“I Lost My Dream Forever” | Grieving a Future We Never Had

“I Lost My Dream Forever” | Grieving a Future We Never Had

“There is a time to pick up your option B and be like, okay, my life can still be pretty f*cking beautiful.” Bexx and Noie take a step back to reflect on the dreams they've had to grieve and the futures they held onto long after those futures stopped being possible. From everything, including lost marriages and children, to lost versions of themselves, they dive into what it actually takes to let go of your ideations and accept life as you have it. That process can feel painful, but what comes next is beautiful. By talking about their personal experiences, Bexx and Noie dive into their ideas on post-traumatic growth, psychological flexibility, and "Option B" thinking. Through it all, they come to see that releasing a dream isn't giving up; it's making room for something you couldn't have imagined yet. Chapters [Start] Grieving a Future We Never Had: Bexx and Noie open up about the feeling of mourning an imagined future, not a person. 08:22 Why We're Bad at Predicting the Future: Some research on how humans overestimate both happiness and devastation. 17:24 Building New Dreams: A look at psychological flexibility and being okay with choosing plan B over plan A. 36:10 Post-Traumatic Growth: What it feels like to grow after experiencing traumatic and life-altering events. 50:31 Closing Challenge: Bexx and Noie give a challenge to everyone to help experience growth and reflect positively on life’s challenges. Links and Resources BlackHill Law [https://blackhill.law/] Contact BlackHill Law [https://blackhill.law/contact]  Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ [https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/] Instagram * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.instagram.com/bexx_n_noie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * Sunnybexx [https://www.instagram.com/sunnybexx?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * MommaNoie [https://www.instagram.com/mommanoie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] TikTok * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.tiktok.com/@bexxandnoie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Sunnybexx [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnybexx?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * MommaNoie [https://www.tiktok.com/@noreenjessop1?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Youtube * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://youtube.com/@unpackedandunfiltered-s1t?si=xEPMV3jvh2fCyuSL]  * Sunnybexx [https://youtube.com/@Sunnybexx] * MommaNoie [https://youtube.com/@noreenjessop-j5u?si=yq8kHKszu2HgPG2H]

Plant Your Own Roots | Finding Yourself and Growing Into Someone Better

“There's a reason why people are constantly searching for roots or constantly avoiding roots.” Bexx and Noie dive into the tension between craving stability and fearing it'll turn into a cage. Noie reflects on a message she received during a meditation in Bali, which sparks the question, “What does it really mean to feel rooted?” They trace the idea through attachment theory and the nervous system, unpacking why safety can feel more uncomfortable than chaos. They get into some genuinely vulnerable territory, including grief, past relationships, and the fear of losing freedom. Bexx and Noie close with a challenge for everyone to pick one area of your life this week and practice choosing rootedness on purpose, then get curious about whatever discomfort shows up. Chapters [Start] Finding True Roots: Bexx and Noie talk about different kinds of roots in our lives and how they help us find connection. 08:30 Attachment Theory: Looking at the differences between a secure base and having freedom to explore using the bird and butterfly metaphor. 19:53 Roots and Cages: Talking about relationship and commitment fears, including the difference between settling and choosing. 27:28 Learning to Be Alone: Noie opens up about how the losses of her children taught her how to sit in silence. 32:39 Closing Challenge: A one-week challenge to practice rootedness and notice how it influences different areas of your life. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ [https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/] Instagram * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.instagram.com/bexx_n_noie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * Sunnybexx [https://www.instagram.com/sunnybexx?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * MommaNoie [https://www.instagram.com/mommanoie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] TikTok * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.tiktok.com/@bexxandnoie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Sunnybexx [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnybexx?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * MommaNoie [https://www.tiktok.com/@noreenjessop1?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Youtube * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://youtube.com/@unpackedandunfiltered-s1t?si=xEPMV3jvh2fCyuSL]  * Sunnybexx [https://youtube.com/@Sunnybexx] * MommaNoie [https://youtube.com/@noreenjessop-j5u?si=yq8kHKszu2HgPG2H]

You Need to Fix Your Priorities | The Importance of Being Present

“Nothing surpasses that opportunity to witness another human being and be present with them.” Bexx and Noie talk about one of the biggest problems our society faces: distraction. They open up about phone usage and the strange way technology rewards us for leaving the present moment with those around us. They both draw on their personal experiences to unpack why being fully present with the people we love is so rare, yet so powerful when it happens. Their conversation explores the brain science behind why we're wired to chase safety and productivity rather than stillness. Noie shares some of the lessons she learned through profound loss in her family, and how that experience reshaped the way she parents and prioritizes her time. Being present isn’t hard to do. But it does take effort, even if it’s only for five minutes of your day. Chapters [Start] Phones at the Table: Bexx and Noie talk about what it’s like to be with someone who's fully present vs. distracted, and how it feels to be on either side. 08:52 The Science of Distraction: A look at Lisa Feldman Barrett’s research on why our brains are wired for safety, not presence. 16:34 Presence with Loved Ones: Some personal stories about what it means to be present with loved ones and the emotional impact it has. 27:48 The Five-Minute Challenge: Bexx and Noie issue a challenge that only takes five minutes of your day to help you be more present. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ [https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/] Instagram * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.instagram.com/bexx_n_noie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * Sunnybexx [https://www.instagram.com/sunnybexx?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * MommaNoie [https://www.instagram.com/mommanoie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] TikTok * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.tiktok.com/@bexxandnoie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Sunnybexx [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnybexx?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * MommaNoie [https://www.tiktok.com/@noreenjessop1?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Youtube * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://youtube.com/@unpackedandunfiltered-s1t?si=xEPMV3jvh2fCyuSL]  * Sunnybexx [https://youtube.com/@Sunnybexx] * MommaNoie [https://youtube.com/@noreenjessop-j5u?si=yq8kHKszu2HgPG2H]

The Pinterest Perfect Summer Trap | What Your Kids Actually Need This Summer

You need to stop creating the Pinterest-perfect summer, and here’s why. Bexx and Noie get together to swap nostalgic childhood summer memories and reflect on how different their summers felt compared to the overscheduled lives kids live today. They explore why so many parents dread the summer season. But rather than trying to make a perfect summer, they dive into what research says about boredom, creativity, and the nervous system's need for rest. Bexx and Noie talk about the mental load of having kids home all day, and why presence matters far more than planning. Bexx shares her perspective on counting the summers she has left with her kids, and Noie opens up about rediscovering the joy of a simple, unstructured summer. Take this as a reminder that the best summer memories are usually the ones nobody planned. Chapters [Start] The Summers We Grew Up With: Bexx and Noie compare their own childhood summer memories to the summers kids experience today. 08:03 Why Parents Dread Summer: The shift from summer joy to summer stress, referencing research on boredom, creativity, and overscheduling. 15:48 Good Inside: Talking about the pressure to create perfect summer experiences and why it’s more important to be present than to be perfect. 27:28 Why Parents Need Summer: Why parents need summer to disconnect from the routines and pressures of regular life during the school season. 35:10 Five Strategies for a Better Summer: Five practical approaches to help you have the best summer with your family. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ [https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/] Instagram * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.instagram.com/bexx_n_noie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * Sunnybexx [https://www.instagram.com/sunnybexx?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * MommaNoie [https://www.instagram.com/mommanoie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] TikTok * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.tiktok.com/@bexxandnoie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Sunnybexx [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnybexx?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * MommaNoie [https://www.tiktok.com/@noreenjessop1?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Youtube * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://youtube.com/@unpackedandunfiltered-s1t?si=xEPMV3jvh2fCyuSL]  * Sunnybexx [https://youtube.com/@Sunnybexx] * MommaNoie [https://youtube.com/@noreenjessop-j5u?si=yq8kHKszu2HgPG2H]

Find Your True Joy | How to Get Rid of Negativity with Amanda Gore

“How you feel about yourself is the most important thing in your life.”  Bexx and Noie sit down with Australian speaker and joy advocate Amanda Gore, a friend Bexx met on her trip to Egypt. Together, they share everything from laughter and travel stories to some of the deepest questions about love, fear, belonging, and what it means to truly see another person. Amanda brings 38 years of speaking experience and a background in physiotherapy, psychology, neurolinguistics, epigenetics, and quantum physics to this conversation. She shares the concept of three core fears that drive most human behavior, the idea that every person is a being of light, and why joy is a measurable performance driver. No matter where you are in your life journey, Amanda’s insights are a mirror and a map to living your most joyous life. Chapters [Start] The Egypt Connection: Bexx and Noie welcome Amanda Gore, who met Bexx on her recent trip to Egypt. 08:14 The Art of Truly Seeing People: What it means to really see others, and how a shift in perception can change how you move through the world. 27:11 Three Core Fears: Three fears embedded in childhood that quietly run and shape adult behavior. 38:56 The Malware Metaphor: How the cycle of fear and judgment shapes us as we age, and what it actually takes to let love in. 57:43 Amanda’s Core Takeaway: Amanda offers her most important piece of advice to start becoming the best version of yourself. Links and Resources Connect with Amanda Gore A Hall of Fame speaker, creator of Amanda Gore JQ and global expert on connection, communication, and performance, Amanda Gore helps leaders transform fear into trust and workplaces into joyful, high-performing cultures. She creates unforgettable experiences that combine science, stories, and contagious energy and humor to get people engaged, aligned, and inspired to change their lives and deliver results. Contact her on www.amandagore.com [http://www.amandagore.com] Honorable Mention: Michelle Robinson (Seer) https://www.apathwaytoknowing.com/ [https://www.apathwaytoknowing.com/] Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/  [https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/] https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.instagram.com/bexx_n_noie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * Sunnybexx [https://www.instagram.com/sunnybexx?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] * MommaNoie [https://www.instagram.com/mommanoie?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] TikTok * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://www.tiktok.com/@bexxandnoie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * Sunnybexx [https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnybexx?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * MommaNoie [https://www.tiktok.com/@noreenjessop1?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Youtube * Unpacked and Unfiltered [https://youtube.com/@unpackedandunfiltered-s1t?si=xEPMV3jvh2fCyuSL]  * Sunnybexx [https://youtube.com/@Sunnybexx] * MommaNoie [https://youtube.com/@noreenjessop-j5u?si=yq8kHKszu2HgPG2H]