping you disconnected from trusting yourself, and finally transform that energy into peace and confidence If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]