What Death Teaches You About Actually Living | Jermaine Ee

What Death Teaches You About Actually Living | Jermaine Ee

Most people do not think about estate planning until someone dies. And most people do not think about living intentionally until it is almost too late. Jermaine Ee thinks that is exactly backwards. Jermaine is the founder of Heirlight — a platform that makes estate planning accessible to everyone, not just the wealthy — and his journey to building it started with a single conversation with his mother that changed how he saw everything. Money. Legacy. Purpose. Time. What it actually means to live a life that was yours and not someone else's idea of what yours should look like. This episode is not really about estate planning. It is about what happens when you stop avoiding the uncomfortable questions — about death, about money, about whether the life you are building is the one you actually want — and start using those questions as a compass instead. Connect with Jermaine Ee:  https://heirlight.com/en https://www.linkedin.com/in/eejermaine/ https://www.eejermaine.com/ If you have ever felt like you are chasing a version of success that does not quite fit, or like you are moving fast but not sure where you are actually going — this conversation is going to slow you down in the best possible way. In this episode: — Jermaine's personal story of loss, legacy, and what it took to build Heirlight — Why estate planning is not just for the wealthy or the old — it is for everyone right now — How to identify your own North Star and start living with genuine intention — Breaking free from societal definitions of success and building your own — The power of writing your own eulogy — and what it reveals about how you are actually living — Practical steps to start managing money with purpose — zero to one not zero to a hundred — How cultural background and environment quietly shape what we believe we are allowed to want — Why simplicity and gratitude consistently produce more happiness than achievement alone — How grief can become the fuel for a more intentional and purposeful life — What confronting mortality actually does to the way you show up every single day Timestamps: 00:00 — Meet Jermaine Ee and the story behind Heirlight 00:23 — The conversation with his mom that started everything 01:25 — Why everyone regardless of age should be thinking about money and legacy 02:02 — Estate planning is not just for the rich or the old — here is why it matters now 03:12 — Why talking about death early changes how you live 04:07 — Why money management feels taboo and how to flip the script 05:19 — Money and happiness — instant gratification versus long term fulfillment 07:23 — The traps people fall into with money and how to break free 08:49 — Personal stories of saving spending and the cultural narratives shaping our choices 10:12 — The dilemma of saving versus spending — how to live fully until the end 11:07 — Designing life with intention and the power of meaningful goals 12:24 — How reflecting on death redefines what success actually means 13:23 — Confronting mortality and building a legacy through intentional living 15:12 — Writing your own eulogy — and what it forces you to focus on 16:50 — Understanding your stories and the subconscious beliefs running your life 18:15 — How loss grief and gratitude guide us toward purpose 19:28 — The power of storytelling and sharing diverse narratives 22:30 — Processing grief and transforming pain into legacy building energy 24:22 — Controlling your energy and environment for more intentional living 26:17 — Challenging societal narratives about success and happiness 28:33 — The importance of surrounding yourself with purposeful influences 31:52 — How your environment and social circle shape your entire worldview 33:55 — How brands and societal signals define what we think success looks like 36:46 — The stories we tell ourselves and the subconscious beliefs underneath them 39:39 — Practicing clarity and self awareness to live with intention 40:49 — Family health and the simple moments that actually matter 44:49 — Making the most of the time you have 45:44 — Compassion for aging parents and navigating intergenerational expectations 47:16 — Simplifying estate planning — from zero to one with Heirlight 50:10 — How to connect with Jermaine and learn more If anything in this episode brought something up for you — support is available: 📞 Mental health and crisis support — call or text 988 📞 Substance use support — 1-800-662-4357 💬 Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741 The Zhen Podcast is mental wellness for people who are done being told to just think positive. Real conversations. Real healing. No filter. New episodes every week.

Narcissistic Environments Tried to Erase You. Here Is How To Come Back. | Taylor Simon

Most people think narcissistic abuse leaves bruises you can see. It does not. It leaves you questioning your own memory, doubting your own instincts, and slowly becoming a version of yourself that was built to survive someone else's needs rather than live your own life. Taylor Simon is a licensed therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery — and this conversation goes places most episodes on this topic do not. We talk about narcissistic family systems — the roles, the hierarchy, the way the scapegoat and the golden child are both harmed differently but equally. We talk about why culture shapes which abuse gets named and which gets normalized. And we talk about what it actually takes to come back to yourself — not just leave the relationship but rebuild the identity that was quietly replaced while you were in it. This is not a conversation about villains and victims. It is a conversation about patterns, neurobiology, somatic healing, and the very specific kind of self trust you have to rebuild when someone spent years dismantling it. If you grew up in a narcissistic family or have been in a narcissistic relationship — this episode is going to name things you have felt but never had words for. Connect with Taylor Simon: 💼 https://taylorstherapyservices.com/ 📱 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/taylor-eva-simon-san-francisco-ca/1254231 In this episode: 🔥 How narcissistic family systems operate — the scapegoat, the golden child, and the roles nobody asked for 🔥 How culture shapes which toxic family dynamics get normalized and which get challenged 🔥 Why your body knows something is wrong before your mind is willing to admit it 🔥 The gray rock method — what it is and how to use it to safely disengage from a narcissist 🔥 Somatic therapy and ketamine assisted psychotherapy for healing deep relational trauma 🔥 The neurobiology behind why we keep choosing familiar patterns even when we know better 🔥 How to move from fixing others to building genuine self trust and self love 🔥 Practical first steps for setting boundaries and beginning the recovery process today 🔥 What parental favoritism actually does to a child's identity long term 🔥 How to advocate for yourself safely when you are still living with a narcissistic parent 🔥 What divesting from a toxic family system actually looks like in real life Timestamps: 00:00 — How narcissists seek supply in relationships and what that actually means 00:12 — Values based connection versus transactional connection — the real difference 00:20 — How narcissistic family systems form and the roles inside them 02:24 — Identifying narcissistic traits in family and romantic relationships 03:25 — Family hierarchy and homeostasis in narcissistic environments 05:17 — How family roles shape individual identity and adult relationships 08:01 — Culture's role in family dynamics — Western individualism versus collectivist cultures 10:42 — Grieving and accepting the family system as part of healing 12:08 — Listening to your body's signals to make healthier relationship decisions 14:11 — The importance of somatic awareness in trauma recovery 17:22 — How somatic therapy creates breakthroughs that talk therapy alone cannot 20:23 — Ketamine assisted psychotherapy and how it helps process relational trauma 24:46 — Why people repeat the cycle and choose narcissists even after therapy 26:09 — The neurobiology behind familiar patterns and building discernment 27:41 — Moving from fixing others to internal self trust and self love 30:16 — Practical first steps to begin self love and boundary setting today 31:54 — Recognizing signs of overly idealized or toxic relationships 33:34 — Privilege, participation, and family loyalty — the dynamics nobody talks about 34:09 — The reality of parental favoritism and how to navigate it as an adult 37:41 — How to advocate for yourself safely when living with a narcissistic parent 38:57 — The gray rock method and building independence from toxic systems 40:25 — Self trust, clarity, and the next steps in your healing journey If anything in this episode brought something up for you — support is available: 📞 Mental health and crisis support — call or text 988 📞 Substance use support — 1-800-662-4357 💬 Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741

You Are Not Insecure, Nobody Ever Taught You How To Trust Yourself. | Dr. Melissa Gressner

Most people think confidence is something you either have or you don't. That some people were just built with it and the rest of us are playing catch up. Dr. Melissa Gressner is a clinical psychologist who has spent her career proving that wrong. Core confidence — the kind that does not collapse when life gets hard — is not a personality trait. It is a skill. And it is built the same way every other skill is built. Through challenge. Through discomfort. Through doing the thing before you feel ready to do it. This episode is for anyone who has been waiting to feel confident before they start. Before they launch. Before they speak up. Before they take up space. Dr. Gressner explains why that wait is the very thing keeping you stuck — and what to do instead. If self-doubt, overthinking, fear of failure, or people pleasing have been running your life longer than you would like to admit — this conversation is going to hit differently. Connect with Dr. Melissa Gressner: 🌐 drgressner.com 📱 instagram.com/drmelissag  In this episode: — How core confidence is the real antidote to anxiety and fear — and why they cannot coexist — Why life's hardest challenges are actually the fastest path to authentic self-esteem — Small actionable steps to start building real confidence today — not someday — The difference between realistic positivity and toxic positivity — and why one works and one does not — How body awareness and somatic therapy deepen the confidence that talk alone cannot reach — How to recognize and overcome self-sabotage and the fear of your own success — Why overthinking and people pleasing are confidence killers — and how to interrupt both — How to become more decisive in everyday life starting with the smallest daily choices — Why waiting until you feel ready is the most expensive mistake you can make — What it actually means to build confidence from the inside out rather than performing it for everyone else Timestamps: 00:00 — Meet Dr. Melissa Gressner and the core confidence framework 00:42 — Dr. Gressner's background and journey into confidence work 01:36 — How life challenges actually foster confidence growth 02:12 — The trap of overthinking and prioritizing everyone else's happiness 03:54 — Recognizing the patterns that are not serving you and starting the journey 04:49 — Confidence is built through challenge not ease — here is why 07:14 — First steps — taking small risks outside your comfort zone 08:11 — Strategies for becoming more decisive starting today 09:34 — Paying attention to internal needs over external approval 10:35 — How to practice decisiveness in everyday choices 11:03 — Using language like "I don't want" to build real decision making skills 12:20 — The complexity of relaxation and nervous system triggers 13:41 — Moderation and understanding your own limits 14:43 — The importance of moderation in habits and self care 17:24 — Realistic positivity versus fake positivity — the real difference 18:19 — Transforming negative body image with intentional self talk 23:42 — External versus internal work in building self confidence 24:31 — The challenge of waiting for perfection before starting anything 25:12 — Taking imperfect action and learning through doing 26:08 — Launching with broken parts and fixing as you go 27:00 — Accepting that nobody has it all together — not even the people who look like they do 29:36 — Internal readiness over external perfection — why this matters 30:33 — The cost of waiting to feel good enough before starting 32:50 — The role of self awareness in genuine growth 33:55 — Integrating mind and body through somatic therapy 36:50 — Overcoming self sabotage and the fear of your own success 37:10 — Practical tips for authentic self expression and showing up fully If anything in this episode brought something up for you — support is available: 📞 Mental health and crisis support — call or text 988 📞 Substance use support — 1-800-662-4357 💬 Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741 The Zhen Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/22u3kw2YjsF3RUZvAZwc4D [https://open.spotify.com/show/22u3kw2YjsF3RUZvAZwc4D] The Zhen Podcast is mental wellness for people who are done being told to just think positive. Real conversations. Real healing. No filter. New episodes every week.

They Lied. How To Recognize A Narcissistic Relationship. | Taylor Simon

If you have ever left a conversation feeling like you completely lost your grip on reality — you were not imagining it. That was intentional. Taylor Simon is a therapist and psychedelic researcher who has spent years working with survivors of narcissistic abuse — and what he will tell you in this episode is something most people do not hear until years after they have already left. Narcissism is not just about someone being selfish or difficult. It is a calculated system of manipulation designed to make you doubt your own perception, abandon your own needs, and stay loyal to someone who is actively harming you. This episode breaks down the full spectrum of narcissistic behavior — from the grandiose and obvious to the covert and invisible. It explains why narcissists manipulate therapy itself to avoid accountability, what the red flags actually look like before you have the language for them, and what it takes to get out safely and rebuild a relationship with your own reality. If you have ever wondered whether you were the problem — this episode is going to answer that question once and for all. Connect with Taylor Simon: 🌐 taylorstherapyservices.com 📱  In this episode: 🔥 The full spectrum of narcissistic behavior — from grandiose to covert and everything in between 🔥 Why narcissists sabotage therapy — and how they manipulate the therapeutic relationship itself 🔥 The red flags that distinguish a true personality disorder from a wound that needs compassion 🔥 How to safely exit a narcissistic relationship and protect yourself physically and emotionally 🔥 The deep psychological survival strategies that keep victims trapped in cycles of abuse 🔥 How to reconnect with your internal voice and rebuild self-trust after narcissistic trauma 🔥 How childhood environments create narcissistic behavior and the generational cycles they produce 🔥 Inner child work — how to heal from betrayal and restore your sense of worth 🔥 Why you were attracted to the narcissist in the first place — and what that actually means about you 🔥 What reclaiming your inner power actually looks like on the other side of narcissistic abuse Timestamps: 00:00 — Welcome and introduction to narcissistic abuse recovery 02:10 — How narcissists emerge and how to recognize their traits 04:19 — Why narcissists sabotage therapy — and what happens when they are challenged 06:52 — The spectrum of narcissistic behavior and the empathy deficit 09:10 — Childhood roots and family dynamics that shape narcissism 11:04 — Are you self-diagnosing narcissistic traits — what to know 13:01 — Why we are attracted to narcissists' power and what to watch for 15:28 — Charisma, confidence, and the dangerous red flags hiding underneath 16:43 — The consciousness and strategy behind narcissistic abuse 18:09 — Why breaks in therapy are healthy and when to step back 20:14 — How to safely exit a narcissistic relationship and protect your future 23:04 — Building intuitive strength and self-validation from the inside out 26:26 — Practical steps to heal, rebuild identity, and trust yourself again 29:02 — Listening to your body's cues and embodying your inner voice 33:00 — Overcoming compulsive behaviors and meeting inner needs 36:12 — Reclaiming power and self-parenting your inner child 37:48 — Reorganizing your inner world for lasting self-trust 41:17 — Processing deep emotional wounds and moving forward 44:17 — Inner validation and inner child work to reclaim your reality 45:57 — You are the one you have been waiting for If anything in this episode brought something up for you — support is available: 📞 Mental health and crisis support — call or text 988 📞 Substance use support — 1-800-662-4357 💬 Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741 The Zhen Podcast is mental wellness for people who are done being told to just think positive. Real conversations. Real healing. No filter. New episodes every week — follow so you never miss one.

The Career You Were Meant For Has Been There The Whole Time | Randi Benator

Most people did not choose their career. They fell into it. Someone suggested it. It paid well enough. It made sense at the time. And now they are ten or twenty years in wondering how they got here and whether it is too late to do something that actually fits. Randi Benator is a career and life transition coach and the author of Awaken to Your Calling: A Guide to Discovering Your Career Path and Life Direction. She has spent years helping people answer the question that nobody teaches you how to answer — what am I actually supposed to be doing with my life? And what she will tell you is that the answer is almost never a lightning bolt moment. It is a process. And it is more accessible than most people think. This is not an episode about quitting your job tomorrow. It is an episode about getting honest about what is not working — sometimes taking a leap is the way to go for someone depending on their circumstances and sometimes the building the bridge is the best way. If you have ever felt like you are living someone else's life — this one is for you. Connect with Randi Benator:  🌐 careerandlifetransitions.com  📖 careerandlifetransitions.com/book.html  📞 415-924-4944 In this episode: 🔥 Why most people are stuck in unfulfilling careers — and the real reason they stay 🔥 The myth of a single calling — why your purpose is allowed to evolve across life stages 🔥 How to balance active pursuit and receptive patience when building something new 🔥 The common pitfalls that keep people from following what actually lights them up 🔥 sometimes taking a leap is the way to go for someone depending on their circumstances and sometimes the building the bridge is the best way. 🔥 Real life stories of career pivots that defied every societal expectation 🔥 How to get clear on your interests, talents, and what you are actually built for 🔥 How to manage the fear — the money, the seniority, the what will people think 🔥 Why mid life is not too late — it is actually the perfect time 🔥 What self awareness has to do with finding work that actually feels like yours Timestamps: 00:00 — Meet Randi Benator — career and life transition coach 02:22 — Why everyone needs to find their real path and the cost of settling 04:24 — Matching your work to your authentic self — what that actually means 08:48 — The evolving calling — why your purpose changes and that is completely okay 12:28 — Why so many people stay stuck in careers that never fit them 15:17 — Recognizing the signs that you need a major career shift 17:14 — Navigating fear, finances, and timing when changing careers 33:58 — The balance between taking action and trusting the process 41:36 — sometimes taking a leap is the way to go for someone depending on their circumstances and sometimes the building the bridge is the best way. If anything in this episode brought something up for you — support is available: 📞 Mental health and crisis support — call or text 988 📞 Substance use support — 1-800-662-4357 💬 Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741 The Zhen Podcast is mental wellness for people who are done being told to just think positive. Real conversations. Real healing. No filter. New episodes every week — follow so you never miss one. 🖤