EP 150: The Nervous System: You're Not Regulating, You're Avoiding

EP 150: The Nervous System: You're Not Regulating, You're Avoiding

Have you ever canceled plans and told yourself it was to "keep your peace" or avoided something that dysregulated your nervous system? In this episode, Amanda breaks down the real difference between regulation and avoidance and how to strengthen your capacity and resilience. KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Regulation means staying in the hard moment; avoidance means leaving it. We've started using one word to justify the other. * Notice before you exit. Use the Wake Up To Your Life Model and ask: what's happening around me, to me, within me? Half the time it's not "unsafe," it's "unfamiliar." * Widen your window of tolerance (Dr. Dan Siegel) in small, everyday moments. * Regulated doesn't always mean feeling calm.  RESOURCES: Download the FREE Expectation vs. Reality Workbook [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/expectations] Subscribe and Follow Amanda's Substack [https://amandakfoust.substack.com/] Wake Up To Your Life Coaching [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/] Highest Potential Planner [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/highestpotentialplanner] Email support@wakeuptoyourlife.co [support@wakeuptoyourlife.co] and let's connect! Follow along on the 'gram @wakeuptoyourlife_ [https://www.instagram.com/wakeuptoyourlife_/]

EP 149: The Difference Between Achievement and Real Impact (And What Your Brain Has to Do With It)

What if the fulfillment you've been chasing through achievement was never going to get you there, and your brain has the science to prove it? In this episode, Amanda shares what she experienced at a recent conference with the Attachment & Trauma Network in Dallas, and why being surrounded by people living for genuine service and sacrifice was inspiring.  Key Takeaways: * The neurological difference between achievement and genuine generosity * Why dopamine keeps us motivated but was never designed to make us feel fulfilled * How Dan Siegel's MWe concept explains why living only for personal achievement keeps us from the integration where we feel most whole and most alive * What it means to wake up to what's happening around you and why so many of us are asleep to the needs right in front of us * Two honest reflection questions to sit with this week about what you're doing with what you've been given RESOURCES: Download the FREE Expectation vs. Reality Workbook [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/expectations] Attachment & Trauma Network [https://attachmenttraumanetwork.org/] Subscribe and Follow Amanda's Substack [https://amandakfoust.substack.com/] Wake Up To Your Life Coaching [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/] Highest Potential Planner [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/highestpotentialplanner] Email support@wakeuptoyourlife.co [support@wakeuptoyourlife.co] and let's connect! Follow along on the 'gram @wakeuptoyourlife_ [https://www.instagram.com/wakeuptoyourlife_/]

EP 148: If You're Feeling Lost, Here's What To Do

We all run from feeling lost, but what if clarity is actually found on the other side of embracing it, not avoiding it? In this episode, Amanda shares a perspective shift that came to her on her back porch this summer, and introduces a simple mindset tool that can completely change how you experience uncertainty without changing your circumstances. KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Why our usual responses to feeling lost tend to keep us stuck rather than help us move forward * The "explorer" mindset shift: what it looks like to get curious about a lost season instead of running from it * Why what we notice in a lost season often reveals more about who we are becoming than where we're headed * How spiritual formation and feeling lost can coexist, and why God cares more about who you're becoming than the direction you're headed RESOURCES: Summber Survival Kit [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/fpvjx78dqe] Subscribe and Follow Amanda's Substack [https://amandakfoust.substack.com/] Wake Up To Your Life Coaching [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/] Highest Potential Planner [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/highestpotentialplanner] Download the FREE Expectation vs. Reality Workbook [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/expectations] Email support@wakeuptoyourlife.co [support@wakeuptoyourlife.co] and let's connect! Follow along on the 'gram @wakeuptoyourlife_ [https://www.instagram.com/wakeuptoyourlife_/]

EP 147: What You've Been Avoiding Might Be the Way Through — with Emily Bailey

In this special interview episode, Amanda sits down with fellow coach and dear friend Emily Bailey to talk about what happens when the thing you've been running from becomes impossible to avoid. Emily shares her own journey of recognizing that she had been labeling lack as dangerous, and how changing her relationship with it gave her a freedom she had been chasing in all the wrong places. KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Why labeling an emotion as "dangerous" keeps you stuck in avoidance, and what it looks like to finally stop running from it and change your relationship around it * The three-part process Emily used to move through lack and how you can apply this to whatever you have been avoiding * Why dignity isn't something you earn when you reach your goal; it belongs to you right now, in the middle of the process * The difference between being rescued from a hard season and moving through it with intention  RESOURCES: Emily Bailey's Sacred Disruption Summit: https://www.wholeandwild.com/sacred-disruption-summit [https://www.wholeandwild.com/sacred-disruption-summit] Download the FREE Expectation vs. Reality Workbook [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/expectations] Wake Up To Your Life Coaching [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/] Highest Potential Planner [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/highestpotentialplanner] Email support@wakeuptoyourlife.co [support@wakeuptoyourlife.co] and let's connect! Follow along on the 'gram @wakeuptoyourlife_ [https://www.instagram.com/wakeuptoyourlife_/]

EP 146: The Real Reason You Feel Disconnected From the Life You've Built

You're doing everything right, and something still feels off. That's not a motivation problem or a discipline problem; it's a self-leadership problem. In this episode, Amanda digs into the brain science behind why so many people feel disconnected from the lives they've worked so hard to build, and walks you through four tools to start filling back up. Key Takeaways: * Most high performers are pouring out constantly without refilling, and personal development rarely teaches you how to stay full in real time without an elaborate self-care routine. * Self-leadership is actively developing a confident sense of who you are, taking ownership of what you do, and being intentional about how you grow and how you're feeling about your life is directly connected to it * Neuroplasticity means the patterns you've been running don't have to keep running, but rewiring requires awareness, repetition, and time * Discover 4 tools that you can use in just a few minutes a day to fill yourself back up. Resources: Wake Up To Your Life Coaching [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/] Highest Potential Planner [https://www.wakeuptoyourlife.co/highestpotentialplanner] Download the FREE Expectation vs. Reality Workbook [https://wakeuptoyourlife.myflodesk.com/expectations] Subscribe and Follow Amanda's Substack [https://amandakfoust.substack.com/] Email support@wakeuptoyourlife.co [support@wakeuptoyourlife.co] and let's connect! Follow along on the 'gram @wakeuptoyourlife_ [https://www.instagram.com/wakeuptoyourlife_/]