#117: Kink Isn't Just About Pain (The 4 Types of Turn On)

#119: New Erototypes for Taboo, Sensation & Transformation

Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one.  Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks based on your suggestions, and built something new that I think you're going to love.  Download the free updated guide at harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]. [https://harleyrabbit.com/erototypes-sign-up/] And once you've picked your cards, head to harleyrabbit.com/my-erototypes [https://harleyrabbit.com/my-erototypes] to generate your shareable hand. 🃏 xx Harley 🐰 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#118: Where Fetishes Come From – And Why I'm Now Into PJ's

This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're just kink-curious, this one's for you. Grab your comfiest PJs and tune in. 🐰 Don't forget to grab my free Erototypes guide here [https://harleyrabbit.com/discover-erototypes/], or visit harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/] — a new updated version is coming soon! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#117: Kink Isn't Just About Pain (The 4 Types of Turn On)

Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several. That’s the point. Desire isn’t one thing — and the more you understand your own, the more fun this whole world becomes. 👉 Download your free Guide to Erototypes [https://harleyrabbit.com/discover-erototypes/] 👉 Ready to go deeper? Try the Discover Your Erototypes workshop [https://harleyrabbit.com/erototypes-workshop/] xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#116: Introducing Erototypes: A Playful Way to Understand What Turns You On

Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism. Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting! If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide [https://harleyrabbit.com/erototypes-sign-up/] or visit harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/] and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#115: What Actually Makes Kinky Relationships Feel Secure

Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours. Mentioned in this Episode: Polysecure - by Jessica Fern xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]