Ep. 169 Freedom From Disappointment

Ep. 169 Freedom From Disappointment

I have a rule: if somebody's going to be disappointed by my decisions, let it not be me. In this episode, I'm talking about one of the most common reasons smart, capable people hold back — the fear of being disappointed. Aka, a feeling. Protecting yourself from disappointment doesn't actually protect you. It just moves the disappointment earlier. You're already deciding you can't have what you want. In this episode I cover: * Why "lowering your goal so you're not disappointed" is still disappointing yourself * The real questions to ask when you're holding back * My SPACE framework for actually feeling your feelings  * The thought work piece * Why "having your back" is one of the most strategic things you can do If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please follow, rate, and review Unblocked. It helps more people find these conversations and keeps this work going. RESOURCES: * Order my #1 New Release book In Pursuit [https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-After-Alive-Aligned-Fully-ebook/dp/B0FR2QK8XP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9SOXI5PJOXM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xv5hTCXuQkLmRPIxWEu-EA.Uj6CH7EVsb2TXJj0WoYr4FoLedMK5hfWWIl29RHdvcI&dib_tag=se&keywords=in+pursuit+jessica+smarro&qid=1758646954&sprefix=jessica+smarro%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor] (chapter 6 goes in depth on emotional freedom) * Click here [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/free-the-feelings] for the Free the Feelings video and worksheets I mentioned * Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal  [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/unblocked-journal]to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life. * Join My Do The Thing Community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/getunblocked] - join the group and drop your questions from the pod WANT MORE SUPPORT? If this episode resonated with you and you want deeper, personalized support, you can learn more about working with me at jessicasmarro.com [https://jessicasmarro.com/] STAY CONNECTED: * Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @jessicasmarro * Share this episode and tag me with what landed for you Let's Get Unblocked!

Ep. 168 What Comparison is Actually Trying to Tell You

You're watching someone else do the thing you want to do, and they're doing it better than you. So your brain, being your brain, lands on "well, that must mean I suck." In this episode, I unpack why comparison doesn't have to mean what you think it means and why "they're better than me" doesn't have to end with "so I'm terrible." In this episode you'll hear my personal example plus the client conversation that sparked the whole episode. What you'll take away: * Why someone being better at something than you doesn't mean you're not good * How to use comparison as data instead of a problem * The question to ask yourself before you go looking for what they do better * Why zero-sum thinking tanks your growth If comparison tends to put you in a spiral, this one's for you. If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please follow, rate, and review Unblocked. It helps more people find these conversations and keeps this work going. RESOURCES: * Order my #1 New Release book In Pursuit [https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-After-Alive-Aligned-Fully-ebook/dp/B0FR2QK8XP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9SOXI5PJOXM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xv5hTCXuQkLmRPIxWEu-EA.Uj6CH7EVsb2TXJj0WoYr4FoLedMK5hfWWIl29RHdvcI&dib_tag=se&keywords=in+pursuit+jessica+smarro&qid=1758646954&sprefix=jessica+smarro%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor] * Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal  [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/unblocked-journal]to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life. * Join My Do The Thing Community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/getunblocked]  WANT MORE SUPPORT? If this episode resonated with you and you want deeper, personalized support, you can learn more about working with me at jessicasmarro.com [https://jessicasmarro.com/] STAY CONNECTED: * Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @jessicasmarro * Share this episode and tag me with what landed for you Let's Get Unblocked!

Ep. 167 We Were in Rachel Hollis's Room. Here's What We Actually Took Home.

A few weeks ago, my guest and I were in the same room in Austin for Rachel Hollis's Rise Elevate conference. Today we're unpacking what actually happened including the honest parts that not every would say out loud. This is a real conversation between two women who showed up nervous, got cracked open, and came home with more than they expected.  IN THIS EPISODE: * What it actually feels like to walk into a room full of strangers and try to be brave...even when you're a confident, high-achieving woman * The writing exercise that created an aha moment * Why Rachel pricing drama is one of the most relatable things she shared from stage and what it means for every woman who's ever undercharged * "There are no fairy godmothers," Asia's keynote philosophy and the 2026 goal she called out loud * What actually keeps the conference magic alive after you go home -- It's less sexy than you think * "Something doesn't have to be wrong for it to not be right for you" -- a note on outgrowing rooms, relationships, and containers If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please follow, rate, and review Unblocked. It helps more people find these conversations and keeps this work going. RESOURCES: * Order my #1 New Release book In Pursuit [https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-After-Alive-Aligned-Fully-ebook/dp/B0FR2QK8XP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9SOXI5PJOXM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xv5hTCXuQkLmRPIxWEu-EA.Uj6CH7EVsb2TXJj0WoYr4FoLedMK5hfWWIl29RHdvcI&dib_tag=se&keywords=in+pursuit+jessica+smarro&qid=1758646954&sprefix=jessica+smarro%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor] * Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal  [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/unblocked-journal]to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life. * Join My Do The Thing Community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/getunblocked]  WANT MORE SUPPORT? If this episode resonated with you and you want deeper, personalized support, you can learn more about working with me at jessicasmarro.com [https://jessicasmarro.com/] STAY CONNECTED: * Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @jessicasmarro * Share this episode and tag me with what landed for you ABOUT ASIA GENTRY Asia Gentry is a speaker and resilience advocate whose keynote, There Are No Fairy Godmothers, is about doing the hard thing without waiting to be rescued. Find her on Instagram: @as.told.by.asia Let's Get Unblocked!

Ep. 166 How I Coached Myself Two Hours Before Recording This, Arrival Addiction, & People Pleasing | Ask Me Anything

You submitted the questions. I answered them, including one I had to coach myself through two hours before hitting record. This episode covers four listener questions on the stuff that actually keeps people stuck: the cycle of chasing confidence through goals that never deliver it, people-pleasing that survives every book and podcast and therapy session, how coaches get out of their own heads, and what to do when life feels too good to be true. IN THIS EPISODE: * Why saying "I am a people pleaser" is part of what's keeping you stuck  * Arrival Addiction: why you cannot out-perform or out-achieve a feeling, and what to do instead * Thoughts that create people-pleasing behaviors and the thoughts that don't * How I coached myself through a real spiral today using the thought model I teach  * What to do when life feels too good to be true  If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please follow, rate, and review Unblocked. It helps more people find these conversations and keeps this work going. Resources: * Order my #1 New Release book In Pursuit [https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-After-Alive-Aligned-Fully-ebook/dp/B0FR2QK8XP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9SOXI5PJOXM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xv5hTCXuQkLmRPIxWEu-EA.Uj6CH7EVsb2TXJj0WoYr4FoLedMK5hfWWIl29RHdvcI&dib_tag=se&keywords=in+pursuit+jessica+smarro&qid=1758646954&sprefix=jessica+smarro%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor] * Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal  [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/unblocked-journal]to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life. * Join My Do The Thing Community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/getunblocked]  Want more support? If this episode resonated with you and you want deeper, personalized support, you can learn more about working with me at jessicasmarro.com [https://jessicasmarro.com/] Stay connected: * Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @jessicasmarro * Share this episode and tag me with what landed for you Let's Get Unblocked!

Ep. 165 Why You Keep Quitting (It's Not What You Think)

You started strong. Then something didn't go the way you hoped and before you made a single conscious decision, you had already pulled back. That moment is where goals go to die, and I don't think we're talking enough about it. In this episode, I'm breaking down the Pursuit Cycle. This is the four-phase framework I use inside my coaching practice, and I'm showing you exactly where most people fall out of it.  What You'll Learn: * The single most dangerous moment in any pursuit  * Why your brain treats every setback like a verdict on your worth and how to interrupt it * The Pursuit Cycle: Bold Action → Intentional Belief → Deep Learning → Iteration * Why going back to action before you clean up your belief is the mistake that keeps the loop going * How to shorten the time you spend outside the cycle every time you fall out of it If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please follow, rate, and review Unblocked. It helps more people find these conversations and keeps this work going. Resources: * Order my #1 New Release book In Pursuit [https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-After-Alive-Aligned-Fully-ebook/dp/B0FR2QK8XP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9SOXI5PJOXM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xv5hTCXuQkLmRPIxWEu-EA.Uj6CH7EVsb2TXJj0WoYr4FoLedMK5hfWWIl29RHdvcI&dib_tag=se&keywords=in+pursuit+jessica+smarro&qid=1758646954&sprefix=jessica+smarro%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1#averageCustomerReviewsAnchor] * Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal  [https://jessicasmarrocoaching.com/unblocked-journal]to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life. * Join My Do The Thing Community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/getunblocked]  Want more support? If this episode resonated with you and you want deeper, personalized support, you can learn more about working with me at jessicasmarro.com [https://jessicasmarro.com/] Stay connected: * Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @jessicasmarro * Share this episode and tag me with what landed for you Let's Get Unblocked!