Your Parenting Long Game

Have you ever wondered how your child can spend hours building a virtual world… yet when you ask them to do any daily task, they act like it's torture? In this episode, I explain the REAL reason your child resists everyday tasks and why it has nothing to do with laziness, disrespect, or lack of motivation. Once you understand how the brain responds to stimulation and Yuck, you’ll be able to shift from fighting your child’s resistance… to understanding it and leading them through it. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why your child’s brain sees boring tasks as “dangerous” and actively avoids them * The difference between motivation strategies and activation strategies and why one works while the other backfires * What you can start doing immediately to help your child cooperate more easily (and build confidence at the same time) --  Free cheat sheet: Helping Kids With Daily Tasks [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/cheatsheets] Free quiz: The "Everyday Routines" Quiz: What's Your Style? [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/quizzes] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

http://rachel-bailey.com/361When our kids resist, melt down, or push back, our instinct is to get them to calm down or cooperate...fast. We talk more, repeat rules, and try to convince them to “get it together.” But the more urgent we become, the more our kids resist and the harder everything feels. Fortunately, there a quick shift can help you respond more effectively, and in a way that you don't regret.  In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why urgency fuels kids' resistance (and why it’s so hard to stop being urgent in the moment) * How to recognize when your own fight-or-flight response is taking over * A simple shift that helps you slow down so that you can regain influence and your child can calm down more quickly -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

When our kids are upset, we often suggest strategies to help them calm down or manage tough situations—like taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or breaking down assignments into smaller steps. But when those strategies don’t instantly erase the discomfort, both kids (and parents!) often conclude that “nothing works.” In this episode, you’ll learn: * How to assess whether a strategy really “works” or not (so kids stop insisting that nothing works!) * A powerful exercise you can try with your child to help them build tolerance for discomfort * Simple ways to introduce the idea of tolerance in everyday situations (like chores, screen time, or schoolwork) -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

When you're raising a child with big emotions, it’s natural for an "easier" sibling to get less of your time and attention. But a more flexible child may pay a quiet price -- giving in to avoid conflict, hiding their feelings, or believing they matter less. Chances are, you've noticed that but aren't sure what to do.  Fortunately, a few small shifts can make a big difference in how they view themselves (and will can make you feel less guilty).  In this episode, you’ll learn how to: * Spot the signs that an "easier" child is struggling * Show them that they matter (even if you've told them and it hasn't helped) * Help them learn to stand up for themselves -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you’re raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

If you’re raising a child with big emotions, you know how draining it can be when they melt down, argue, refuse to cooperate, or fall apart after the smallest setback. It’s easy to assume these behaviors are defiance, disrespect, or laziness… but most of the time, they’re actually signs that your child is missing something that you can provide! In this episode, you’ll learn: * The two main sets of skills kids with big emotions often lack * How to recognize behaviors that signal a missing skill rather than misbehavior * Why addressing missing skills reduces drama now and builds your child’s long-term confidence and self-esteem --  FREE WORKSHOP: Stop Working So Hard to Get Your Kids to Calm Down [https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/CXHcNqXpQLy9gfvqSeDzZA] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]